~*~ Do you REALLY share your REAL "special request" ? ~*~

[Cami Parker]

Hello and Happy Humpday!!!
My question today is this.... Guy's, when you send a lady an appointment request at some point during the confirmation process you will inevitably get the question "do you have any special requests for our date or any fantasies you're looking to live out?" Or something along those lines.
The problem I find with this is that for the most part I'll get the answer "no" or something fairly simple like "I like red panties" and I always wonder if there mustn t be more to it than that? I wonder if gentlemen hold back their real deepest desires because even with an SP they feel they don't know us well enough to share? Or they have ideas in their minds that they just aren't ready or willing to try out in real life yet? Or they feel it's too involved and worry it would take the lady to much effort to bring to life? Or maybe I'm the one that overthinks things, (that is the female condition, isn't it? Overthinking things?)and it really is that simple, no bells and whistles required?
So I guess my question is this...
When an SP asks "do you have any special requests?" Do you always answer 100% candidly? Or are some thing's only meant to live in the back of your mind forever? Or do you not really gave Ny special requirements to makes you happy? Or maybe it depends on the situation...? Or your mood...? Or the lady...? Or the direction of the wind...??

 

[rayrice]

Hello and Happy Humpday!!!
My question today is this.... Guy's, when you send a lady an appointment request at some point during the confirmation process you will inevitably get the question "do you have any special requests for our date or any fantasies you're looking to live out?" Or something along those lines.
The problem I find with this is that for the most part I'll get the answer "no" or something fairly simple like "I like red panties" and I always wonder if there mustn t be more to it than that? I wonder if gentlemen hold back their real deepest desires because even with an SP they feel they don't know us well enough to share? Or they have ideas in their minds that they just aren't ready or willing to try out in real life yet? Or they feel it's too involved and worry it would take the lady to much effort to bring to life? Or maybe I'm the one that overthinks things, (that is the female condition, isn't it? Overthinking things?)and it really is that simple, no bells and whistles required?
So I guess my question is this...
When an SP asks "do you have any special requests?" Do you always answer 100% candidly? Or are some thing's only meant to live in the back of your mind forever? Or do you not really gave Ny special requirements to makes you happy? Or maybe it depends on the situation...? Or your mood...? Or the lady...? Or the direction of the wind...??

Myself being a little shy, I usually say no and save that special something for maybe a later date when we have known each other for a while. Am I wrong with this or should I tell I want swinging from the chandelier sex

 

[badbadboy]

"Is it too soon to ask for CIM?"

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[LADY-VIA]

"Is it too soon to ask for CIM?"

:eyebrows:

�� funny little lad you are

 

[Dickson]

Hello and Happy Humpday!!!
My question today is this.... Guy's, when you send a lady an appointment request at some point during the confirmation process you will inevitably get the question "do you have any special requests for our date or any fantasies you're looking to live out?" Or something along those lines.
The problem I find with this is that for the most part I'll get the answer "no" or something fairly simple like "I like red panties" and I always wonder if there mustn t be more to it than that? I wonder if gentlemen hold back their real deepest desires because even with an SP they feel they don't know us well enough to share? Or they have ideas in their minds that they just aren't ready or willing to try out in real life yet? Or they feel it's too involved and worry it would take the lady to much effort to bring to life? Or maybe I'm the one that overthinks things, (that is the female condition, isn't it? Overthinking things?)and it really is that simple, no bells and whistles required?
So I guess my question is this...
When an SP asks "do you have any special requests?" Do you always answer 100% candidly? Or are some thing's only meant to live in the back of your mind forever? Or do you not really gave Ny special requirements to makes you happy? Or maybe it depends on the situation...? Or your mood...? Or the lady...? Or the direction of the wind...??

Cami it depends on the mood I am in. I normally put in my dress request especially if we are going cougar hunting. Normal dress request I'd well dressed in a pencil skirt blouse heels seamed stockings garters but no panties.

Of course if we are doing the wedding event it is about the bride. Or the stewardess event. Or the business suit look for that adventure. Or the dress code for the elimidate.

