explanation/apology

[everydayjoe]

here is a little bit of insight to a certain situation that has gone on. i don't give a fuck about bashing, if that's what you want to do, go bash your head against a wall. constructive critisizm is taken openly. met a certain sp awhile back and had instant chemistry and the things we shared were out of this world. we spent a fair bit of time together and things developed along with mutual feelings, more on one side, but the other side had strong feelings as well. as time went on i did begin to wonder about others men's interaction with said sp. started to "dig" and found a mountain of soil. yes, of course there was hurt feelings, we are human aren't we? yes it was wrong to lash out in the way a certain pooner did, and i apologize for it, to both, the sp and the community. after meeting this sp and things developing the way they did, i was trying and succeeding in turning over a new leaf, no more pooning. so as more things roll along, things just get nastier and nastier. time to end this once and for all. this isn't a way to stop any proceedings that the sp may have, i can deal with those and if things still are nasty, i can stay or get even nastier. i would much prefer to not have to though. all in all, this is just a quick and short explanation of how pooners and sp's have to be very careful of boundaries and to not cross that line. be careful about the power of seduction and make sure you always think with the big head. i have learned a very valuable lesson here and will not let it happen ever again. it would be very understandable if this were a one sided affair, but it wasn't. both sides participated equally, though things may not seem that way, it is very true. i have been trying to remove posts that are about said sp, and hopefully the mods will assist. like i said, i don't give a fuck about hearing the bullshit. until you have walked in my shoes, seen the things i have seen or done the things i have done with said sp, fuck off with your stupid comments. if you have something constructive to say, by all means, please, say it. i have been a member of these boards a very long time and have had a very accurate review record. once again, i apologize for knocking said sp's reputation, just be careful, it's easy to fall for said sp. good luck and happy pooning.there was no stalking whatsoever going on at any time either

 

[TTTWISTER]

I guess you turned over this new leaf in the last 12 hours since you PM'd me fishing for info.

If you are sincere, as you claim to be, I suspect you would not have written this but instead would have just stopped all correspondence concerning this matter.

EDJ you really should go talk to a professional about this very unhealthy and destructive obsession you seem to have developed.

Regardless of what may or may not have happened in the past when a person says they want nothing to do with you and makes it so painfully clear, you need to let go and walk away. If you can't do that and it appears that you can't, you really do have serious emotional and mental issues that need to be dealt with before they destroy you.

For your own sake and mental health go see a counselor.

 

[everydayjoe]

yes i pm'd you asking about a situation. i have walked away from the rest of it though. there are no mental issues, i was just hurt. like i said, unless you have walked in my shoes, don't comment. have you seen this said sp? probably not, so you wouldn't know the look in her eyes that tells you more of what is going on in said sp's heart. thanks for the questionable advise. i still believe the pm i sent you hit the target, didn't it?

 

[everydayjoe]

not always no. most of the time yes though. you have to understand one thing, said sp knew of my feelings and DID NOT run or back away. instead we spent more time together and moments were shared etc etc, blah blah blah. you know how it goes. i'm not a freak of nature, or i don't think so anyway. i'm sure if given the same circumstance, most would feel the same way. i just wanted to clarify some things, that was the reason for the post, not to defend as much, but to shed more light on the WHOLE situation.

 

[everydayjoe]

thank you, i already am

 

[TotallyTouchin]

Um

yes i pm'd you asking about a situation. i have walked away from the rest of it though. there are no mental issues, i was just hurt. like i said, unless you have walked in my shoes, don't comment. have you seen this said sp? probably not, so you wouldn't know the look in her eyes that tells you more of what is going on in said sp's heart. thanks for the questionable advise. i still believe the pm i sent you hit the target, didn't it?

DUDE! "THE LOOK IN HER EYES THAT TELLS YOU MORE OF WHAT IS GOING ON IN SAID SPS HEART"?????

Are you freakin KIDDING me right now?

Dude....she is doing A JOB! NEWS FLASH! You have officially lost the plot if you don't get that.

If something in YOUR BONKERS BRAIN tells you that because she is good at her job and seduces you that you have the right to send those emails after in GIANT HUGE BOLD LETTERS she has told you to F-off.....you got PROBLEMS!!!

Let this be a lesson for creepy people everywhere. Sps are doing a job, selling a fantasy and a service. If you are lacking the ability to seperate fantasy and reality you may end up looking as whacked out as this guy.

New perb handle pending: Everydayconvict. You better stop yapping about her. This is only digging your grave deeper dude.

