Dating an escort
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Speaking of cutting and pasting, this is my favourite line from post #70...maybe someone will start a thread on this hot topic...
strange but it feels like i am dating an escort.
it seems we have gone beyond the normal stuff this hobby has to offer,
and i find it way to personal to write anything about her and me in terms of this hobby because none of it applys.
and there are highs and lows good points and bad. but you know that is life.
were both adults and this isn't our first rodeo
my only comment would be with guys who think they deserve something or think they were taken by an sp because they happened to fall in love with her or paid her money or both.
there was a thread about giving an sp a gift,
you do it with no expectations of anything in return.
love friendship is the same with an sp or any women, you give it freely and willingly with nothing expected in return
if it is your twice blessed, once for the ability and the feeling you get from being in love or just having a close friend and you have helped them or care, and second because it was given back,
life is never perfect, im far from perfect. i think love or friendship or caring is the act of over looking some ones imperfections and just accepting
and of course sometimes its time to move on.
i don't know why we have to blame some one find fault with people all the time
i have i must confess, but it is so a waste of time
and you should start with the person you see in the mirror
it seems we have gone beyond the normal stuff this hobby has to offer,
and i find it way to personal to write anything about her and me in terms of this hobby because none of it applys.
and there are highs and lows good points and bad. but you know that is life.
were both adults and this isn't our first rodeo
my only comment would be with guys who think they deserve something or think they were taken by an sp because they happened to fall in love with her or paid her money or both.
there was a thread about giving an sp a gift,
you do it with no expectations of anything in return.
love friendship is the same with an sp or any women, you give it freely and willingly with nothing expected in return
if it is your twice blessed, once for the ability and the feeling you get from being in love or just having a close friend and you have helped them or care, and second because it was given back,
life is never perfect, im far from perfect. i think love or friendship or caring is the act of over looking some ones imperfections and just accepting
and of course sometimes its time to move on.
i don't know why we have to blame some one find fault with people all the time
i have i must confess, but it is so a waste of time
and you should start with the person you see in the mirror
totally agree.......
Just ask her out...at least then you will know for sure.....good luck to you
My two cents:
I've had two similar experiences with SP's in the past where it moved beyond a client/sp relationship.
1: Summer. Ah Summer. No other girl, SP or "normal" girl I dated compared. She literally ruined sex for me, she was that good. Now everytime I'm with someone new, I always hold them up to her in the back of my mind. Anyways, the story. I saw her for a GFE, it went very well and like you, I felt a connection. We exchanged private numbers and she told me her real name. We dirty texted alot and she even sent me private videos of her playing with herself. As I saw her more frequently at her agency, there would be little things I noticed that she may have been "more than an act."
For example, she told me that she wished all her clients were like me, but then said outloud that she shouldn't be thinking like that. She gave me the nickname "Danimal" in text and in real life with sincere affection. I stopped having to pay "extras" (as this was a very greedy agency, don't ask). We usually ended up over the clock and she even let me do things she didn't offer on her menu such as cim/greek. Anyways, eventually I went to see her again but the girl at the front said she was not available even though Summer was listed on the site's schedule. Two more similar visits and I got more bullshit answers, and eventually was told that she doesn't want to see me, no explanation. Finally I texted her and asked what's up. She gave me a long, detailed text describing how she couldn't see me anymore because she couldn't concentrate on her work and how she was thinking about me all the time with other clients, how she wanted to be with me but couldn't etc... Said I should move on and that would be easier/best for the both of us. It messed me up for awhile and I even made a silly vow to myself that I wouldn't see another SP until I got to see Summer again. Sadly she quit a few months later and I've never heard from her since and have continued my pooning ways, hollow.
2: "Danielle" another SP from the same agency (about a year later). She was pretty new and convinced me to stay for an hour instead of half an hour like I originally planned. She seemed nervous and I asked what's up? She said that I was really hot and liked my tattoos. She let me have a gfe without the extra cost (again greedy agency). Told me how she should charge me extra for this etc. After our session she said that she wished we could just lay like this forever. I said me too. She gave me her number and a couple days later I visited her at her house. I was going to move to Vancouver in October but got...distracted. We saw each other every day, sometimes I slept over at her place, sometimes her at mine. I told myself that this was just a fling that I will still move. But she was so damn convincing with her talk of meeting the right person, how we are practically dating, hanging out (pubs, movies, mall) between our crazy fuck sessions.
Anyways long story short. Eventually I started falling for her (my mistake). I had access to party favours at the time and she was into it (red flag). But it felt so good having this constant in my life (I estimate I would have easily spent $30,000 or more if I saw her at the agency). Eventually her personality changed and her past relationship/issues reared its ugly head and she blamed me for alot of shit. After some arguments, screaming, threats on both sides; we decided to break up and remain friends (unlikely) but we were being polite.
