Dating clients...

[VanMichael]

I'm curious as to how common it is for women to become involved with their clients from a relationship standpoint...and how the progression is made?

I've dated one women from this profession who is also on this site, but we'll leave it at that We met in a social setting so it wasn't related to this, but I was fine with it once I found out what she did. Just a new and interesting dynamic to a great relationship. The open communication regarding everything was fantastic but can everyone really handle that? I guess it depends on the individual mentality regarding monogamy and the emotional connection to sex.

Anyway, I'm just rambling, but it's interesting nonetheless.

 

[MissAvaSin]

I have.

I had a 3 year relationship with a one time booking who turned into a relationship IMMEDIATELY. No, I wouldn't reccomend it because it's too easy for your past/occupation to be thrown at you and his indiscretions with SP's that I knew to be thrown at him.

It can be a very un-healthy situation. That being said, I still talk to him and he's a really good friend now. We're better friends than spouses. Am I glad I met him, yes but I wish it hadn't of been through this medium.

 

[VanMichael]

That is a difficult avenue to overcome. It can open the door for some pretty sharp verbal darts. But with that being said, that's were the communication plays such an important role. I mean that's just my opinion, but it seemed to help with my relationship (Although it did ultimately end)

Are you open about everything when you date someone who's not a client?

 

[MissAvaSin]

That is a difficult avenue to overcome. It can open the door for some pretty sharp verbal darts. But with that being said, that's were the communication plays such an important role. I mean that's just my opinion, but it seemed to help with my relationship (Although it did ultimately end)

Are you open about everything when you date someone who's not a client?

Not always. Depends on what he says when I feel him out. I make small talk and bring it up, ask their opinions. If they seem non judgemental, I'd tell em, but if I get the 'Whores and hooker jokes/slams' then I know it's someone who isn't worth my time, much less my love.

 

[VanMichael]

That's true in all apsects. I think when you're with someone the ideal situation is not feeling like you need to leave anything unsaid or hidden. That could be weather you are an escort of if you're the client of an escort. Being able to be honest and not judged is ideal.

 

[moi]

I dated one client once. It was weird because I brought him for dinner to meet my girls and they were SPs too and he was embarassed and everything just felt awkward. He's a great guy but it's too bad we met through this. Along with it comes feelings of if he's just with me for the sex, or w/e.

 

[VanMichael]

Don't think that feeling of he's just with me for the sex is unique to this situation or is it general across the board?

 

[Willingham]

I had this issue - I could not handle it - once she told me she loved me, I expected commitment and no more whoreing around. It didn't happen.

The relationship was all one sided in her direction. A very selfish girl who is very unhappy and lonely today.

 

[trackstar]

I had this issue - I could not handle it - once she told me she loved me, I expected commitment and no more whoreing around. It didn't happen.

The relationship was all one sided in her direction. A very selfish girl who is very unhappy and lonely today.

Ouch!

 

[VanMichael]

I had this issue - I could not handle it - once she told me she loved me, I expected commitment and no more whoreing around. It didn't happen.

The relationship was all one sided in her direction. A very selfish girl who is very unhappy and lonely today.

Now that doesn't sound like much fun!

 

[mimi]

When this happened to one of us (sp's) the others, including me, would say "watch out he's gonna own you!" and generally be very discouraging. Then it happened to me, and I got the same reaction from the girls..."he's just trying to get it for free..." etc. And that is the way it turned out. It's a very unrealistic way to meet a potential soul mate!

 

[moi]

I've never been tempted to ask out a SP I frequent but if I were to ask one out, I would take it very slow. You know...back away from having sex and really get to know the girl over several dates. Of course if the relationship doesn't work out, I've just lost my favorite gal and left the SP jaded over dating clients. There's risks to everything but unless you try, all you'll have are regrets.

thats the agreement we had too, we didn't have sex outside of that one time we met as client and SP but just the whole weirdness of it was screwed.

