Being stood up. What was she thinking?!

[MrBrown]

(Long read)
I wrote this Friday afternoon, moments after I was stood up by a certain (independent and low volume) Vancouver SP who advertises on this board (and will remain nameless).

It's not the first time it happens to me but the way it happened I find insulting. Guess I wouldn't have minded as much if I got a text even 1/2 an hour before the scheduled appointment.

I saw her around a year ago and enjoyed my time. After seeing an ad that piqued my interest earlier last week I figured I'll get back into the swing of things with her and might become a regular. I don't partake in this hobby too often and I'm quite picky both in terms of quality (affinity to low volume independant) and price, a difficult combination.

Sent her an email the night about a 1 hour rendezvous for that afternoon. Used the pre-existing email thread we had from before so she sees some the history and saves me from the potential referral checks (which I don't recall if she does).
Get a reply the morning of, offering me a wide time slot to choose from and after some back and forth by email we settle on the time. I ask if it's the same location as last year and no, it's another one downtown. She provides me her number and closest intersection and asks that I text when I get there for address and buzzer info. I reply letting her know what phone to expect a text from.

I prep at home (extra grooming etc.), drive downtown, park, get the cash, even buy a gum pack at the closest 7/11 to make sure I have a fresh minty taste.

I'm a block away from the intersection and right on time so I text for final coordinates. No reply. Verify that I sent it to the right number. I call, no answer. Then I get a text "hey John, hadn't heard from you... It's been a weird day". I reply saying it's strange and that I'm right there... Then I get another text "Can we reschedule to another day?"
I called her immediately and she picks up and tries to give me excuses... First "I got out of the shower and my hair is wet, I need more time to get ready", I ask how much time, then she says "you know what, I've had a (mumbled) day, had to deal with family issues. It's better if we reschedule".

I'm on the verge of a WTF moment but I keep my calm and tell her that it's not acceptable after I did all the effort to get ready and be there on time. When I tell her this will go on the board she laughs at me and wishes me "have a good life".

Latest txt from her letter by letter: "Lmao if you're a 'board' guy it's so much better I didn't meet you"

Coincidentally I didn't have access to perb that day and a further apology by email from her caused me to change my mind from posting this in the review section and mentioning the SP by name. She reiterated she had a "weird" day and offers to reschedule, to which I politely declined having "moved on". Don't know if it would matter anything if she had offered to compensate me for my inconvenience somehow.
I did share this with her though:

http://youtu.be/4T2GmGSNvaM

What do you think?
- does she deserve another chance?
- should I share her name? Would it reduce this bs?

 

[diamondd5243]

- does she deserve another chance? - maybe
- should I share her name? Would it reduce this bs? -yes and yes

 

[CKvic]

If you liked her, reschedule by all mean. No one can be 100% all the time. If the experience is not what you expected, at least you know for sure she is not the right match for you. No regret. I have had SP stood me up. Rang the door bell and no answer. It was super awkward standing outside by myself wondering why did I do wrong. Turns out the SP was in the hospital due to an injury. Rescheduled for next time. She more than made up for the missed date. I continue to see her until this day.

If you decide not to see her ever again, you can share the name and at least you give other members a fair warning. I am sure her regulars will continue to see her. People who like her ad will just weight out the pros and cons. Your review is fair so I am sure the sp is okay with it. Like I said no one can be 100%. Even if she did missed her appointment, I am not going to say I will never see her bcoz of this. However, when I book with her, I will prepare myself for the possibility of this happening and maybe have a back up plan if it did get cancelled. I said you did a good thing by posting a honest review.

 

[ddcanz]

This is a review board- first and foremost.
You've been nothing but respectful so far- absolutely post her name in the thread so others can make up their own minds.

 

[badbadboy]

Shit happens for both SP's and Pooner's alike.

I've cancelled and been cancelled upon numerous times. Most times than not, I always give them a second chance to get together.