I can not count how many times I have requested things and most cases the SP does not arrive dressed as requested. Never mind the role play. Most SP say they do role plays but they can not stay in character. Sp tough call for guys to ask and be let down. That might be why guys wait until after the first meeting to see if they can handle it.

My question to you I just learned that my events are not well received by SPs. So buying them gifts is not appreciated. Why is that? I thought getting them gifts would be great but I just learned they do not like it as they see it not for them but me. Strange.or am I nuts. Don't answer that.

 

[badbadboy]

�� funny little lad you are

Nice to see an appreciation of some humour in the Lounge.....

 

[badbadboy]

To be serious about this my reply is always

"Whatever you feel sexiest wearing"

I've never been disappointed ever. The outfits ranged from sexy summer dresses, sexy lingerie sets, dressy jeans with a sexy top. Sometimes a jaw dropper like white high heels and a white thong (that's it!) which looked amazing with her newly tanned skin from her Southern Vacation.

Or the best one - naked and she took me by the hand saying "come on Badboy, we are showering together today".

 

[sybian]

Like a high percentage of men here....I'm a boob guy, so a lot of oil, a set of DD's, and just the right amount of bounce is my special request.
If we are comfortable together,...usually on a second appointment , and there is a level of trust.
I might ask about locating her G-Spot, and the best tools to achieve the wanted resuts.
I don't always approach that subject with every one of them...Some don't respond to great big cowboys...or they take good manners as being shy, which I'm not. Finding that SP,the trust .. and that comfort level is very rare.

 

[Cami Parker]

First if all, I personally think you make a great time of it. I think it's so much fun to get outside the box and do something different. I'm not sure why they wouldn't be well recieved by some ladies except I do know that some categorize clients into "easy" or "difficult". A client with many i depth detailed requests would be, for some, labeled "difficult" and some ladies only like "easy" clients. Personally, I think new adventures in sexy town are fun. As for gifts, I'm not sure what you're refering to exactly. Like an outfit you want them to wear? Yes, that would be for you not them. But why is there anything wrong with that? This is a customer service industry and you'd think they would be greatful for your assistance in helping them bring your fantasy to life, so I really can't comment on that... Maybe it's something we should discuss more via email or PM...
And yes... We're all mad here

Cami it depends on the mood I am in. I normally put in my dress request especially if we are going cougar hunting. Normal dress request I'd well dressed in a pencil skirt blouse heels seamed stockings garters but no panties.

Of course if we are doing the wedding event it is about the bride. Or the stewardess event. Or the business suit look for that adventure. Or the dress code for the elimidate.

I can not count how many times I have requested things and most cases the SP does not arrive dressed as requested. Never mind the role play. Most SP say they do role plays but they can not stay in character. Sp tough call for guys to ask and be let down. That might be why guys wait until after the first meeting to see if they can handle it.

My question to you I just learned that my events are not well received by SPs. So buying them gifts is not appreciated. Why is that? I thought getting them gifts would be great but I just learned they do not like it as they see it not for them but me. Strange.or am I nuts. Don't answer that.

 

[Cami Parker]

I agree! I guess the reason I ask us because I've always been an over achiever and would be really upset to find out the client was wanting something I didn't provide, simply because he didn't mention it. I've always been a "what can I do better?" Type of girl, and this is no different.

I go ahead and ask for what I want. I am paying for it after all. If she's not down to play, I would rather know up front. As we get to know each other, the requests get more fun and more involved.

 

[Cami Parker]

There is No right or wrong. That's why I ask... Just wondering if all the guys that say "nope, just you!" Really mean it.

Myself being a little shy, I usually say no and save that special something for maybe a later date when we have known each other for a while. Am I wrong with this or should I tell I want swinging from the chandelier sex

 

[Cami Parker]

As George Takei would say "OH MYYY!"
Haha
I understand your hesitation in sharing something that some may considder to be "taboo" with a lady you've never met. However, special charges for special requests is super lame.

