Dated an SP?

[gonzo34]

Have any of the posters here ever ended up dating an SP that you originally met professionally? Would you date an escort or would the job put you off?

How about you girls - ever met a guy as a client and ended up going out with them? Or maybe just being friends?

I've had a couple of experiences where things went beyond business. And at least one where I misread the signals and thought something was happening where it actually wasn't.

I'll share a few details if people are interested. I'd just like to know if the whole Pretty Woman thing goes on or if it is just a fantasy.

 

[mcdude]

SP's are regular people with a different style of job. Usually to them, this is a job, and they are able to take sex and leave the emotion out of it and let it back in when they choose. I've dated one in the distant past, and would consider dating one again if the circumstances allowed it.

I'm quite secure in who I am, and do not let jealousy run my life. Many others can't/won't control that.

 

[gonzo34]

Thanks for the responses guys. Missy, I totally understand your point of view. I think most of the girls would probably feel the same way but there do seem to be exceptions. Nice box by the way!

I'll start by sharing the story where I misinterpreted things. There was no drama but I definitely got the lines a bit blurred. She was an agency girl (out of the business now) who gave me her real name and number and we had a couple of sessions outside of the agency where I paid her the donation to her directly. We also became Facebook friends and exchanged texts frequently.

I took alll this to mean that she really did actually like me and that a relationship wasn't out of the question. I never actually asked her out or did anything creepy (at least I hope not) but she eventually asked if I was looking for more than what she was offering, which was strictly business. I was but it was not going to happen.

She eventually unfriended me on Facebook but I think (I hope...) that when she left the business she cleared out all her work contacts. That's totally fair but I do miss seeing occasional updates and pictures. Anyway, she was an all time favorite of mine and I miss her.

That's the one that didn't work out. I'll tell you about the other experiences later - gotta walk the dog now!

 

[gonzo34]

I guess it depends on whether or not you trust the person in question, as it would with any person that you share personal information with. I don't automatically think that SPs are going to try and rip me off or blackmail me or whatever. I'm single so I have less to lose than a married guy if things went that way.

I would always try to be respectful of the girl's boundaries but in the cases where we have shared names and numbers or become facebook friends it has always been at their instigation. But if I am going to have dinner with a girl and its not business then I want to know her real name and she can know mine. And I'm facebook friends with hundreds of pretty random people - thats what facebook is, isn't it?

 

[AnnaSteel]

I have dated someone when retired... he knew my backround and it didnt seem to bother him.... then after a year I found out he was married.... I find keeping business and personal things apart work better but you never know.... anything is possible and I cherish the men i see regardless of their "emotional connection"

 

[gonzo34]

Thanks Anna - sounds like he was bit of a jerk...

A few years ago I made a random call to a girl on Craigslist. I guess I was horny and she was available right away. She could only do outcall, which was fine because I was staying in a hotel while some work was being done on my house. It was a little odd because she wanted me to pick her up at a mall and it all sounded a bit weird but I guess the little head was doing the thinking by that time so off I went.

She was where she said she would be and she looked great - not dressed up but pretty and she had grabbed a bottle of wine so off we went back to my hotel. It was a nice hotel down by the harbour, not some ratty motel, and I think she liked that and it put her at ease. Anyway, we had a great session and we got together again the next night and she ended up staying overnight and we talked. She clearly didn't like being an escort and was doing it out of a need for money (not for drugs), not because she wanted to do. I think most of the higher end girls genuinely enjoy the lifestyle and the cash but that wasn't this girl. I felt bad that I was exploiting somebody who probably shouldn't have been in teh business but she didn't seem to resent me - quite the opposite.

She cried, told me about an abusive boyfriend, some bad things that had happened in her life. I know, this sounds terrible but I really liked this girl and she genuinely seemed to be having a hard time. We ended up dating a few times (not business) but I wasn't really looking for a girlfriend at that time. I gave her a little money to help her get back on her feet and she got off Craigslist. I haven't seen her in a while but we exchange messages now and then and she seems really happy now.