If she did send a more of an apologetic email later which you took to be sincere, then really the best thing to do is follow up and see her.

You can both pretend its "Make up Sex"

 

[P3t3rp4n]

Post her name. If she advertises on this board why is she tagging on us? Shouldn't bite the hand that feeds you. I don't get why it's so hard to be a no drama reliable escort. Where art thou the teena blaques and delicious Daria's or all the other wonderful, respectable and grateful girls. Sigh times have changed

 

[badbadboy]

Post her name. If she advertises on this board why is she tagging on us? Shouldn't bite the hand that feeds you. I don't get why it's so hard to be a no drama reliable escort. Where art thou the teena blaques and delicious Daria's or all the other wonderful, respectable and grateful girls. Sigh times have changed

Ah Teena, hmmm now she was fun!

I hope she returns someday :nod:

 

[CrazedandAbused]

I'd like to hear her side?

(since she advertises on the board). She must see some value in this community.

Perhaps there's an angle or explanation that's not apparent?

 

[Chef99]

Why not chalk it up to "shit happens"? She hasn't done this to you before so you can't say it's a trend. Something came up, it was unfortunate, it was last minute, it sucked, but guess what... "shit happens". From your posts, I think it's clear you're not going to be able to set this aside so I wouldn't book another appointment with her if I was you. It would seem she would have a strike against her before you even started... JMHO

 

[@Felicity]

At least you got to save your money. Imagine if she had still invited you up and was in a lousy mood? What's worse? Really? She is going to read this and either want to make it up to you oooorrrrrrr never talk to you again! :doh:

edit: I would feel too much pressure on my performance after all this, so to answer your question, I would advise not to try again.

 

[Rufus T. Firefly]

I'd say post her name. Maybe she flakes out on people all the time, but no one has raised it yet. If a bunch of guys chime in that they've had similar problems, she will have some work to do to improve her reputation, and all will be better for it.

On the other hand, if it was a one-off fuckup or shit happens situation, she can say that in response. It's common enough for that kind of dialogue to happen here. and once again all will be better for it.

 

[MrBrown]

Thanks everyone for chiming in. It's interesting to see that there's not 'one answer'.
Perhaps to clarify things...

I understand things happen but they shouldn't happen so last minute such that when the client has actually arrived to the incall location only then it doesn't work out.

The explanation and communication right after should be convincing. "My hair is wet, I need some time" followed by the all too common "family issues" excuse (I've heard it enough times) followed by "let's reschedule" followed by a dismissive message about the value of sharing my experience on the board indicates lack of respect for the clients time. To me it didn't appear authentic and while I can handle a lot of the faking in this hobby that's one that I can't ignore.

No matter how enamoured I am with a provider the fantasy of GFE gets lost when I am stood up. I.e. I am not that much into simulating a girlfriend experience that I have to deal with a moody girlfriend! (I was blown off *at the time of appointment* by non other than Quintissential Taylor and she didn't get a second chance).

So yeah, the bridge was burnt but I am doing her a favor by not causing tenfold (or more) the damage she cause me. I doubt this is a pattern unless maybe she had too much to drink at lunch or something.
It's bad karma and at my age I need all the good karma I can get.

If anyone is still curious I will provide the name via pm as long as it's not make public.

 

[shake]

Mr Brown

Your mailbox is full. I was trying to send you a PM

Thanks everyone for chiming in. It's interesting to see that there's not 'one answer'.
Perhaps to clarify things...

I understand things happen but they shouldn't happen so last minute such that when the client has actually arrived to the incall location only then it doesn't work out.

The explanation and communication right after should be convincing. "My hair is wet, I need some time" followed by the all too common "family issues" excuse (I've heard it enough times) followed by "let's reschedule" followed by a dismissive message about the value of sharing my experience on the board indicates lack of respect for the clients time. To me it didn't appear authentic and while I can handle a lot of the faking in this hobby that's one that I can't ignore.

