Cautious or afraid of leaving a bad review

[Bodin12345]

Having been in and out of the hobby for a number of years, I've thought about this quite a bit. How many out there are cautious or afraid to leave a bad review? Sometimes you see an SP often enough personal information leaks out in conversation or however it happens. Either way you know more than you should and they know more than they should.

If the business relationship breaks down for whatever reason, how many of you opt not to leave a bad review because you're afraid of the potential blow back in your own life?

Or a completely different scenario, there's an SP who seemingly has a good reputation but you've had a bad or off experience with them. Similarly you don't leave a bad review because you're worried about the blow back or just don't want to bother defending yourself online to random people.

If anyone is interested in this discussion please reply or send a DM. I am interested to know if there are others out there.

 

[Forum mod]

I'd suggest reading the various guides for some background.

Negative reviews are important. They need to be factual and fair. Yes, ladies can have off days. Yes, there can be chemistry issues. It's all worth sharing, without being mean or nasty. Constructive criticism would be the goal. You can say for example, that BBBJ was promised, but CBJ was provided. You don't need to say the dumb bitch ripped me off with CBJ after promising BBBJ. The ladies are human beings, act accordingly. If you bear some of the fault, best to own that as well. If you come across as bitter or vindictive, it will show badly on you. In the end, if you can't be objective, keep your mouth shut is the best advice.

As for blowback, use a burner phone, text app, or otherwise conceal your real identity. She's not working under her legal name, there's no reason to give her yours, unless that's her screening level and then manage your risk accordingly. You can leave the review several days or weeks after your session. Leave out identifying details, don't mention that she loved your massive back tattoo, chances are good she will know who you are in a case like that. Never share your PERB handle.

Live and let live is the principle. Don't attack other people who didn't have a good experience with your ATF, it happens. If someone does flame you, flag it and let the mods handle it. No need to feed the trolls.

 

[Bodin12345]

I didn't ask for advice, I am a veteran. If you don't know what I am talking about then you haven't experienced it. This isn't just about off days or chemistry issues, these are significant character flaws in popular SPs, some seemingly have good reputations and are active on this site.

I am willing to bet they don't receive the bad reviews because people are worried about the blow back and or they don't want to argue with strangers online.

 

[jamasianman]

If you are afraid of blowback then make the review tactful. If its overly negative it will seem like you have a grudge. Just be honest and say what happened.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

If you share enough personal details to be identified that's on you. I have stayed pretty much anonymous for over 50 years of pooning and never hesitate to leave reviews if warranted. Good or bad. It's that old I mind my affairs and do not pry into others. As for advice. The way I read your post you were asking. No?

 

[Forum mod]

I didn't ask for advice, I am a veteran. If you don't know what I am talking about then you haven't experienced it. This isn't just about off days or chemistry issues, these are significant character flaws in popular SPs, some seemingly have good reputations and are active on this site.

I am willing to bet they don't receive the bad reviews because people are worried about the blow back and or they don't want to argue with strangers online.

If you have something to say, then say it. Beating around the bush and dropping hints isn't the act of a veteran. If anyone is attacked for posting a bad review, it will be dealt with severely by the mods. If there's a seemingly reputable provider engaging in something nefarious, PERB exists for that information to be shared and protect others from harm. Do so tactfully and honestly without embellishment or hyperbole and it will stay up.

We have dealt with plenty of serious situations with well known providers, seen several formerly reputable ladies who had major issues. We have had allegations of theft, assault, pimps making threats and much more. If it's covered by the rules, like allegations of substance abuse without proof, mental illness or STIs etc, then don't post it. We have rules in place to protect the providers and the pooners.

If you are worried it will break the rules or cause problems, send a PM to a mod or Fred Zed, the board admin account and ask about it first. Guidance is available.

 

[Newuser505]

Having been in and out of the hobby for a number of years, I've thought about this quite a bit. How many out there are cautious or afraid to leave a bad review? Sometimes you see an SP often enough personal information leaks out in conversation or however it happens. Either way you know more than you should and they know more than they should.

If the business relationship breaks down for whatever reason, how many of you opt not to leave a bad review because you're afraid of the potential blow back in your own life?