In November I moved to Vancouver as originally planned.
Moral/Lesson of the stories? Be careful what you wish for. Though it seems a fantasy come true to have your SP be yours alone, don't expect her to walk away from the money so easily. Be prepared to "share" her with other clients even though she comes home to you. Imagine dating a known porn star, you choose how much of her work you want to see/hear. Keep it CASUAL. Though it may seem like love, when you take a close look under the circumstances in which you met, can you honestly see this woman as the mother of your child/soul mate for life? I'm not saying it's never happened, but it is a rare, rare thing that I have yet to see/hear about. So, if it does move beyond the client/sp relationship. Just enjoy it, have fun, treat it for what it is. A curious, unique, pleasure filled experience that you take with you but do not treat this girl as the be all end all of life's opportunities. Perhaps if she was willing to quit her job for you it would be different (both of mine continued working while we were "dating").
Good luck. Peace!
I've had two similar experiences with SP's in the past where it moved beyond a client/sp relationship.
1: Summer. Ah Summer. No other girl, SP or "normal" girl I dated compared. She literally ruined sex for me, she was that good. Now everytime I'm with someone new, I always hold them up to her in the back of my mind. Anyways, the story. I saw her for a GFE, it went very well and like you, I felt a connection. We exchanged private numbers and she told me her real name. We dirty texted alot and she even sent me private videos of her playing with herself. As I saw her more frequently at her agency, there would be little things I noticed that she may have been "more than an act."
For example, she told me that she wished all her clients were like me, but then said outloud that she shouldn't be thinking like that. She gave me the nickname "Danimal" in text and in real life with sincere affection. I stopped having to pay "extras" (as this was a very greedy agency, don't ask). We usually ended up over the clock and she even let me do things she didn't offer on her menu such as cim/greek. Anyways, eventually I went to see her again but the girl at the front said she was not available even though Summer was listed on the site's schedule. Two more similar visits and I got more bullshit answers, and eventually was told that she doesn't want to see me, no explanation. Finally I texted her and asked what's up. She gave me a long, detailed text describing how she couldn't see me anymore because she couldn't concentrate on her work and how she was thinking about me all the time with other clients, how she wanted to be with me but couldn't etc... Said I should move on and that would be easier/best for the both of us. It messed me up for awhile and I even made a silly vow to myself that I wouldn't see another SP until I got to see Summer again. Sadly she quit a few months later and I've never heard from her since and have continued my pooning ways, hollow.
2: "Danielle" another SP from the same agency (about a year later). She was pretty new and convinced me to stay for an hour instead of half an hour like I originally planned. She seemed nervous and I asked what's up? She said that I was really hot and liked my tattoos. She let me have a gfe without the extra cost (again greedy agency). Told me how she should charge me extra for this etc. After our session she said that she wished we could just lay like this forever. I said me too. She gave me her number and a couple days later I visited her at her house. I was going to move to Vancouver in October but got...distracted. We saw each other every day, sometimes I slept over at her place, sometimes her at mine. I told myself that this was just a fling that I will still move. But she was so damn convincing with her talk of meeting the right person, how we are practically dating, hanging out (pubs, movies, mall) between our crazy fuck sessions.
Anyways long story short. Eventually I started falling for her (my mistake). I had access to party favours at the time and she was into it (red flag). But it felt so good having this constant in my life (I estimate I would have easily spent $30,000 or more if I saw her at the agency). Eventually her personality changed and her past relationship/issues reared its ugly head and she blamed me for alot of shit. After some arguments, screaming, threats on both sides; we decided to break up and remain friends (unlikely) but we were being polite.
In November I moved to Vancouver as originally planned.
Moral/Lesson of the stories? Be careful what you wish for. Though it seems a fantasy come true to have your SP be yours alone, don't expect her to walk away from the money so easily. Be prepared to "share" her with other clients even though she comes home to you. Imagine dating a known porn star, you choose how much of her work you want to see/hear. Keep it CASUAL. Though it may seem like love, when you take a close look under the circumstances in which you met, can you honestly see this woman as the mother of your child/soul mate for life? I'm not saying it's never happened, but it is a rare, rare thing that I have yet to see/hear about. So, if it does move beyond the client/sp relationship. Just enjoy it, have fun, treat it for what it is. A curious, unique, pleasure filled experience that you take with you but do not treat this girl as the be all end all of life's opportunities. Perhaps if she was willing to quit her job for you it would be different (both of mine continued working while we were "dating").
Good luck. Peace!
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Man Keni that is so true. But that is what we pay them for. To fill a hole we have in our life. Then when they do we want more and more until it blows up in our face. Good that you got out before it cost you more. I have had two that cost me big time. One even cost me a home and car. As much as we want something to happen. We don't.
I hate that back end of the so called relationship.