Early on in this hobby, I never considered making special requests.
It was enough to deal with nerves, be on time, know what to do, how to ask for things etc.
But then maybe I'm shy by nature. Eventually though, I learned to really read a girls
ad, pay attention to what she's wearing.
i.e. If I sensed she might be into some "taboo" roleplay, I'd make that special request.
But for obvious reasons, I was very careful in doing so. I really didn't want to creep out
or piss off an SP. And, I also became careful about wording. (thank you Massage Table Simone)
i.e. who plays the dominant one?
How uncomfortable would it be to show up and find your SP wearing a strapon? Ha ha.
(Simone would greet you at a distance standing face front to you.)
Maybe some clients want to have a few sessions with an
SP before making a special request?
I digress.
It may also be that some are hesitant to ask or get specific because in some cases, special requests
end up in more charges.

 

[Cami Parker]

I think that when you are in the customer service industry you need to be open to answering any and all questions about the services you provide. It's only reasonable...

Heh. Well. Thankfully there was no strap on action! But her point was important and a good lesson.

The only times I've experienced extra charges were with SP's in a lower price range.
(can we mention prices in this forum?) Anyhow....

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I guess it can't hurt to ask.
If someone takes offence to a politely worded question.....

 

[Tabitha]

I love special requests! From Roleplay to specific outfits .... just as long as I am given enough time to prepare.

Funny story - I had a client who booked a BDSM duo, and the guy was SO specific, he sent me a 8 page PDF file complete with screenshots, dialogue, illustrations, likes, dislikes, wardrobe examples and more...

 

[sevenofnine]

I was told once by a lady she doesn't discuss anything in emails or text, she was in court once and everything she ever typed was brought up it seems.

Another lady I discussed quite a bit what I was looking for but then someone told me everything I was writing to her was being reposted in the sp lounge.

It is easier it seems for me any way to ask special requests face to face, and never on a first date, just see how it goes, how comfortable we are with each other, etc,
its funny but every lady is different some times you get a women and something particular just turns you on fascinates me about her, another lady its something different,

and really women are kind of fascinating you can have a very pornstar lady, and you can ask her the most simplest thing and she will say no,
a safe gfe girl will say yes to the same request.
its weird how that works sometime,

 

[alcxd]

I generally comment to the SP as to what I'm into but not in great detail.
I see only a few specific SP's in Vic right now so we tend to work together or they surprise me.
The last date was lunch, lingerie shopping as her BDay was the week before, and a nice relaxing scented bath while we polished off 2 bottles of wine.
Sorry I degress, I guess the first date is to see how we or if we connect, how open she makes me me feel she is towards things.
Starting with pm's, helps a lot & can become quite exhilarating especially when working on meeting an out of town girl.

 

[Equity Market investor]

I'm pretty upfront, but I do ask at start if she has a liken to fantasy type of sessions? Some ladies respond asking what type of fantasy sessions I'm leaning towards because fantasy sessions can be very broad based. Some may assume BDSM plays.

I'm more into being dominated by a lady, but NOT the full BDSM hurt and pain area. I'll pass on that lol.

I prefer lighter levels such as merciless smothering by ass and pussy, aggressive forced DATY, being tied to a chair with a tease n denial done ( various methods like taking time with a BJ / Handjob on and off ........or chair sex / riding (bouncing ) on and off ). Just to name a few simple ones.

I look at it as keeping it somewhat interesting rather than your standard sex plays that done over and over again. Definitely nothing wrong with that....just adding twists to play sessions.

 

[Cami Parker]

That's so fun and sexy! Thanks for being so candid. It really adds to the conversation.

I'm pretty upfront, but I do ask at start if she has a liken to fantasy type of sessions? Some ladies respond asking what type of fantasy sessions I'm leaning towards because fantasy sessions can be very broad based. Some may assume BDSM plays.

I'm more into being dominated by a lady, but NOT the full BDSM hurt and pain area. I'll pass on that lol.

I prefer lighter levels such as merciless smothering by ass and pussy, aggressive forced DATY, being tied to a chair with a tease n denial done ( various methods like taking time with a BJ / Handjob on and off ........or chair sex / riding (bouncing ) on and off ). Just to name a few simple ones.

I look at it as keeping it somewhat interesting rather than your standard sex plays that done over and over again. Definitely nothing wrong with that....just adding twists to play sessions.