Or a completely different scenario, there's an SP who seemingly has a good reputation but you've had a bad or off experience with them. Similarly you don't leave a bad review because you're worried about the blow back or just don't want to bother defending yourself online to random people.

If anyone is interested in this discussion please reply or send a DM. I am interested to know if there are others out there.

I hear ya.

If a SP is doing blow or is clearly out of her mind, i dont make that review because theres no benefit for me by putting a target on my head.

I write reviews as a concluding part of a pleasant experience. If it wasnt pleasant, or if theres potential of a blowback. Forget it.

 

[Bodin12345]

I hear ya.

If a SP is doing blow or is clearly out of her mind, i dont make that review because theres no benefit for me by putting a target on my head.

I write reviews as a concluding part of a pleasant experience. If it wasnt pleasant, or if theres potential of a blowback. Forget it.

Exactly my whole point, we have far more to lose if someone wants to get vindictive. These providers having essentially nothing to lose other than the reputation of a made up persona.

This site in particular is supported by the SPs it's a business and the model is to collect advertising revenue from the SPs.

It's just not worth the risk posting a bad review in some instances.

 

[TheBellaRoseXo]

I didn't ask for advice, I am a veteran. If you don't know what I am talking about then you haven't experienced it. This isn't just about off days or chemistry issues, these are significant character flaws in popular SPs, some seemingly have good reputations and are active on this site.

I am willing to bet they don't receive the bad reviews because people are worried about the blow back and or they don't want to argue with strangers online.

A) Everyone receives a bad review at some point because personalities can easily clash, especially where morality lies in this industry.
B) People need not worry about blowback if they are indeed being factual and leaving reviews without evident malice. The only exceptions are the easily offended and ladies who lack integrity/accountability. Please do not lump all SP’s that currently have no bad reviews by attributing it to be men merely scared or ladies not wanting to waste their time arguing online. I have had a couple people try ugly behavior on here. Frankly, no one is exempt. Some of us take pride in our service and it’s reflected in reviews time and time again. 🤷‍♀️
C) There are cases where SP’s have shitty character as you describe (It happens 😔🤷‍♀️, just like women encountering the sleezy car salesman) and I would agree with the MOD on this. I would fully support you contacting the mods and creating an entire Perb account that isn’t traceable to leave a review, assuming you have some identifier with your current account. I’d make sure there’s enough detail to paint the picture, but enough left out to not be identifiable. I would work with the mods to be able to leave an accurate review to protect other gentlemen and help weed out workers who aren’t particularly professional. If the genders were flipped right now, I’d encourage women to let others know for their safety. Your genitalia doesn’t sway my opinion otherwise. With that said, I also don’t know how much of your actual info she has from verification. If all three sides work together with a common team effort of safety, the top notch workers will be revealed over time. While it is your choice because that is your experience, I will say that leaving the review helps makes the industry a better/safer place.

 

[westwoody]

Wait a few days, or even a week, before posting a bad review. At least then the provider might have less chance of remembering you, and you might remember the event in a more objective way.
Bad reviews are awkward but I do write them if I feel members need a public warning!

 

[sealion of bc]

I seen a sp a number of months ago
she looked fairly fine in clothes
but once removed oh my god woman
something is wrong with you
her breasts where like 2 golf balls in side a tube sock
and her bum sagged incredibly
supposedly 31 years old
i would say she was not a drug user
but I thought there was no point reviewing with name as she is just trying to make a living.
sorry future clients of hers

 

[phool]

I'm fortunate to have never had an actual bad experience so far. Some so-so's and non-repeats sure, but nothing where I needed to send a word of warning out, but I am worried about when I do bc I generally see only well-reviewed ladies so I'll be in this guy's boat eventually. I'm torn as to whether or not I would bother. I suppose it would have to be really bad.

