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There are enough of these woe is me posts to open an Oprah/Dr Phil section.
Has anyone quit pooning?
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There are enough of these woe is me posts to open an Oprah/Dr Phil section.
Being good looking is not a factor of self-esteem, believe it or not. Self-confidence is an inside job. It's affected by our childhood/upbringing, and early life experiences.
Tips? Go do some work on yourself. Take some time to find the right books to read, or find some self-development courses to take. You probably have a lot going for you, but you need to feel good about yourself, and what you have to offer to others, women in particular! All the best to you... :thumb:
I don't endorse dealing with western civilian girls, but if you're going to do it, avoid nightclubs and online dating. They merely sell the illusion of sex. Girls are only looking to date 2-3 points up in these venues.
Your best bet would be joining a social club (e.g. activism, swing dancing) at ubc. There might be some shy, slightly chubby nerd girl there who'll give you a chance.
If you need a girl with a slim waist and nice ass, though, you're probably out of luck and should just stick with sp's.
Your best bet would be joining a social club (e.g. activism, swing dancing) at ubc. There might be some shy, slightly chubby nerd girl there who'll give you a chance.
If you need a girl with a slim waist and nice ass, though, you're probably out of luck and should just stick with sp's.
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I often think of quitting this hobby, and have told myself many times..how much money would i have in the bank now if I didn't poon?...
It's staggering to do the math and realize how much money I have gone through over the years from seeing escorts. Did I have fun? Yes, most of the time.
Have I seen some really hot ladies I probably would never have banged in everyday life? Yes, most definitely.
So I guess as often as I think about quitting, I have a hard time stopping for one woman when there is a plethora of beautiful women out there, and new ones coming on the scene all the time.
But, I still can't help but wonder. What my life would be like if I had never ventured into this hobby. Certainly not as interesting...lol
It's staggering to do the math and realize how much money I have gone through over the years from seeing escorts. Did I have fun? Yes, most of the time.
Have I seen some really hot ladies I probably would never have banged in everyday life? Yes, most definitely.
So I guess as often as I think about quitting, I have a hard time stopping for one woman when there is a plethora of beautiful women out there, and new ones coming on the scene all the time.
But, I still can't help but wonder. What my life would be like if I had never ventured into this hobby. Certainly not as interesting...lol
Maybe try stop having fs and just go with bj and hj for awhile. Thats what I am doing, haven't had fs since November and only 2 bjs since.
I always regretted seeing a sp after, and could never sleep that night. I know that I lack self confidence around girls, I think I just need more practice!
Good luck!
I always regretted seeing a sp after, and could never sleep that night. I know that I lack self confidence around girls, I think I just need more practice!
Good luck!
If it's an addiction that's really ruining your life, get help, get on some meds etc. You can get your account permanently blocked from sites like perb or you can try and lock your computer down with software but that's like the fox guarding the henhouse.
If you're attractive and you've got money, your best days are never behind you.
Escorts can be fun training wheels but maybe you're doing it wrong. If you're good looking you should already be having some better than average fun with the girl, if not you're certainly not learning anything with them. Some are down to business quickly but some are chattier and you can build some rapport, be able to make some sort of connection. Treat it like it's a real date and she's a real sweetheart, like you need to seduce her. More fun for you both. Repeat with a girl you like a few times and see if you learn anything. Learn how to fuck while you're at it too.
Maybe you're already past that and all the fake shit is driving you crazy. Well then work on yourself, deal with your shit, your game etc. Nothing but your own self limiting beliefs that are stopping you. Start at the bottom and work your way up. If you need an escort, make it a treat or for a dry spell, not a habit.
And if it turns out you're a sex addict, well at least you'll be getting some for free!
This is a very good post.
It should give all pooners pause to reflect upon the $$$ they spend and the the effect upon their lives.
If you are pooning more and not making the mortgage, there is a problem.
Great post sharky.
Thanks badbad. I never meant to put people on the defensive with that post. It is just something that pooners should consider, and it is a decision that the must make for themselves.
I know that I am an addict. I know this because I don't want to poon, but I do it anyway. My thoughts are compulsive and I must use all my tools to get out of those thought patterns. Before I realized the addiction, I was "unconscious" about it. Pooning was just something I did, like brushing teeth. Denial is a very strong thing.
I had about 5 months of sobriety but on Feb 28 I slipped and pooned. Chose not to write a review about it.
I agree with you Gord. Of course not everyone does it for the same reason. Not all pooners are addicts. But pooning is not the only manifestation of sex addiction. Internet pornography (the "crack-cocaine" of sex addiction), compulsive masterbation, constant affair-seeking, etc., or any combination of them, are behaviours that, if compulsive, are common in the addiction.
Also, there are varying levels of addiction. For example, I never spent money I didn't have, and was always able to pay bills, mortgage, etc. I still spent about $25,000/year on pooning and affair-seeking, and my life would have been much better in all ways if I didn't do this. The constant lying and covering up, and the constant fear of getting caught, and the increased risks I would take all took a toll. Very very stressful stuff.