If i were to get serious with someone, I would quit, not like it's the end of the world, but my partner would have to be prepared to support me. I dont mean financially, but emotionally, help me budget etc. and go on cheap dates xD

 

[MrPeterNorth]

I have to admit I have been tempted on one or two occasions. It takes a really special person to capture my interest for something more than just a casual fling.

I'm curious - how did the relationship(s) start? Does the guy still traditionally ask the SP out for 'real' time, or does the guy generally wait until the girl makes the first move considering the circumstances? I just don't want to confuse real feelings for lust and look like a schmuck in the process.

For me, it would have to have nothing to do with sex... at first. I would probably never see them again as a client, and I would wait quite a while before I had sex with them to make sure the emotions were of the 'real' variety. Sometimes you ask yourself, man, if only I met this girl somewhere 'normal' things would have progressed a lot faster. Though I live by the firm notion that if you click with someone, you click. All else is irrelevant.

The good thing I suppose is that you've already had sex together - so girls know what type of package they get to play with - no small surprises
And you find out right away if you match physically... some people wait a long time to have sex, only to find out their partner really has a 2" member and can't do anything with it... etc.

Thoughts?

 

[Guardian Angel]

I have dated SP's

There is no question you have to have a different mentality if you are going to date an lady in this business. I do respect their sensitivity to the situation, the past or current position of what they are doing is never one of my fears. What is most important is to give unconditional love and allow them to control the destiny of the relationship. No pressure.

That way if it does not work out, you can at least have the fond memories of being her sweetheart while you were together. No different than any other relationship. And add a new friend for life if a long term partnership is not in the stars.

You get out of it what you put in to it.

G.A.

 

[little Cowboy]

There is no question you have to have a different mentality if you are going to date an lady in this business. I do respect their sensitivity to the situation, the past or current position of what they are doing is never one of my fears. What is most important is to give unconditional love and allow them to control the destiny of the relationship. No pressure.

That way if it does not work out, you can at least have the fond memories of being her sweetheart while you were together. No different than any other relationship. And add a new friend for life if a long term partnership is not in the stars.

You get out of it what you put in to it.

G.A.

That was very well said G.A. It requires a very different mind set from the man in particular and he must be willing to allow her the space that she'll need.

As hard as it is you cannot ever say 'It's me or them' if you can't be emotionally strong enough to not ever ask that, you'd best not let yourself fall.

Becoming emotionally involved with someone isn't about the sex, its about love and expressions of love.

I do think, however, given two emotionally secure people, the relationship could be quite rewarding and full of adventure.

 

[smackyo]

When this happened to one of us (sp's) the others, including me, would say "watch out he's gonna own you!" and generally be very discouraging. Then it happened to me, and I got the same reaction from the girls..."he's just trying to get it for free..." etc. And that is the way it turned out. It's a very unrealistic way to meet a potential soul mate!

so is keeping your mind closed to different possibilities and pre-judging people based on things your "friends" say.

exercise caution yes but also make the effort to realize that every situation is different.

 

[mclovin76]

3 for me made 1 quit that was a bad idea did it behind my back anyways i found out, the first one quit on her own but cheated on me , and the last one it was weird we cared about each other she asked to marry me after 2 years but i refused, wanted me to get a real job and take care of her but i felt i was incapable of that, i miss her. Dated another one but very briefly.

 

[rampart]

Had two as SO never pressured them for anything and I just asked for my independence and not to be bugged about trivial matters. Let them come to me for intimate moments as they knew I could get sex anywhere. They were both 10-12 years younger and looked at me for the no head game no pressure fun with some good wisdom and guidance thrown in. Both relationships ended friendly as we grew apart like most people do but refuse to admit. One is now married with kids and the other was living in Australia or New Zealand both retired.

 

[Lurker 123]

I had this issue - I could not handle it - once she told me she loved me, I expected commitment and no more whoreing around. It didn't happen.
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In my case, that is a different story.She stopped seeing other clients and now she is retired completely. The only problem is after she quited her job as a sp, I had to support her for awhile before she found a new job. Nevertheless we have been dating each other for three years now !