Does Chemistry Count?

[PlayfulAlex]

Of course, there are all types of review styles (longer, shorter, detailed, general), but reading a recent review got me thinking...

Does chemistry matter?
Can you have true chemistry with an SP?
Does every good experience indicate that there was chemistry between the SP and the visitor?
Can you have a nice time without 'chemistry'?
Does the SP have to be and do everything you want, in order for there to be chemistry?
Since everyone has a different definition of chemistry, does it even mean anything when it's mentioned in a review (we had chemistry or we didn't)?

Thanks in advance, for sharing your thoughts on this matter...

 

[sdw]

Of course, there are all types of review styles (longer, shorter, detailed, general), but reading a recent review got me thinking...

Does chemistry matter?
Can you have true chemistry with an SP?
Does every good experience indicate that there was chemistry between the SP and the visitor?
Can you have a nice time without 'chemistry'?
Does the SP have to be and do everything you want, in order for there to be chemistry?
Since everyone has a different definition of chemistry, does it even mean anything when it's mentioned in a review (we had chemistry or we didn't)?

Thanks in advance, for sharing your thoughts on this matter...

I've had good times with SPs that weren't "into" me at all, however they were able to hold a conversation and provide sex that didn't feel like rape to me.

My best times have been with an SP that was selective and therefore at least liked all of her clients. (I'm sure it wasn't just me that she enjoyed)

My worst times have been with SPs that weren't seeing me (or any other man) by choice. Be it economic reasons or in thrall to someone, it was quickly apparent that sex with her was going to feel like rape. I usually leave before clothing comes off.

The very basic is that what was on offer in her ad has to be available. I no longer contact SPs that can't or won't indicate what's on offer and I never discuss anything on email or text. An upcharge the second I'm through the door means that the session isn't worth continuing.

 

[Elmore]

True chemistry is rare. But I can still have a good time without it.

Some women are pros and can create the illusion of true chemistry better than others...those are the ones with few or no negative reviews.

 

[Chef99]

Does chemistry matter? To me, yes it does. To many guys I don't believe it does.

Can you have true chemistry with an SP? Absolutely, even if it is a first and only date. As a minimum, there is physical chemistry to be had but even in a 1 hour appointment I look for a bit of a "connection" - the way the conversation flows, we understand each other, there's an attraction mentally and physically. The first SP (long ago now) that I experienced and I had great chemistry. It resulted in many dates including social ones for dinner and conversation.

Does every good experience indicate that there was chemistry between the SP and the visitor? No. Some guys are just looking for a quick physical release and are tired of the palm sisters.

Can you have a nice time without 'chemistry'? Yup. This is what I experience most of the time. After all, you can't click with everyone

Does the SP have to be and do everything you want, in order for there to be chemistry? Nope

Since everyone has a different definition of chemistry, does it even mean anything when it's mentioned in a review (we had chemistry or we didn't)? I think it does mean something positive although the reader needs to understand that everyone is looking for something slightly different and it doesn't mean everyone is going to feel that chemistry.

It really boils down to want a person is looking for as to whether or not chemistry matters. At the risk of over generalizing, those looking for a blo n go or other short date (30 minutes) are just looking for a release. As long as the lady is pleasant and physically pleasing to them they're going to be fairly happy. Others who are looking for a longer period of time are those more affected by chemistry - they're likely looking for a bit of conversation, some get to know you time, at least that's what I'm up for....

 

[badbadboy]

The very basic is that what was on offer in her ad has to be available. I no longer contact SPs that can't or won't indicate what's on offer and I never discuss anything on email or text. An upcharge the second I'm through the door means that the session isn't worth continuing.

I used to view the SP ads checking out their menus and found later that the SP's I enjoyed the most preferred not to post a check list of acronyms and were better suited to me and my style for lack of a better word.

Chemistry with SP's can be elusive and when you find one who truly enjoys your company as much as you enjoy their's are the ones that worthy of seeing repeatedly.

I have made some long lasting "Client / SP relationships" not to be misconstrued as anything beyond a professional relationship with great benefits

 

[voodooking]

Chemistry is the difference between me booking the same SP again.

If I can have a great conversation with an SP where we enjoy each others company along with a great time it is a big turn on and a recipe for repeat visits.

