I think this is the right way of looking at it.
More simply, you have already said that you are paying girls to have sex with you.
Are you also paying people to hang out with you and be your friend?
Which one do you need more?
Friends with benefits worth it? newb question
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More simply, you have already said that you are paying girls to have sex with you.
Are you also paying people to hang out with you and be your friend?
Which one do you need more?
Fuck Buddies
Interesting question and love some of the replies!
First, sounds like you're looking for a Fuck Buddy (FB).
Reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry and Elaine unsuccessfully try to become FBs. Lots of truth in that episode!
I’ve had 2 decent FB experiences – both a while back, in my early 20s.
Three common traits that my 2 FB’s had:
1. Both had insatiable sexual appetites (I wasn’t there only partner)
2. Both were very strong-minded, independent women
3. We never got into supporting each other emotionally.
You want to make this work:
Keep it physical
Mix it up with other partners; both of you
I still bump into “Colleen” once in a while. Always good to see her; but we’d never fuck again. Those days are long behind us both. Like perishables, FBs have a shelf live.
Interesting question and love some of the replies!
First, sounds like you're looking for a Fuck Buddy (FB).
Reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry and Elaine unsuccessfully try to become FBs. Lots of truth in that episode!
I’ve had 2 decent FB experiences – both a while back, in my early 20s.
Three common traits that my 2 FB’s had:
1. Both had insatiable sexual appetites (I wasn’t there only partner)
2. Both were very strong-minded, independent women
3. We never got into supporting each other emotionally.
You want to make this work:
Keep it physical
Mix it up with other partners; both of you
I still bump into “Colleen” once in a while. Always good to see her; but we’d never fuck again. Those days are long behind us both. Like perishables, FBs have a shelf live.
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Hey guys,
Quick update, we're no longer talking. Yahhhhh. I thought it was going great because we agreed that this is just going to be purely physical. Sex was great, but then instead of just hooking up she started wanting to do things before we did the deed. aka going on dates....which was fine by me as we both agreed earlier on what was expected or not expected etc.
Anyways, near the end, she said she wanted something more out of this and she deserves to be in a relationship. anyways. I just agreed, then I asked her if she wants a relationship or a relationship with me specifically. Didn't say yes or no but said she just didn't want it like this anymore. WTF.
Validator...I didn't listen to your rule #3 fark! EPIC FAIL!
Quick update, we're no longer talking. Yahhhhh. I thought it was going great because we agreed that this is just going to be purely physical. Sex was great, but then instead of just hooking up she started wanting to do things before we did the deed. aka going on dates....which was fine by me as we both agreed earlier on what was expected or not expected etc.
Anyways, near the end, she said she wanted something more out of this and she deserves to be in a relationship. anyways. I just agreed, then I asked her if she wants a relationship or a relationship with me specifically. Didn't say yes or no but said she just didn't want it like this anymore. WTF.
Validator...I didn't listen to your rule #3 fark! EPIC FAIL!
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Well, this one is different, she's probably one of the few girl friends that I've been extremely close with throughout the years so I'm more afraid of losing that relationship. If I didn't consider her one of my best friends, than hell yeah, there is no problem.
I know my views are a bit off,but what happened to men being men?
No matter the relationship you have with your friend(however great it is).
There is only one thing to do in life and that is to live it fully,take the leap...do yourself a favour and be a man .Go after whatever you want without fear,trust me life wont end,but it may begin!
Only a fool would give up on his own happiness.
I say go for it! esp if she sucks good cock!!! and besides, if things don't work out, there's tons of other friends to make along the way.
great cocksucking cannot be overlooked!!!
Show no emotion
If you are friends with no serious emotional feelings ie: sharing dark secrets, or confidences then by all mean they can work. Once the emotions start to elevate ie: talk is like nail across a blackboard, then get out. I usually have found that as long as you agree that if there is sex with other people that it is not brought into conversation unless she lines you up with one of her friends or vice versa.