I have a number of outstanding SP that I was with who have retired and I wonder how they are. Lana (5 years), Laurie (7 years), Kimberly (8 years), Jenna (1 year), Rio (9 months) Damn good times great memories. Oh the memories!
I hate that back end of the so called relationship.
I have a number of outstanding SP that I was with who have retired and I wonder how they are. Lana (5 years), Laurie (7 years), Kimberly (8 years), Jenna (1 year), Rio (9 months) Damn good times great memories. Oh the memories!
Thinking about this, because well Im sort of involved.
You fall in love with some one, well for physical reasons, I mean they turn you on etc etc
That doesn't mean on an emotially intimate level it works or you even need the other person on an emotional level the attraction is only physical.
Or you feel that person your soul mate, the attraction is much more then physical it hits you on a very emtional level, or both,
I kind of think falling in love with some one on a very personal intimate level takes a lot of courage a lot of soul searching, if its not well then the love is more like an infatuation a school boy crush puppy love, or purly physical
I kind of think, love is a gift you give someone. while wanting nothing back.
I see a lot of women in work and well a few in this over the years.
And Im not talking about any one in particular. But I think most people want something, instead of being willing to give something.
And like I said I feel love is not at all about taking, its about giving.
And I think a lot of people are to insecure to love in any meaningful way because it takes a lot of courage.
You fall in love with some one, well for physical reasons, I mean they turn you on etc etc
That doesn't mean on an emotially intimate level it works or you even need the other person on an emotional level the attraction is only physical.
Or you feel that person your soul mate, the attraction is much more then physical it hits you on a very emtional level, or both,
I kind of think falling in love with some one on a very personal intimate level takes a lot of courage a lot of soul searching, if its not well then the love is more like an infatuation a school boy crush puppy love, or purly physical
I kind of think, love is a gift you give someone. while wanting nothing back.
I see a lot of women in work and well a few in this over the years.
And Im not talking about any one in particular. But I think most people want something, instead of being willing to give something.
And like I said I feel love is not at all about taking, its about giving.
And I think a lot of people are to insecure to love in any meaningful way because it takes a lot of courage.
Re: Dating An Escort
Why would any guy in their right mind want to date someone that fucks every Tom, Dick and Harry for money? I don't get it.
Why would any guy in their right mind want to date someone that fucks every Tom, Dick and Harry for money? I don't get it.
Yup and I don't have that courage. You made some interesting points 7of9 as always.
Probably because your troll-like mind wouldn't be able to comprehend human feelings?
That and I imagine some people simply equate dating with getting free regular sex /shrug
Takes all kinds, I mean someone's got to be an asshole to make me look better
(yes, yes I know "it's gonna take a king kong sized asshat for that")
Sometimes Ashley I feel the same way. I think it takes someone in the industry to understand what it about other wise it is disgusting to many people. They do not see or understand. Or even worst do not want to try and understand this hobby. So a SP with a client would be the only way. Yet it never happens or I should say rarely. I only know one situation where it has been working for over 12 years. I fellow I know who hooked up with an service provider we use to use. They are still together in Japan. But in all my years I have yet to see it work out. How do you define nice guy? Never saw myself as a nice guy. Oh well.I am an escort and my last 2 relationships have been with gentlemen who I have met though my career... Both those relationships lasted many years , and I even retired for my last relationship. Sadly My relationships did work out but that was because I had a lot of growing up to do... I am still friends with one of these gents and happy for it. I have now been single for 4 years straight and the loneliness is starting to creep up on me...
I have NEVER used anyone for money , although I want a successful man , who adores me , and spoils me... I love a man with class , and I love a sweet talker, yeah I like being called 'baby or 'princess'' ( I eat that stuff up lol)
Respect is a must ,open communication , respect each other's differences its all about the ying and the yang baby
I don't know, I feel that in this day and age if you can someone to love ,and who loves you back in return , then I say go for it, and good for you!
If you are lucky enough to find that person , then what she does for work should be secondary...
Oddly my ideal man would be someone I met though escorting, I want a man who has some understanding of me and my life. I also want a gentlemen who has been around the block a few times...
In my books nice guys ALWAYS finish first... Except in bed
Cool idea! My first thought was how degrading - sort of like a sci-fi slave auction. My second was they are hookers and this extracts the highest amount of money possible. Everyone benefits. The girls get more money. The guys get more entertainment. The bar sells more drinks.
If you date an escort, you have two options on disclosure; you either tell your friends and family that your girlfriend is an escort or you live "deceiving" them regarding her occupation (it is likely that they would ask what she does). It might be less of an issue if escorting was part-time and she had another job to act as cover. I don't have the balls to bring an escort home and introduce her to mom and dad as such (wish I did) and the deception route is not my style so it is unlikely that I would date an active escort.
