If u care all u can do is offer to help, but in the end it's their choice to make to clean up or not. Even during interventions, family members have to turn their back and walk away as a last resort. Do you really want to keep feeding them money to support their habbit? And have to watch them waste away? Maybe seeing everybody walk away will show them what they need to see...
Drug Addiction and your SP-Is it ever appropriate for Clients to stage interventions?
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When I started seeing my friend 10 years ago, I knew she had a cocaine problem, and knew whatever money she took from me would go to her habit. Over the years, I saw her get worse and worse, with her smoking crack, and wasting away to a skeleton. We even had a session at the place she was staying at, which turned out to be a crack house. Very uncomfortable. There came a point where I put an end to our arrangement, because I couldn't fathom seeing her in such bad shape, and I helped her any other way I could. Thankfully, she hit rock bottom, and got the help she needed. Now flash forward a few years later, and our arrangement is back, but this time I know the money she gets goes towards her schooling. I can live with that....
As an old guy with a lot of history with alcholics.
Helping some one, when they are really not seeking help,
is just enabling them.
You just clean up behind them, cover them so they don't loose their job or go to jail or pay their bills etc etc.
And they continue on the same old way.
They have to want help and mean it when they say it no bull shit.
Helping some one, when they are really not seeking help,
is just enabling them.
You just clean up behind them, cover them so they don't loose their job or go to jail or pay their bills etc etc.
And they continue on the same old way.
They have to want help and mean it when they say it no bull shit.
I know some pooners on here don't care at all about drug using SPs...but one thing that bugs me is how a lot of paying guys think that they are supporting the SP's drug habit, or are directly paying for her drugs out of their own pocket. Its as if they are giving their money away to her for free and don't realize that they are purchasing services, so now the money is in her possession and she is entitled to do whatever she pleases with it. The pooner here no longer has any authority over the cash and what happens to it. Its like a business owner on drugs or a lawyer/doctor, you the patron/client/patient are purchasing services from them, and if they want to go get high or go buy some shoes, you did not pay for those shoes or whatever they spend their money on - the trade of services for cash has been made, it is THEIR money now, not yours. Just wanted to clear that up.
Inter ventions do not work. Often they will have the opposite effect. The whole idea was popularized by a tv program. Drug addiction and rehab are two forces that feed each other and are huge money makers. The reasons for addiction run deep. Usually the thing that will encourage and sustain change is a change in the environment. COMPLETE change. The same triggers around all the time make change hard to accomplish. It is nobody's right to "intervene" on anybody's life. That is a rather self-riteous thing to do. The best thing to do is to open the lines of communication as addiction is very isolating and full of shame and guilt. Change will onky ever happen when it is desired and a choice. Imposing on another will often make them push back. Nobody "chooses" addiction. Nobody wants to be addicted. The bad choice was the first one. addiction means lack of control so do not assume being addicted is a choice. It is a terrible thing. Addicts often hate themselves and their shame and the judgement of others encourages isolkation which feeds addiction more.
As a client you are i no position to intervene. A close friend can express concern and those with the ability to present options in a non invasiver way that may be healthier can guage the desire of the addicted one to seek help/change. It is a very sensitive issue. Addicts often hide their addiction. Inlike alcohol which is legal, drugs due to the nature of the lifestyle one is forced to live when using an illegal substance, create an environmment shrouded in secrecy. Much more difficult to approach. Proceed with caution
and if their pimps/handlers have all the log on information for these ladies isn't that going to skew the results of the poll?
Nice thought but IMHO there are some who definitely have a "go between" who is paid for handling emails, schedules, websites, pictures, etc etc etc. You never know who you are responding to with some SP's.
Well said, hun.
You always have wise words! (;
People will change of their own accord. You cannot force or expect it from someone. you can just hope one day they will wake up and see the error of their ways.
Yes, the thought is nice.
REally? they blame the johns? Im pretty sure most addicted to anything know it's nobody's fault just a ong series of circumstances. Nobody chooses to be addicted but when one is addicted the self hate addicts feel gets thrown at everybody. Generally once cleaned up they have a bit more clarity. Nobody expects to become addicted the first time they try drugs. Some have addictive tendencies. Having cash on hand daily is difficult for someone battling addiction. I think the nature of this kind of work feeds addiction because it is looked down upon by many and is isolating as many sps im guessing dont tell many what they are doing. If it wasn't looked down upon and if people were more educated about it then perhaps it wouldnt be associated with such shame secrecy and guilt.
