Defense Mechanisms For Pooning Privacy

[sevenofnine]

Maybe this is stupid, but have a good relationship with your wife.

How many guys have come on here and says their wife knows and looks the other way.

I was caught red handed in the bar with my sp by my wife's girlfriend. She chose to ignore it.

I don't know what's going on at home why you need to poon.
But treat your wife, in such a way she knows how good it is. There is no place better then she can be and she dam well knows it.

And of course if your wife is so great you couldn't live with out her, you shouldn't dam well poon.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Maybe this is stupid, but have a good relationship with your wife.

How many guys have come on here and says their wife knows and looks the other way.

I was caught red handed in the bar with my sp by my wife's girlfriend. She chose to ignore it.

I don't know what's going on at home why you need to poon.
But treat your wife, in such a way she knows how good it is. There is no place better then she can be and she dam well knows it.

And of course if your wife is so great you couldn't live with out her, you shouldn't dam well poon.

Every now and then, 7of9, your comments are really awesome. IMHO, today is one of those days! :nod:

 

[amigo67]

am I wrong to assume that in general pooners never share this part of their life’s with others?

I usually get a high 5 from my friends... but I am single... and loving it.

 

[Tugela]

Aren't you the same guy that said it's not fair for your wife to decide that you are not having sex anymore?
Pooning does not, in itself, mean that your marriage has failed, it could just mean you don’t get sex at home.

Actually, it DOES mean your marriage has failed, you just haven't recognized it yet (or refuse to). The fact that you are basically living together as roomies doesn't mean the marriage is successful, because it has broken down at a very fundamental level.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Actually, it DOES mean your marriage has failed, you just haven't recognized it yet (or refuse to). The fact that you are basically living together as roomies doesn't mean the marriage is successful, because it has broken down at a very fundamental level.

Well said...no one announces (verbally or by their actions) "I'm not having sex with you anymore" without some fundamental breakdown in the relationship somewhere (unless it's a health-related issue, which then deserves addressing, of course).

People have been staying together for the kids (or for the house, or the in-laws, or because they don't want the drama, or to avoid the financial meltdown, or the .......................) for a very long time, let's be honest.

 

[VanessaofBC]

Maybe this is stupid, but have a good relationship with your wife.

How many guys have come on here and says their wife knows and looks the other way.

I was caught red handed in the bar with my sp by my wife's girlfriend. She chose to ignore it.

I don't know what's going on at home why you need to poon.
But treat your wife, in such a way she knows how good it is. There is no place better then she can be and she dam well knows it.

And of course if your wife is so great you couldn't live with out her, you shouldn't dam well poon.

Every now and then, 7of9, your comments are really awesome. IMHO, today is one of those days! :nod:

I think this is very wise as well.

Well said...no one announces (verbally or by their actions) "I'm not having sex with you anymore" without some fundamental breakdown in the relationship somewhere (unless it's a health-related issue, which then deserves addressing, of course).

People have been staying together for the kids (or for the house, or the in-laws, or because they don't want the drama, or to avoid the financial meltdown, or the .......................) for a very long time, let's be honest.

This is a sad statement. I wonder why some people even bother getting married, or, how they can stand to stay. I would feel like I was losing a piece of my soul.

 

[superhappyfun]

Common sense is probably the best defense for pooning privacy. I don't try particularly hard to hide my pooning activities from those close to me because I have not relinquished my sexual freedom by making empty promises. I am open with my sexual partners about my pooning activities and they can either take it or leave it. From SPs themselves I care little whether they know my true identity. Virtually all of the SP's that I've seen have been professional enough to respect my privacy and in any case I try to guage the reliability of SPs before I see them. From the public at large I try to keep this hobby private but it would not be the end of the world for me if I were outed as a pooner. Pooning is a perfectly legal pastime in this country and I am well prepared to challenge the stigma that some close-minded segments of society place upon it. That said, it amazes me when people don't take simple privacy measures like activating screen lock passwords on their phones, or when they have joint phone plans or accounts with spouses and use the same for activities that they would wish to hide. If it really matters to you to hide this hobby, then by all means take more extensive privacy measures, but it is not as if we are in the US where law enforcement actually persecutes people for pooning. Even in divorce, infidelity is no longer a factor that Canadian courts consider in asset distribution or alimony awards. People need to ask themselves honestly: What is the worst thing that could happen if someone found out that you visited an SP?

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Well said...no one announces (verbally or by their actions) "I'm not having sex with you anymore" without some fundamental breakdown in the relationship somewhere (unless it's a health-related issue, which then deserves addressing, of course).