 

[DB Cooper57]

100% for me! I like to be able to relax and have a few laughs with whoever I'm with, maybe even a glass of wine. Which is why I mostly stick with ladies who are over 40 and have a laid back kind of attitude!

 

[Caramel]

I've had good times with SPs that weren't "into" me at all, however they were able to hold a conversation and provide sex that didn't feel like rape to me.

My best times have been with an SP that was selective and therefore at least liked all of her clients. (I'm sure it wasn't just me that she enjoyed)

My worst times have been with SPs that weren't seeing me (or any other man) by choice. Be it economic reasons or in thrall to someone, it was quickly apparent that sex with her was going to feel like rape. I usually leave before clothing comes off.

The very basic is that what was on offer in her ad has to be available. I no longer contact SPs that can't or won't indicate what's on offer and I never discuss anything on email or text. An upcharge the second I'm through the door means that the session isn't worth continuing.

Just keep in mind that since bill c 36 came into effect, most websites have banned any sort of advertising like that...so just because you don't see anyone posting acronyms and menus on their ads, doesn't mean they are hiding something, just means they are probably afraid of getting their ads pulled or being banned from advertising.

 

[sdw]

:cheer2:

I really like your posting style and your outlook on the industry sdw. Especially your comment #3 on this list. Hats off to you for leaving those types of situations :clap2:

edit..I mis-read the last one. I didn't think ladies were still allowed to advertise ABC's

The ads just have to be more tasteful. When I get there and find that all that she's providing is a limp hand job... well sorry, if I wanted a massage with a happy ending I would have gone to a massage parlour. Since I don't bargain hunt and don't haggle on the price - "well for an extra..." doesn't get completed because I'm gone.

Bill C36 doesn't mean that the SP can't say what's on offer, it just means that I can't legally pay you for sex. Since I can't ask, you have to tell me - - or I won't bother. It's the same thing with no mention of price in the ad or on the website. I can't offer you a price, you have to tell me - - or I won't bother.

 

[Aellyn Rose]

My best times have been with an SP that was selective and therefore at least liked all of her clients. (I'm sure it wasn't just me that she enjoyed)

I totally agree!
Being selective helps, as does encouraging longer liaisons.
Chemistry doesn't just strike, it is built over a glass of wine... Most of the time

 

[Cami Parker]

My best times have been with an SP that was selective and therefore at least liked all of her clients. (I'm sure it wasn't just me that she enjoyed)

I agree completely as well!

 

[tadolder]

Chemistry is very important to me. I spend a lot of time either by email, text, social media or phone chatting to someone before i make an appointment. If she isn't willing to invest the time doing that i don't make an appointment. The first meeting usually feels like old friends reuniting. It's backfired a couple of times but for the most it's been very successful.

 

[odonnell]

Chemistry is very important to me. I spend a lot of time either by email, text, social media or phone chatting to someone before i make an appointment. If she isn't willing to invest the time doing that i don't make an appointment. The first meeting usually feels like old friends reuniting. It's backfired a couple of times but for the most it's been very successful.

Fully agree. Chemistry is based on personality to a large extent. Mostly ladies posting ads are on the attractive side, but a bad attitude or inadequate communication and social skills is what can make or break a good connection with the opposite sex. That seems to apply whether they are in the sex trade business or not as a rule. On the other hand, don't expect the ladies to engage in endless emails either. They soon tire of contacts from men who waste their time and never book them and might decide you're one of those if you don't commit to at least a tentative booking.

 

[tadolder]

Fully agree. Chemistry is based on personality to a large extent. Mostly ladies posting ads are on the attractive side, but a bad attitude or inadequate communication and social skills is what can make or break a good connection with the opposite sex. That seems to apply whether they are in the sex trade business or not as a rule. On the other hand, don't expect the ladies to engage in endless emails either. They soon tire of contacts from men who waste their time and never book them and might decide you're one of those if you don't commit to at least a tentative booking.

If they think i am a WOT, they weren't listening, and i don't want to see them. I am very clear from the beginning with my intent, and i do as i say i will.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Fully agree. Chemistry is based on personality to a large extent. Mostly ladies posting ads are on the attractive side, but a bad attitude or inadequate communication and social skills is what can make or break a good connection with the opposite sex. That seems to apply whether they are in the sex trade business or not as a rule. On the other hand, don't expect the ladies to engage in endless emails either. They soon tire of contacts from men who waste their time and never book them and might decide you're one of those if you don't commit to at least a tentative booking.