Telling the truth and not having to lie is a far more easy way to get through life.
Thanks for allowing me an outlet for all this. To those pooners who could stop at any time of their choosing, poon on and enjoy.
I was searching for sex addiction and came across your post, any luck with quitting?Thanks badbad. I never meant to put people on the defensive with that post. It is just something that pooners should consider, and it is a decision that the must make for themselves.
I know that I am an addict. I know this because I don't want to poon, but I do it anyway. My thoughts are compulsive and I must use all my tools to get out of those thought patterns. Before I realized the addiction, I was "unconscious" about it. Pooning was just something I did, like brushing teeth. Denial is a very strong thing.
I had about 5 months of sobriety but on Feb 28 I slipped and pooned. Chose not to write a review about it.
I agree with you Gord. Of course not everyone does it for the same reason. Not all pooners are addicts. But pooning is not the only manifestation of sex addiction. Internet pornography (the "crack-cocaine" of sex addiction), compulsive masterbation, constant affair-seeking, etc., or any combination of them, are behaviours that, if compulsive, are common in the addiction.
Also, there are varying levels of addiction. For example, I never spent money I didn't have, and was always able to pay bills, mortgage, etc. I still spent about $25,000/year on pooning and affair-seeking, and my life would have been much better in all ways if I didn't do this. The constant lying and covering up, and the constant fear of getting caught, and the increased risks I would take all took a toll. Very very stressful stuff.
Telling the truth and not having to lie is a far more easy way to get through life.
Thanks for allowing me an outlet for all this. To those pooners who could stop at any time of their choosing, poon on and enjoy.
$25K/year on pooning is a lot of money.
I think its a Hindu philosphy, get it out of your system, just do it, and then you will come to your senses. But they believe in reincarnation. So you can waste a life, being bad and just a useless ass.
The rest of us non-believers don't have a life to waste. So hopefully sooner rather then latter, you will realize how much you waste chasing pussy and or paying for it.
I don't know but there a lot more things out there,
Its funny the evolution I mean the thought processses we go through in this hobby.
We will risk anything pay any amount when we start, we get crazy we spend over our budget find a favorite girl.
Loose it for awhile then look for a way out.
Or just slow way down.
I kind of like the Hindu thinking, just do it until its out of your system.
And brush your self off and say that is enough of that. Or be reborn again.
The rest of us non-believers don't have a life to waste. So hopefully sooner rather then latter, you will realize how much you waste chasing pussy and or paying for it.
I don't know but there a lot more things out there,
Its funny the evolution I mean the thought processses we go through in this hobby.
We will risk anything pay any amount when we start, we get crazy we spend over our budget find a favorite girl.
Loose it for awhile then look for a way out.
Or just slow way down.
I kind of like the Hindu thinking, just do it until its out of your system.
And brush your self off and say that is enough of that. Or be reborn again.
You know you have a problem when it affect your life. Once you realize you have a problem only then can you change it.
Sounds like you may need professional help.
my "regular" retired a couple of months ago. she had been hinting towards it a few times leading up to it. called her up one day, call went to voice mail, her ads dried up, etc. made an effort to find a new regular, couldn't establish any sort of chemistry with a new girl so it's safe to say i'm pretty much done with pooning. it's no loss to this board since i have't posted a "review" in years. i come here more for amusement more than anything else.
i don't think there's anyone here who is qualified to diagnose if anyone is an "addicted" to anything. all the wisdom you've read so far is shit you can pick up from a few episodes of Dr. Phil or Intervention. it's all silly pop psychology bullshit.
but since everyone else is spouting off their opinion, i guess i will too.
i'll lean on the side of caution and steer away from offering up the opinion that you're "addicted" to paying for sex. people are always going to take the path of least resistance to achieve or obtain what they want. anyone who says otherwise is just a liar.
you don't need counselling. you don't need "rehab". you don't need help.
here's the important part: you are your own worst enemy.
the truth is this "hobby" has made you a stronger person. a stronger person who should have more confidence than he gives himself credit for.
you see yourself in a negative light when you are the EXACT opposite.
i've always thought of this silly hobby as a means towards establishing a stable relationship with someone. you have reached the point where you can take sex out of the equation, which in turn gives you more of an opportunity to focus on the intimate side of connecting with the girls you meet.
remember how nervous and apprehensive you were the first few times you ventured out into paying for sex? now analyse how disconnected and unintimidated you are leading up to an appointment. apply that same effort in to meeting new people, exploring intimacy, dating, and all the other things you feel you are out of reach for you.
i say to you congratulations. you are a man who turned sex on its ear. while i wouldn't go so far as to say you don't need it, it simply has less control over the decisions you make when forming relationships with women. on your end you'll come to see that sex isn't a major factor on who you decide to commit to, it also means that the people you meet will be unable to use sex as a weapon against you, and let's be honest. there are people who do exactly that (notice i said "people" rather than "women?")
put down the mouse and keyboard, put on a shirt with a collar and GO OUTSIDE. doesn't matter where or with who. just go outside. talk to people. talk to women. let them come up with their own reasons not to have sex with you.