Oh, my bad, so a broken vagina on an otherwise great partner invalidates a marriage?
Two dudes with no vagina can have a real marriage but a woman losing her ability to shagg can not have a marriage.
I guess I hadn’t realized that sex defines marriage and everything else is just hanging around. :doh: silly me.

My dear 'friend', I always took you for someone who read the entire comment!

 

[visiting]

I wouldn't post about my recognizable car on the internet...

LOL I don't know why, but when I hear "recognizable car" being mentioned on perb, I keep getting this image....

A long time ago someone told me a joke (I think it was a joke..) about a guy that arrived home from visting his favorite SP, and before he opened the door to walk into his house, he rubbed his pants on the grass a little, walked in and says honey I am home..... she responds with Hi honey, where have you been all afternoon? He tell's her the truth, honey I had sex with my Girlfriend, and it was awesome.... His wife looks at him, sees the grass stains, and says liar, you were playing gof again, I see the grass stains on your pants, and they never talked about it again.....
So I have been rubbing my pants in grass since......

 

[PlayfulAlex]

I wouldn't post about my recognizable car on the internet or where I park it when hobbying, or mention the things I do currently. If you use a computer at home with the same spouse, I wouldn't browse this site. And I'd clear the history of any device daily. The internet is the easiest way/place to get caught.

LOL I don't know why, but when I hear "recognizable car" being mentioned on perb, I keep getting this image....

What you talkin' bout, Willis, did you see my car somewhere?

 

[Tugela]

Oh, my bad, so a broken vagina on an otherwise great partner invalidates a marriage?
Two dudes with no vagina can have a real marriage but a woman losing her ability to shagg can not have a marriage.
I guess I hadn’t realized that sex defines marriage and everything else is just hanging around. :doh: silly me.

What have vaginas got to do with it? When you have a breakdown in intimacy, where one party decides to deny the other, the marriage is essentially over. You might still live together, you might still have a contract, you might still live a façade, but the whole point of being married is gone. You are just room mates at that point, nothing more.

 

[sevenofnine]

Only once in a while my comments are great,
I beg to differ.

My marriage failed?
Im not really going to discuss my marriage on this forum

But that is very personal I mean that is for me to decide, and my wife how much of a failure we are or our marriage is.

I try to have a happy family me my wife and kids. And to be honest we are,
I know a few who aren't as happy as us.

I know a few families that are a real mess, to be honest with you.

Is it really so bad, I mean,
you need something outside your marriage,
so you take care of it discreetly quietly respectfully.

 

[Feenix]

There are some great ideas in this thread.

My SO and I do not live together, so some of my techniques may not work for you.

I do keep a separate pooning email address that only I have the password to.

If I am "pooning" on her computer I change users and delete the search prior to changing users back to normal.

I do have favourite SP's in my cell phone, but hidden under a code name, usually a business name. I do not get a record of phone calls with my bill.

I delete any text messages before seeing my SO.

My work is such that I can get away in the evenings without raising suspicion. Working from home allows daytime trysts, which are my preference.

My car is non-descript, so I have no need to hide it. (I could never understand how Magnum could be a PI and drive a bright yellow Ferrari.)

 

[CJ Tylers]

I would truly hate for sex to have such power that the absence of it determines the downfall of a loving marriage...

 

[amigo67]

LOL I don't know why, but when I hear "recognizable car" being mentioned on perb, I keep getting this image

I think of this one

 

[sevenofnine]

I would truly hate for sex to have such power that the absence of it determines the downfall of a loving marriage...

You know, sex is so misunderstood.

I think it never stands alone it goes with fear insecurity manhood loneliness.
You go so long with unfulfilled desire, at some point you do anything.

Marriage is long it takes work effort.

Part of me wishes I would have never started this,
but part of me knows I had to.

Sex is so unimportant, but when desire and misunderstanding and confusion fill your head, you don't realize that.

My wife is not my soul mate. I think your a fucking bastard if you betray your soul mate.

Some one said most people are flawed,
My father was a rapist my mother would show me her bruises and send me out the door to school.

Believe me, I was very very flawed, some people would say I still am.

at this point in my life it doesn't really matter.

someone's comment,
there not married there roommates.

you would be surprised how many married people are more or less room mates, not at all soul mates.

 

[Larry Storch]

LOL I don't know why, but when I hear "recognizable car" being mentioned on perb, I keep getting this image....

I get this: