Catch 22 with new rates

[here4fun]

When a lady increases her rate and also say any form of discussion about rates will end all contact. This is someone you have seen several times before and you think you remember her saying you will always be at the old rates.

How do you ask if you are grandfathered in at the old rates?

Options
don't ask and pay the new rate, I know ruin my time as it will be on my mind and I just drive myself crazy with the 'question'
don't ask and assume I am grandfathered at the old rate, and now she is upset or insulted or ????
do ask and she end all contact

I personally rate any discussion about rates as i find it uncomfortable

So I end up not seeing the lady anymore, just a lose lose situation

 

[vancity_cowboy]

in this business, you've GOT to learn to speak your mind!

do it respectfully, obviously - but a frank discussion of what you are questioning, wanting, lusting after, whatever... is absolutely crucial to being able to enjoy this business to its fullest

and if you're not here to enjoy yourself, what ARE you here for?

bring enough money to pay the new rates, but put the recent increase amount in a separate pocket. after you are let in but before you pay, bring up the topic of grandfathered rates. whatever her answer, if you are down with that, pay it. if you aren't, thank her very much and walk

simplicity itself. you can't go through the rest of your life in this business being afraid of your own shadow

try it - you will find it's very liberating

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

When a lady increases her rate and also say any form of discussion about rates will end all contact. This is someone you have seen several times before and you think you remember her saying you will always be at the old rates.

How do you ask if you are grandfathered in at the old rates?...snip...I end up not seeing the lady anymore, just a lose lose situation

I would definitely suggest contacting the lady :wink: She may be just fond enough of you to tell you how silly you are being for even worrying about it! Melody's suggestion is a good one too... I would also say, from a personal perspective, that I don't want to be discussing/negotiating my rates in the INITIAL contact information, or the second email, or 10 minutes into the first appointment (!). However, I have had many gentlemen return from long absences check to ensure the rate is still the same before they arrive! My rates went up considerably between my first few clients in March of 2013 and now, because I knew so little about the industry then!

Why not send the lady a polite booking request that seeks clarification on what her rate would be for you?

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

This is what I've done in the past. I've put the new price she's asking into an envelope and given it to her...
The ladies who keep their new rate with no discussion of grandfathering slide down my will see again scale.

:nod:

Classy all the way, Badger!

 

[here4fun]

Thank you for everyone thoughtful responses, and I will move forward accordingly

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

You could always put a post in the Lounge and hope she sees it..

<insert NPH 'True Story Bro' gif here...>

:nod:

 

[bcpete1]

or, gasp, just pay the new rates. Is the SP's decision if want to grandfather. Why should we feel entitled to 'old' rates? Lots of other services we pay current rates and not what they where when initially first say them, so why not SP's. Think dentist, chiropractor, physio therapists and the list goes on. SP's costs go up also.

 

[Lo-ki]

If you think the rates are changing now...wait and see if the BILL passes. Your regular will probably keep them the same and the new clients will pay higher rate. The no new clients will be not coming because of the high rate. So the regular's rate will go up. Hopefully not. I have seen a huge spikes in rates of regular I see and guess what.. no going back to the old rate. The system will go underground. The way of living for SP will totally be affected.

 

[badbadboy]

I ran into this situation lately and had two pockets with donations already counted out. I asked her flat out if I were to pay the old rate vs the new rate. All she said was changing incalls had its own rate increase but she would pay the difference and I could pay whatever I wanted.

Since I had seen her about 20 x, I elected to pay the new rate. No sense messing with a good thing IMHO.

 

[Lady Companion]

Just ask - when you call her to book.

When ladies ask not to discuss rates, that is usually just a way of saying that they don't negotiate - or that they don't want to make a big deal about the payment process when you are meeting. After all, we all just want to focus on enjoying the experience!

When you call to book, she should mention the rate change (if it is going to be applicable to you). It is ludicrous to think that our regulars are constantly reading our website and keeping up to date on things. If something changes, then it is really the responsibility of the lady to mention it - assuming of course that you see her on a regular basis.

However, if you want to be proactive, just send her an email or call her and say "I noticed that you have increased your rates, but recall you saying that you were planning on grandfathering in regulars. I was wondering which is applicable to me"

Nobody is going to be offended by a respectful inquiry which seeks clarification.