make friends, not lovers.
i don't think there's anyone here who is qualified to diagnose if anyone is an "addicted" to anything. all the wisdom you've read so far is shit you can pick up from a few episodes of Dr. Phil or Intervention. it's all silly pop psychology bullshit.
but since everyone else is spouting off their opinion, i guess i will too.
i'll lean on the side of caution and steer away from offering up the opinion that you're "addicted" to paying for sex. people are always going to take the path of least resistance to achieve or obtain what they want. anyone who says otherwise is just a liar.
you don't need counselling. you don't need "rehab". you don't need help.
here's the important part: you are your own worst enemy.
the truth is this "hobby" has made you a stronger person. a stronger person who should have more confidence than he gives himself credit for.
you see yourself in a negative light when you are the EXACT opposite.
i've always thought of this silly hobby as a means towards establishing a stable relationship with someone. you have reached the point where you can take sex out of the equation, which in turn gives you more of an opportunity to focus on the intimate side of connecting with the girls you meet.
remember how nervous and apprehensive you were the first few times you ventured out into paying for sex? now analyse how disconnected and unintimidated you are leading up to an appointment. apply that same effort in to meeting new people, exploring intimacy, dating, and all the other things you feel you are out of reach for you.
i say to you congratulations. you are a man who turned sex on its ear. while i wouldn't go so far as to say you don't need it, it simply has less control over the decisions you make when forming relationships with women. on your end you'll come to see that sex isn't a major factor on who you decide to commit to, it also means that the people you meet will be unable to use sex as a weapon against you, and let's be honest. there are people who do exactly that (notice i said "people" rather than "women?")
put down the mouse and keyboard, put on a shirt with a collar and GO OUTSIDE. doesn't matter where or with who. just go outside. talk to people. talk to women. let them come up with their own reasons not to have sex with you.
make friends, not lovers.
Before labelling yourself as a Sex Addict and then going in for treatment, I’d try to work it out yourself first. Unless you are predisposed to having other people tell you what to do and think everyday (AA, Religion, Voting like Daddy did, etc…). I’m sure that there are many counsellors willing to help “Treat” you for free. And if not, well, they’d sure be more than happy to take your money and let you figure it out for yourself anyway.
No offense to Sharky66 or others seeking “treatment”, but you’ll never beat any disorder or addiction by listening to someone else for anything other than very general advice. You have to do it yourself or else you are just following someone else’s rules. Never see a shrink of any kind unless they’ve locked you up and you have no choice. Those quacks will make you nuts!
The question is, can you think for yourself or not?
Assuming that you can and do make your own choices, forget giving yourself a label and just work on your confidence. You can either do something structured and related to dating confidence like signing up for “Events and Adventures” or getting into blind double dates with an established couple’s friend, or just simply talking to any platonic lady friends you have about how they look at dating. If you can’t get the approach going but can handle things after the introduction, go with Events and Adventures. If you just don’t know what to say and how to act around women you’re trying to date, go with the couple example and/or just talking to lady friends.
Personally, if I were you, I would remove the word dating from the confidence equation all together and just work on self confidence in general. Take up martial arts or any other individual sport. Don’t join a team for confidence as you may end up just being on the team and relying on others.
This is just a broad random way of building up confidence as mentioned by a faceless fake name on the internet. Whatever you decide to do, don’t ever let anyone else label you or tell you what to do or how to do it, it’ll only eat away and your ability to rely on yourself and build confidence.
That’ll be an even $500 son
No offense to Sharky66 or others seeking “treatment”, but you’ll never beat any disorder or addiction by listening to someone else for anything other than very general advice. You have to do it yourself or else you are just following someone else’s rules. Never see a shrink of any kind unless they’ve locked you up and you have no choice. Those quacks will make you nuts!
The question is, can you think for yourself or not?
Assuming that you can and do make your own choices, forget giving yourself a label and just work on your confidence. You can either do something structured and related to dating confidence like signing up for “Events and Adventures” or getting into blind double dates with an established couple’s friend, or just simply talking to any platonic lady friends you have about how they look at dating. If you can’t get the approach going but can handle things after the introduction, go with Events and Adventures. If you just don’t know what to say and how to act around women you’re trying to date, go with the couple example and/or just talking to lady friends.
Personally, if I were you, I would remove the word dating from the confidence equation all together and just work on self confidence in general. Take up martial arts or any other individual sport. Don’t join a team for confidence as you may end up just being on the team and relying on others.
This is just a broad random way of building up confidence as mentioned by a faceless fake name on the internet. Whatever you decide to do, don’t ever let anyone else label you or tell you what to do or how to do it, it’ll only eat away and your ability to rely on yourself and build confidence.
That’ll be an even $500 son
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it appears this thread went a bit off topic but i quit pooning for the past year. i find nothing wrong with pooning at all and have met some great ladies however i met a lady and have fallen in love and just seeing where this takes us.
good luck to you man!
Dr. CC
good luck to you man!
Dr. CC