I think it's better on both sides, if there is some communication before a get-together, whether it be text, email, or a phone call. I'm not sure if actual 'chemistry' can be gauged until the visit, but a good feeling in the introduction is important. And tadolder, your communication does make it clear that you're not a time-waster, just saying!

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Chemistry is very important to me. I spend a lot of time either by email, text, social media or phone chatting to someone before i make an appointment. If she isn't willing to invest the time doing that i don't make an appointment. The first meeting usually feels like old friends reuniting. It's backfired a couple of times but for the most it's been very successful.

That's because you're a sweetie pie!

 

[hankmoody]

Chemistry is very important to me. I spend a lot of time either by email, text, social media or phone chatting to someone before i make an appointment. If she isn't willing to invest the time doing that i don't make an appointment. The first meeting usually feels like old friends reuniting. It's backfired a couple of times but for the most it's been very successful.

Yeah i hera ya. I have a similar approach.
Some seem to have unlimited funds and time where conquests trump chemistry. The rest of us have to try to do what we can to maximize each encounter.

 

[hankmoody]

There's different levels of chemistry. I found a very high & intense level in the past and ever since then I crave it. But too much chemistry can be dangerous...high risk of complication coming from it.

I think in order to have a good time chemistry must be at about 6.0/10 to 8.8/10
Anything on the scale of 8.9 and higher and you're playing with fire...with that type of chemistry and connection, feelings and strong emotional bonding can and probably will happen. Anything lower, 5.9 and under, the time is spent together is meh.. and will feel mechanical. The lower you go the more uncomfortable and weird it will feel. Total WOT would be anything under a 3.

Interesting point and scale.

 

[sdw]

There's different levels of chemistry. I found a very high & intense level in the past and ever since then I crave it. But too much chemistry can be dangerous...high risk of complication coming from it.

I think in order to have a good time chemistry must be at about 6.0/10 to 8.8/10
Anything on the scale of 8.9 and higher and you're playing with fire...with that type of chemistry and connection, feelings and strong emotional bonding can and probably will happen. Anything lower, 5.9 and under, the time is spent together is meh.. and will feel mechanical. The lower you go the more uncomfortable and weird it will feel. Total WOT would be anything under a 3.

I like your scale. I agree that neither the client or the SP wants to get into the "Strong Attraction, Love" area. I've never seen much evidence of that going well, and much evidence of it going badly. My favorite and I were in the "Likes a Lot" area, she was just enough too young to be unrealistic as a mate, but old enough that I wasn't cradle robbing. She also had a "plan" that she carried out, which is one of the reasons that I liked her so much. I'd say that the majority of SPs that I've seen are in the 8 - 5.9 area, you don't feel that you are raping her, but you also know for sure that she wouldn't let you buy her a drink in a bar. Anything under 5.9 and I know within myself that she doesn't have a choice, for whatever reason.

Much of the time, a SP that is lower than 5.9 on your scale will try to act as if she's interested - more so than one that is 7 - 5.9 who is just laying there saying "OK fuck me and let's get this over with" - but there are the things that you pick up that say that she's under duress.

 

[FreeG]

Chemistry is very important to me. I spend a lot of time either by email, text, social media or phone chatting to someone before i make an appointment. If she isn't willing to invest the time doing that i don't make an appointment. The first meeting usually feels like old friends reuniting. It's backfired a couple of times but for the most it's been very successful.

Interesting. I've found so far that responses quickly whither after 1-2 emails. I don't pester with repeated emails, I just figure they're busy with commitments (professional or personal) and I don't take it personally. But I have assumed that until a day/time is set, SPs here don't spend much time chatting/getting to know someone. I'd prefer more exchanges to get to know each other as well - for a GFE experience, I think it's ALL about the chemistry for me! If there's no chemistry, it can still be enjoyable but definitely less so overall. For example, I wouldn't expect much personal chemistry from someone who is offering more of a PSE experience where kissing is limited and the acting may be raised up a few notches