I don't proclaim to be an expert, but have received many accolades. My secret is starting off slow and soft. Build up the expectation. I will softly caress a lady with my fingers until her juices are flowing. Even then, gently lubricate your fingers with her juices and tease her clit, remembering to re lubricate your finger with her juices. When her breathing becomes heavy, venture your mouth to her nether region. Tease her with your tongue. Lick her inner thighs, gently lick her vagina, a little tongue of the anus usually gets a surprised look in her eyes. Gently lick her vagina, sometimes blowing gentle breaths can arouse her. When there's obvious signs of her wetness, she's ready, you're doing a good job. Use her wetness, lubricate your tongue with it and gently expose her clit by slightly pulling up on her pelvis skin. If she has large labia, spread her labia with two fingers of one hand while pulling up her pelvic skin with the other hand and flick and lick until you find the lady responding with her breathing and movements. When you notice her clit is getting a little dry to the tongue, introduce your saliva as lubrication. I wear a trimmed beard, and some ladies respond to me rubbing the beard on their clit. Some ladies respond to g spot stimulation more than clit . That's a whole new lesson.