She doesn't want you no matter what you THINK her "eyes" are telling you.

 

[jjinvan]

not always no. most of the time yes though. you have to understand one thing, said sp knew of my feelings and DID NOT run or back away. instead we spent more time together and moments were shared etc etc, blah blah blah. you know how it goes. i'm not a freak of nature, or i don't think so anyway. i'm sure if given the same circumstance, most would feel the same way. i just wanted to clarify some things, that was the reason for the post, not to defend as much, but to shed more light on the WHOLE situation.

Ok, look. I'm going to talk to you like an adult, please read this and think like an adult.

First off, I will say that yes, I have been 'in your shoes' not with the same girl, but in a similar situation. The big difference is that I did NOT react to it the way you did or act like you did. I moved on and shrugged it off as her loss.

It doesn't matter if you got on one knee and proposed marriage and she said yes and you put a ring on her finger. IF SHE NO LONGER WANTS TO TALK TO YOU OR SEE YOU, YOU HAVE TO WALK AWAY AND LEAVE HER ALONE, COMPLETELY.

If you are in fact Mr Miiagi (or however you spell it) and those emails she showed were in fact written by you, then you have a problem and you need to get help for it.

Your behaviour shows you to have some serious boundry issues that make it DANGEROUS for a woman to spend time with you. I am not kidding.

I have a graduate degree in abnormal psychology as well as my MD. Your actions are NOT normal or healthy, EVEN taking into account the situation and EVEN accepting that it is exactly how you described.

The fact that you CONTINUE to make threats (don't try to say that you didn't make any threats, it's right there in your post and I am not an idiot that you can try to play games of semantics with) is very worrying and if you aren't careful you WILL wind up in a jail cell.

Guess what? The police do not care WHAT the nature of your relationship with her was, they don't care how many times she told you she loves you in the past, none of that. EVEN if you had been MARRIED to her, the way you are behaving would have you end up in a jail cell. Do you not understand this?

If you don't understand that what you are doing is wrong, I strongly suggest that you constact a support group and speak to them about it. I'm not kidding.

I really don't know how else I can put this, you have to accept the fact that you are in the wrong in this and until you do, you just keep setting yourself up for more trouble and hurt in the future.

 

[WestVanMan]

the look in her eyes that tells you more of what is going on in said sp's heart

Now go back and read jjinvan's post one more time.....

Do it now!

If you take one single step - one single act of any kind - in further regard to this lady - THE WORLD WILL NOT UNDERSTAND!

Make no mistake about this!

 

[thornbobber]

EDJ, you need to get out of Dodge,

Dude, you have gone too far. Listen to JJinvan. You clearly don't understand your predicament. If you did you would seek help. It is common not to realize you need help. Drug addicts don't think they need help until they reach bottom, and you do not want to reach bottom in the direction you are going. It is the crowbar hotel.
You have no idea how brutaly you have affected the lady. I have not met her, but this type of unwanted contact can scar a lady for life. Is this your intention??? I hope not, but it clearly looks like it.

 

[wannabeslut]

What a psycho!

 

[TTTWISTER]

yes i pm'd you asking about a situation. i have walked away from the rest of it though. there are no mental issues, i was just hurt. like i said, unless you have walked in my shoes, don't comment. have you seen this said sp? probably not, so you wouldn't know the look in her eyes that tells you more of what is going on in said sp's heart. thanks for the questionable advise. i still believe the pm i sent you hit the target, didn't it?

OK in the spirit of concern I tried to be nice now let me try this.


You Are A Sick Fuck. Go Seek Help


Your PM's to me have been sent to the Mods and to Ashely.
Although now I kind of hope she chooses alternative methods to deal with you. Might be the only way to get thru your thick fucking skull.

 

[athaire]

Shakes head..............

 

[freakychef]

Dude it is harsh but...........

....if the girl is an sp or civillian or mother theresa, no still means no!! You know you are not the first or last person to ever be in this position, the difference is in how you handled it. Grow up and I mean that in a nice way. You act like this a high school crush or your first love. Dude move on before you ruin your life or inflict more damage on this poor sp. If you actually love and care for her why put her though the embarrasment and humiliation. I know from experience what a situation like this can do, I was young and inexperienced and I moved on and learned a lesson from it. It is one of the hardest things I ever learned un reciprocated love sucks!!!! Quit replying, quit fanning the flames, leave Ashley alone if it is truly her, lay low lick your wounds and move on!!!!!!! Best thing ya can do. IMO

 

[Creole Lady Marmalade]

Dear EverydayJoke

Are you fuckin' shitting me right now?

