Ever request services from a non SP?

[Mr-]

I have this acquaintance who is going through some financial challenges. She is very attractive and has been with a number of different guys. We are not close friends, but like each other. I would like to help her out and am thinking of making an offer to her but don't know the best way to do it.

Has anyone ever tried to extract services from a non SP? What happened/how did it go? Is this something you would recommend? Any advice??

Thanks,

 

[Riza]

Did it once, really bad idea. Never ever again.
Seemed like a great idea...gorgeous co worker, really flirty, genuinely nice lady, she was going through a divorce.
I think I could have scored anyway, but putting money into the mix pissed her off.
Maybe help her out with cash first, which is what a friend would do, then see if she is open to getting closer. Try for FWB rather than outright fee for service.

***** out of ***** for Westwoody, perfect score for perfect answer. Be the friend she needs, there is no tactful way to ask if she wants to prostitute herself and recover if it goes bad like it most likely will.

Edit: fyi, I meant 5 stars out of 5 for those that didn't get it.

 

[SpeedStick]

Very nice answer westwoody, i was gonna say same thing but not so eloquently... So i decided to wait so i can prepare what i would say later. Its nice to think best case scenario but start with worse case lol and worser case. Be her friend first sounds nice and less pervy :yo:

 

[k1nz]

Yeah I try all the time, except I employ my James Bond charm for the extraction rather than cash. Although this tactic rarely works because lets face it I'm no 007.

 

[westwoody]

It was one of the stupidest things I have ever done, and I felt like shit for ages. It ruined what had been a good friendship. Like I said, she was gorgeous and used to sit on my knee, drive me home, have lunch with me. It was over ten years ago and I still feel bad...constantly thinking if only I had handled it better, what might have happened.

Be aware that doing it in a workplace could get you fired, and no arbitrator will save you.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

I'm no 007.

We all know there is only one Double Naught Spy here on PERB.

 

[Horse1957]

love the reply Jethro....but I think it a waste on the younguns......they'll probably have to Google it...:wink:

 

[mister-j]

If you value the friendship at all - don't do it. If you don't value the friendship AT ALL and you feel you have nothing to loose it may be just the help she needs and who knows there is a chance she might just be okay with it - every situation is different.
Having said that, and if you are okay risking losing the friendship, you might try another angle and first try to feel her out to see what lengths she would go to in her situation - but don't make it personal or about you at all.

 

[Mr-]

If you value the friendship at all - don't do it. If you don't value the friendship AT ALL and you feel you have nothing to loose it may be just the help she needs and who knows there is a chance she might just be okay with it - every situation is different.
Having said that, and if you are okay risking losing the friendship, you might try another angle and first try to feel her out to see what lengths she would go to in her situation - but don't make it personal or about you at all.

I took your advice and tried a different angle; and here's what happened:

Me: "Remember that old movie, Indecent Proposal? Would you sleep with some dude for a million dollars?"
Her: "Yes, that's a lot of money!"
Me: "Would you sleep with me for $200?"
Her: "No, what do you take me for some type of whore?"
Me: "Well yes, I've already determined that, now I'm negotiating price..."
Her: [slight pause - and breaks out in laughter], "You're so funny!"
Me: "BRB, going to take a cold shower..."

 

[escortlover1991]

This sounds like it would be a BAD idea to say the least

 

[EuroSZabina]

Did it once, really bad idea. Never ever again.
Seemed like a great idea...gorgeous co worker, really flirty, genuinely nice lady, she was going through a divorce.
I think I could have scored anyway, but putting money into the mix pissed her off.
Maybe help her out with cash first, which is what a friend would do, then see if she is open to getting closer. Try for FWB rather than outright fee for service.

Very very well said darling !!!

 

[ReedRothchild]

Has anyone ever tried to extract services from a non SP? What happened/how did it go? Is this something you would recommend? Any advice??

Thanks,

I believe that when one finds themselves asking such questions it's an indication that the worlds of fantasy and reality may well be on a collision course.

Hazard of the hobby I suppose but ftiw, my advise would be to take a big step backwards.

 

[westwoody]

Me: "Remember that old movie, Indecent Proposal? Would you sleep with some dude for a million dollars?"
Her: "Yes, that's a lot of money!"
Me: "Would you sleep with me for $200?"
Her: "No, what do you take me for some type of whore?"
Me: "Well yes, I've already determined that, now I'm negotiating price..."

Winston Churchill said the same thing a while back.

 

[bigben]

Don't do it. Realize you have the best intentions, but it really sounds like a bad idea and could be perceived that you're trying to take advantage of a vulnerable person in a desperate situation. I realize you don't at all have those intentions - but if it ended up in court of law it would look really bad.

 

[resercher]

Did it once, really bad idea. Never ever again.
Seemed like a great idea...gorgeous co worker, really flirty, genuinely nice lady, she was going through a divorce.
I think I could have scored anyway, but putting money into the mix pissed her off.
Maybe help her out with cash first, which is what a friend would do, then see if she is open to getting closer. Try for FWB rather than outright fee for service.

Agree with west woody bad idea unfortunately It seems that women in our society are still looked down upon like they have a Scarlett letter on them

If they decide to sell sex for profit .

For most women I think it would be Seen as an insult no matter how you say it
Unfortunately as it might be a practical solution to her monitory problems . Asking a woman if she needs extra money and you wil pay her for sex .Would be the equivalent of Telling a man that if he needs extra money he could go blow gay men and have anal sex with them because he looks good and you think he would make a great little cock sucker etc

It also seems that some of them might be very sensitive about it as well . In my teens I was taking a bus home from a local boxing club where I was working out . The club was located near an area that was known for having prostitutes on street corners . I went to look at the bus schedule on the stop ( this was before telebus ) A woman was close by. Being tired from my work Out .I saw her but really did not notice her .

That was Until she started screaming at me. "I am not a hooker "I am not a hooker" Fortunately the tow truck she was waiting for came for her car. At exactly the same time as my bus almost right away . so i did not have to talk to her .

 

[blazejowski]

I've done it many times, with varying results. As has been said before, some girls take it as an insult, some as a compliment. Some have even considered it as a turn-on. I've lost friends, I've been called a pig, but I have had a few long lasting relationships that turned out advantageous for all parties involved. I don't do it with every girl I know, nor do I take advantage of their situation, I like doing it because I love having sex, and sometimes all it takes is the right offer to someone to help me along...

 

[Kamloopsbc]

A really good friend, definitely not.
A casual friend who is barely more than an acquaintance, sure why not.
Say she is mad, well not really a big loss.
Maybe she will be relieved and so happy you offered.
Its sex, you're not asking her to sell an arm or lung or something.
She has probably given it away free thousands of times.
Might be honored you think she is fine enough to earn money for what she gives away usually.