 

[Bodin12345]

A) Everyone receives a bad review at some point because personalities can easily clash, especially where morality lies in this industry.
B) People need not worry about blowback if they are indeed being factual and leaving reviews without evident malice. The only exceptions are the easily offended and ladies who lack integrity/accountability. Please do not lump all SP’s that currently have no bad reviews by attributing it to be men merely scared or ladies not wanting to waste their time arguing online. I have had a couple people try ugly behavior on here. Frankly, no one is exempt. Some of us take pride in our service and it’s reflected in reviews time and time again. 🤷‍♀️
C) There are cases where SP’s have shitty character as you describe (It happens 😔🤷‍♀️, just like women encountering the sleezy car salesman) and I would agree with the MOD on this. I would fully support you contacting the mods and creating an entire Perb account that isn’t traceable to leave a review, assuming you have some identifier with your current account. I’d make sure there’s enough detail to paint the picture, but enough left out to not be identifiable. I would work with the mods to be able to leave an accurate review to protect other gentlemen and help weed out workers who aren’t particularly professional. If the genders were flipped right now, I’d encourage women to let others know for their safety. Your genitalia doesn’t sway my opinion otherwise. With that said, I also don’t know how much of your actual info she has from verification. If all three sides work together with a common team effort of safety, the top notch workers will be revealed over time. While it is your choice because that is your experience, I will say that leaving the review helps makes the industry a better/safer place.

Thanks for the reply, Bella!

A) In my experience I am not referring to leaving a bad review for chemistry issues, cleanliness, services, looks, etc. I have done that as needed over the years. I am referring to seriously negative reviews about being unprofessional, unhinged communication, theft, etc. If someone is willing to act in a manner like this, in my opinion, there's no end to what they might do.

B) They certainly do because generally people have a lot to lose - jobs, personal lives, etc. This forum does nothing to protect anyone in real life.

I certainly don't lump all SPs into the same boat. I've met some amazing women over the years, some have become friends after they quit the business. Some have invited me to their special events over the years. The vast majority 90%+ in my experience have been great.

C) I will consider contacting the MOD to do this.

Thank you for the discussion!

 

[MB Mod]

Thanks for the reply, Bella!

A) In my experience I am not referring to leaving a bad review for chemistry issues, cleanliness, services, looks, etc. I have done that as needed over the years. I am referring to seriously negative reviews about being unprofessional, unhinged communication, theft, etc. If someone is willing to act in a manner like this, in my opinion, there's no end to what they might do.

B) They certainly do because generally people have a lot to lose - jobs, personal lives, etc. This forum does nothing to protect anyone in real life.

I certainly don't lump all SPs into the same boat. I've met some amazing women over the years, some have become friends after they quit the business. Some have invited me to their special events over the years. The vast majority 90%+ in my experience have been great.

C) I will consider contacting the MOD to do this.

Thank you for the discussion!

If you choose to do so I have an anonymous test account you can use, there would be no way of tracing it back to you.

 

[GeeBeeP]

Other PERB users should be warned somehow and I encourage the OP to do whatever he’s comfortable doing. I’m not going to add anything to what Bella and 2 mods have said regarding how to handle the situation.

This is however a cautionary tale for all of us who see escorts, do sugar dating, or otherwise engage in an activity that we don’t want the whole world to know about. It’s an excellent reminder that sharing too much personal information is a bad idea, and can come back to bite you in the ass when you never expect it. Always be careful about what you say and divulge to anyone.

 

[beachjunky]

I am always thankful to be given an opportunity by a provider - who does not know me, to let me be so up-close and personal to them. I mean if you asked me (as a guy) to do this as an occupation, man would I be shit scared lol. So hats off to all the providers out there.

I think it is just amazing that somehow 2 random people who don't know each other manage to spend time together with a personal goal to satisfy each other. If this occupation is not proof that there is still humanity among us, I don't know what else is.

Just because I pay someone for a service does not mean I have the right to have a good experience. I mean we are talking about human emotions and sometimes we connect and sometimes we dont. I've always thought I am privileged to have been given an opportunity, that this unknown human is randomly accepting and ready to make me happy for the next hour, given how cruel the world is today.

Sometimes we win some and sometimes we loose some, which is why I could never speak ill about a provider. If I feel I was not satisfied enough, I just go to a different provider next time lol.

Ofcourse I mean if it crosses the line of basic human decency I will call them out, but so far in this hobby I have never come across a provider who has crossed that line. Everyone I have met is down to earth.