There isn't anything that I can say that hasn't been said other than:

If there was indeed a connection, why have you taken the liberty to damage her reputation as a SP by falsely (and it's been proven) claiming to have received services she had never provided to you?

Having done that alone would be enough to be labelled obsessive and worse, after you being personally rejected several times. What's with the pursuit?

She will like you less if you keep harassing and libel/slandering her.

 

[The Lizard King]

This is great shit. Let's see....guy pays gal for a little GFE fantasy play, gal delivers on her end of the deal, and guy subsequently FALLS FOR HER!!! What a fucking loser. Maybe you should stop typing for a bit and go to London Drugs to see if there's anything that will take that L off your forehead. Happy Monday morning everybody and a belated Happy Mother's Day to any of the ladies with kids!

 

[neon]

Dude, over is over, be a man, no matter she is your SO, or SP, just let go!

 

[jjinvan]

If there was indeed a connection, why have you taken the liberty to damage her reputation as a SP by falsely (and it's been proven) claiming to have received services she had never provided to you?

I'm just wondering...

Although it is completely IRELEVANT to the issue whether he received those services or not, how exactly was it 'proven' that he did not?

I'm curious because I've always wanted to know how to prove a negative, and I can't think of a way to PROVE something like this.

The only people who know what went on are him and her, or did he only see her for duos with you?

Please don't confuse the issue by making things up, or talking about things that you have no clue about. The issue here is that REGARDLESS of what happened between the two of them, his behaviour was unacceptable and if he truely feels that there was nothing wrong with his behaviour then he needs to go talk to someone about it until he understands why it was wrong.

 

[freakychef]

A month or two.................

I read the thread, and I personally think EDJ should be banned and he should be banned for his own good, as well as the SP's.

The details may be different, but we've all been hurt in a somewhat similar manner. What everyone requires in this type of situation is distance (ie time). Time itself usually resolves these things as most of us move on after a month or two.

However, some counselling of some kind certainly wouldn't hurt either.

.............everyone is different and me personally it takes months or more depending on the situation. The issue is he feels he has done nothing wrong. As I stated before no means no and he has to to find a way to understand he was wrong. It might take LE to get him to that point but so be it. I hope for Ashle'y sake and his!! That he chooses to let this issue die!!!

 

[Creole Lady Marmalade]

I'm just wondering...

Although it is completely IRELEVANT to the issue whether he received those services or not, how exactly was it 'proven' that he did not?

I'm curious because I've always wanted to know how to prove a negative, and I can't think of a way to PROVE something like this.

The only people who know what went on are him and her, or did he only see her for duos with you?

Please don't confuse the issue by making things up, or talking about things that you have no clue about. The issue here is that REGARDLESS of what happened between the two of them, his behaviour was unacceptable and if he truely feels that there was nothing wrong with his behaviour then he needs to go talk to someone about it until he understands why it was wrong.

Hey Dr. Riviera, stuff a sock into it.

You know full well where that info came from and it was put together after said SP denied services and the dudes claims jump up from inquiries on higher mileage to actually receiving the highest mileage one can get...and all in two days???

What, are you stupid? It's all there in black and white public view.

For future reference, be sure to read all that is made available to you before alleging fiction has been created. Also re-read my post carefully.

 

[jjinvan]

Hey Dr. Riviera, stuff a sock into it.

You know full well where that info came from and it was put together after said SP denied services and the dudes claims jump up from inquiries on higher mileage to actually receiving the highest mileage one can get...and all in two days???

What, are you stupid? It's all there in black and white public view.

For future reference, be sure to read all that is made available to you before alleging fiction has been created. Also re-read my post carefully.

I still say that you are incorrect in saying that anything was proven either way.

But you obviously don't understand the meaning of the word 'proven', and you don't exactly have a sterling reputation for telling the truth yourself (yes I have read EVERYTHING that you have posted) but if it makes you feel better to rant and rave without actually helping anything, go ahead, don't let me stop you.

By the way, I'm not the one alleging fiction has been created, you are, or did you lose track? I'm saying that whatever did or didn't happen between them is irrelevant and that the ONLY two people who know are him and her. What IS relevant is the way he acted afterwards and the fact that he doesn't think there is anything wrong with it.

Jumping in and making unsupported claims of fact might make you feel good, but it won't help the situation in the slightest, if that is your actual goal.

Or maybe you just like doing Rosie O'Donnel impersonations?