Hi I was wondering if anyone out there has had this problem? I don't have a problem getting it up but when it comes time to cum I can't:-( it is very frustrating. My lady friend is so mad at me because I can't cum inside her, she has threatened to leave me:-( Has anyone experienced this? Or does anyone know of an answer or way to fix the problem? I know this may not be to place to ask but I need to find answers before I lose her.
Delayed ejaculation?
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It's complex. Busy not. Just one question. Only with your lady friend, how about with SPs?
Look at this and we can chat. Not time now
http://www.webmd.com/men/features/overcoming-ejaculation-problems?page=2
Look at this and we can chat. Not time now
http://www.webmd.com/men/features/overcoming-ejaculation-problems?page=2
FACTORS IN DELAY:
AGE
NITRIC OXIDE
testosterone
history
moods
life force
medications, particularly beta blockers, alcohol and smoking
partner's status (is she turned on able to climax easily. If so pleasure her first (oral, oral with finger, vibrator, face sitting, 69 ??? Know or find out what she likes.)
Anxiety (I think this will be big for you, probably her
I have a fix for T and NO, but in relation to my wife, whom I love things are at an impasse. We flirt find each other good even sexy at 80+. But it has been months since WE have had it off.
We got together 20+years ago. After the death of my wife of 30+ years. She was Granny for 6 out of 7 of my grands. I reciprocated.
She is half my size and fragile. So now sex is more expensive, more trouble, more dangerous and more fun (for me).
Well! The home flirting is getting stronger! Just popped a cialis! (The do help by raising NO, and cialis has longest duration.)
Gotta go
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OB
AGE
NITRIC OXIDE
testosterone
history
moods
life force
medications, particularly beta blockers, alcohol and smoking
partner's status (is she turned on able to climax easily. If so pleasure her first (oral, oral with finger, vibrator, face sitting, 69 ??? Know or find out what she likes.)
Anxiety (I think this will be big for you, probably her
I have a fix for T and NO, but in relation to my wife, whom I love things are at an impasse. We flirt find each other good even sexy at 80+. But it has been months since WE have had it off.
We got together 20+years ago. After the death of my wife of 30+ years. She was Granny for 6 out of 7 of my grands. I reciprocated.
She is half my size and fragile. So now sex is more expensive, more trouble, more dangerous and more fun (for me).
Well! The home flirting is getting stronger! Just popped a cialis! (The do help by raising NO, and cialis has longest duration.)
Gotta go
-OB
I first tried to reply to Curling M"s PM, then it tried to PM Curling m. Neither seemed. Help, I need perb PM schooling! And I am such a bad typer! It is so laboriously slow. I have bad wiring!
This for CM:
Never too late!
Let me know how it goes. I may need help myself.
Just posted to your thread
This for CM:
Never too late!
Let me know how it goes. I may need help myself.
Just posted to your thread
SSRI antidrepressants have a well know side effect of delaying or preventing ejaculation. When I was younger I happened to be on one and I called it my porn star drug, I could get it up but it took a great deal of effort to bring myself off. could bang forever and a day.Explained it to the doc and she moved me to an antidepressant that does not have this side effect and things became normal.
In the end you are responsible for what I call "catching the wave", sometimes you just have to go with the urge because experience has shown me that sometimes it just doesn't return. I have had a few sessions where I have been bone hard from beginning to end, banged the living shit out of a very willing companion, but in spite of my and her best effort I just could not catch the wave and make my self come. This is more prevalent as you age.
Also know your good old reliable triggers, for me, doggy, lay down doggie, standing CIM in front of a mirror or the good old fashioned Italian. Sometimes you just have to take control of the situation and go with what stimulates you the best.
In the end you are responsible for what I call "catching the wave", sometimes you just have to go with the urge because experience has shown me that sometimes it just doesn't return. I have had a few sessions where I have been bone hard from beginning to end, banged the living shit out of a very willing companion, but in spite of my and her best effort I just could not catch the wave and make my self come. This is more prevalent as you age.
Also know your good old reliable triggers, for me, doggy, lay down doggie, standing CIM in front of a mirror or the good old fashioned Italian. Sometimes you just have to take control of the situation and go with what stimulates you the best.
Thanks everyone for your input. I have never done drugs or anything like that. I have seen my doctor and he said everything is ok. He gave me the name of a therapist to go and see and I have an appointment to see him next week. She is younger then me I am 48. I had this issue years ago with someone I was with for a year until she left because of this issue. I will keep people who are interested updated. Thanks again for all your replies it has helped.
Hey OB if your gonna throw quotes out at lest get them right LOL "it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all"
it is better to have loved and lost than never to have lost at all. Samuel Butler, The Way of All Flesh, Chapter 77. English composer, novelist, & satiric author ...
I shouda googled first.
So there ;-)-
Actually, depending on the nature of the relationship, THIS version could be quite apt!
The familiar classic version ending "... never to have loved at all" is from Tennyson "In Memorium A.H.H", for the literary impaired like myself
yea I have had problems with this actually the first time I lost my virginity it was rather embarrassing I was with a swinger couple at Aquarius and I kept on ponding away at the lady. While the husband took pictures
at one point I think the room attendant . Said something to the effect that they where planning on continuing to play with the energizer bunny someone would have to pay for an extra hour . After about 30 min or so I finally used my own hand to finish on her bust
My problem was because of to much porn use my penis had become used to my hand which feels way different from a woman's vagina I finally fixed it with a young lady named Holly at broadways
"
I was going on and on talking and thinking. about my Cock . When Holly said " we don't have a lot of time left please just shut up and fuck me " she then made a moaning noise and said " I am going to cum all over your cock" I felt something like a warm shower from her spray onto the tip of my penis which was in her vagina I had given her a vibrator for her clitoris and I just cleared my mind and I ended up ejaculating in her
I could tell that's what happened because I could see it in the condom
it was over 3 years ago so I forget what I paid.
The guide to getting it on has a section on delayed ejaculation
which might help. My advice is don't think about it just clear your mind and fuck kind of like using sex as a sort of Zen exercise .
also see your doctor to see if anything else might be wrong
I was with a swinger couple at Aquarius and I kept on ponding away at the lady. While the husband took pictures at one point I think the room attendant . Said something to the effect that they where planning on continuing to play with the energizer bunny someone would have to pay for an extra hour . After about 30 min or so I finally used my own hand to finish on her bust
My problem was because of to much porn use my penis had become used to my hand which feels way different from a woman's vagina I finally fixed it with a young lady named Holly at broadways
"
I was going on and on talking and thinking. about my Cock . When Holly said " we don't have a lot of time left please just shut up and fuck me " she then made a moaning noise and said " I am going to cum all over your cock" I felt something like a warm shower from her spray onto the tip of my penis which was in her vagina I had given her a vibrator for her clitoris and I just cleared my mind and I ended up ejaculating in her
I could tell that's what happened because I could see it in the condom
it was over 3 years ago so I forget what I paid.
The guide to getting it on has a section on delayed ejaculation
which might help. My advice is don't think about it just clear your mind and fuck kind of like using sex as a sort of Zen exercise .
also see your doctor to see if anything else might be wrong