I actually had a girlfriend who suggested I take out her roommate and show her a good time. It was all good and I ended up with the roommate as my gf for three years. Even when they split up as roommates(#1 went away to college) I still had sex with her when I went to Victoria on a holiday and looked her up. When I got back the gf told me that she heard what happened and was okay with it and the sex with her got even better.
It all depends on the woman and their frame of mind and what they really want.
If you are friends with no serious emotional feelings ie: sharing dark secrets, or confidences then by all mean they can work. Once the emotions start to elevate ie: talk is like nail across a blackboard, then get out. I usually have found that as long as you agree that if there is sex with other people that it is not brought into conversation unless she lines you up with one of her friends or vice versa.
I actually had a girlfriend who suggested I take out her roommate and show her a good time. It was all good and I ended up with the roommate as my gf for three years. Even when they split up as roommates(#1 went away to college) I still had sex with her when I went to Victoria on a holiday and looked her up. When I got back the gf told me that she heard what happened and was okay with it and the sex with her got even better.
It all depends on the woman and their frame of mind and what they really want.
Geezus
Fuc*ing your friends is called a RELATIONSHIP. If you don't want one with that particular FRIEND, don't fuc* her. If, on the other hand, you're an emotionless, selfish, troubleseeker who doesn't give a rats ass who gets hurt, by all means, fuc* away and let the chips fall where they may. When a woman calls YOU and no one else at three AM for a booty call, trust me son - it's a trick.
Fuc*ing your friends is called a RELATIONSHIP. If you don't want one with that particular FRIEND, don't fuc* her. If, on the other hand, you're an emotionless, selfish, troubleseeker who doesn't give a rats ass who gets hurt, by all means, fuc* away and let the chips fall where they may. When a woman calls YOU and no one else at three AM for a booty call, trust me son - it's a trick.
You know, you have a good point - for years I put up with a "friend" who was first a coke whore, then became a crack whore, who ripped me off a few times, yet it didn't bother me because she sucked the best cock, and she swallowed every single drop...great cocksucking cannot be overlooked!!!
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as for the original question - fuck her brains out. she should wake up retarded. i say that for one obvious reason - in life forgiveness is always easier than permission. along those lines you can fuck up as much as possible and always smooth things over. besides i've done pretty much any girl i've been friends with and stayed friends with the ones that were worth keeping. no wait a minute, i'm not friends with any of them anymore i suppose it's because unless you find a woman that has confused you long enough for you to think "she's the one" they are all interchangable. like a bus, you miss one another one comes by.
what was my original point? oh yeah, i don't have time to have a relationship either but i have this disease that every time i see a hot girl i wanna stick my dick in her. i'm sure you got needs to so get er done!
i have a whole new level of respect for youYou know, you have a good point - for years I put up with a "friend" who was first a coke whore, then became a crack whore, who ripped me off a few times, yet it didn't bother me because she sucked the best cock, and she swallowed every single drop...
as for the original question - fuck her brains out. she should wake up retarded. i say that for one obvious reason - in life forgiveness is always easier than permission. along those lines you can fuck up as much as possible and always smooth things over. besides i've done pretty much any girl i've been friends with and stayed friends with the ones that were worth keeping. no wait a minute, i'm not friends with any of them anymore
i suppose it's because unless you find a woman that has confused you long enough for you to think "she's the one" they are all interchangable. like a bus, you miss one another one comes by.what was my original point? oh yeah, i don't have time to have a relationship either but i have this disease that every time i see a hot girl i wanna stick my dick in her. i'm sure you got needs to so get er done!
Not sure if that was meant as sarcastic or not so... thanks?i have a whole new level of respect for you
Anyhow, the reason it worked for so long was based on "need" - I needed the pussy, and she needed the money. We weren't technically "friends" per se, but we could still have a decent conversation - there was no illusion of our "relationship" being nothing other than business...
I'm not sure it's possible to stay friends after fucking... I'm sure it happens, but those are few and far between....
....so again, get it while the gettin's good!!
no sarcasm, i meant it in the sense that even though she was who she was you got your dick sucked real good!
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