 

[gonzo34]

I dated an SP for two years and we had a great relationship. It didn't work out in the end but that didn't have anything to do with her job.

We met as escort and client but we clicked right off the bat and the sex was incredible, probably the best I ever had when I was paying for it. As the session finshed I was dressing and we were making smalltalk, she asked where I was going now. I said I was going to get some dinner and I that I quite enjoyed eating alone - but if she would like to join me that would be even better! Trust me, no one was more surprised than me when she said yes! I was a bit nervous but we had a lovely date and went back to her place and had each other for dessert.

I'm an open minded guy but I was surprised at how little her job bothered me. I just didn't really think about it and we were having so much fun that nothing else mattered. The sex was absolutely amazing and we had a great time for most of our time together. I'll admit that I did think sometimes about the other guys who were paying top dollar to get what I was getting for free every night. I also liked having her on my arm because she's very pretty. At first I worried about running into her clients but she's very high end and low volume and it wasn't an issue.

Anyway, that's my little Pretty Woman story - I thought I'd share and I'm interested to hear if anyone has has a similar experience, either from the SP or client side.

 

[gonzo34]

For the record the only paid encounter he and I had was the first one.

That was the same with me and the escort I dated. It went from business to something else more or less immediately.

 

[gonzo34]

I guess you have to be doing something right to get a booty call from an escort!!!

 

[Dickson]

Very interesting discussion. It has happen to me on a number occassions over the years (not the free stuff). I will not go into the details but it has never worked out. I do have one fellow I know who ended up living with a SP for about 9 or so years. They are still together and Live in Japan. We used to use her to put on special events for us in Ontario years ago. That is the only SP I know where it worked. It always end in either one or the other getting hurt. It gets messy. The longest SP I have been with was 8 years. We travel together, we party together, we were there for each other though good and bad. It was not until her EX came back that it was over. I paid alot so it was never free but not just in fees but in other gifts as well.

I am not saying it can't happen or it won't happen as she knows you know. So no surprises. However with that said. If other women know you see SPs they are not impressed. You are damaged goods. It has caused me trouble in the past. Just as it would for the women. What if you found out the lady you married use to be a SP or SW. How would you handle that?

This is a very interesting topic. Yet I have learned over the years damned if you do and damned if you don't.

Go for it gonzo you only live once.

Good luck you. It sounds that you got something women want enjoy it while you got it.

 

[the old maxx50]

It is hard to say weather i am dating them or they are friends .. or half and half .. There is one that i am good friends with and actually board with when i am in her town .. an other i was seeing almost every day and doing stuff with or for .. and some times payed for serves , and other .. I used to text with every day and see once a month ..Now she is retired , we text some times and i might see her once or twice a yr . `When ever we get together it is like we never were apart..

i like being with all of them and can't wait to see them .. But I don't think i am dating them.. just friends

 

[Sir Woodster]

The answer from me to the basic question is YES - and I had a wonderful relationship with the Lady over several years.

Sometimes evenb good things come an end and we both moved on - I think of her often and whenever our paths cross there is always a warm heartfelt embrace (but nothing beyond that)>

The key to this - be grown-up about it all...

 

[westcoast555]

Basically, I booty called him the night after I met him! lol.
When it's that good I just can't help myself.

OK.. I'll bite. Tell us what made him so good?

 

[StunninglySexyCC]

OK.. I'll bite. Tell us what made him so good?

I agree with Sir Woodster...."be adult about it."

Despite my relative limited experience in this industry, I think as a "quality experience provider", it's important to be a consummate professional at all times....

That means providing a consistent, quality experience to my all my clients without inappropriately leading anyone on to think that there is more of an emotional tie than there really is. Fulfilling a fantasy as a service provider is one thing; however intentionally leading a client on is manipulative, deceitful and unprofessional.

That said, we're all subject to unpredictable emotions that can sweep us away when we our guard is down and when we least suspect it! When that happens be it with a client or someone else, above all, be upfront about it with yourself and the other person and deal with the emotion, openly and honestly.