No matter how enamoured I am with a provider the fantasy of GFE gets lost when I am stood up. I.e. I am not that much into simulating a girlfriend experience that I have to deal with a moody girlfriend! (I was blown off *at the time of appointment* by non other than Quintissential Taylor and she didn't get a second chance).

So yeah, the bridge was burnt but I am doing her a favor by not causing tenfold (or more) the damage she cause me. I doubt this is a pattern unless maybe she had too much to drink at lunch or something.
It's bad karma and at my age I need all the good karma I can get.

If anyone is still curious I will provide the name via pm as long as it's not make public.

 

[Claire Monet]

Hello Mr. Brown and company,

I think it a just favour to the community at this point to spare people the drama and save your inbox from overflowing so I will admit to my fault.

Yes, I cancelled on you.

Yes, there were family issues and it was a "weird day". Somehow when one gets the news of a sudden death in the family previous obligations seem to fall to the wayside.

My apology via email the following day was absolutely sincere (which you said you accepted and had "moved on"..... but apparently not). I understand the time and effort it takes to prepare for a date. I am sorry to have left you hanging and to have wasted your time. As for me possibly 'compensating you for your time"..... I am currently running a special with reduced rates and would not feel true to myself if I were to reduce them farther. I invited you back in my email if you were to give me a second chance. We met once, a year ago, without incident. Life happens and it happened last Friday just before 4pm.

Take care,


Claire

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Hello Mr. Brown and company,

I think it a just favour to the community at this point to spare people the drama and save your inbox from overflowing so I will admit to my fault.

Yes, I cancelled on you.

Yes, there were family issues and it was a "weird day". Somehow when one gets the news of a sudden death in the family previous obligations seem to fall to the wayside.

My apology via email the following day was absolutely sincere (which you said you accepted and had "moved on"..... but apparently not). I understand the time and effort it takes to prepare for a date. I am sorry to have left you hanging and to have wasted your time. As for me possibly 'compensating you for your time"..... I am currently running a special with reduced rates and would not feel true to myself if I were to reduce them farther. I invited you back in my email if you were to give me a second chance. We met once, a year ago, without incident. Life happens and it happened last Friday just before 4pm.

Take care,


Claire

Nicely done, Claire. Good for you. Own your shit, but don't let anyone kick you around the playground for it.

Take care, and I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

 

[Cock Throppled]

Hello Mr. Brown and company,

I think it a just favour to the community at this point to spare people the drama and save your inbox from overflowing so I will admit to my fault.

Yes, I cancelled on you.

Yes, there were family issues and it was a "weird day". Somehow when one gets the news of a sudden death in the family previous obligations seem to fall to the wayside.

My apology via email the following day was absolutely sincere (which you said you accepted and had "moved on"..... but apparently not). I understand the time and effort it takes to prepare for a date. I am sorry to have left you hanging and to have wasted your time. As for me possibly 'compensating you for your time"..... I am currently running a special with reduced rates and would not feel true to myself if I were to reduce them farther. I invited you back in my email if you were to give me a second chance. We met once, a year ago, without incident. Life happens and it happened last Friday just before 4pm.

Take care,


Claire

I don't believe this explanation for a second. He texted when he arrived and she ignored him, then she texted him that she hadn't heard from him.

If a person is a true professional (in any line of work) and is notified of a death in the family they would immediately send out notices to clients cancelling all appointments, not just carry on and ignore calls, then make an excuse about wet hair.

 

[Claire Monet]

Cock Throppled,

You don't have to believe me, it's really none of your business anyway.

 

[uncleg]

Hello Mr. Brown and company,

I think it a just favour to the community at this point to spare people the drama and save your inbox from overflowing so I will admit to my fault.

Yes, I cancelled on you.

Yes, there were family issues and it was a "weird day". Somehow when one gets the news of a sudden death in the family previous obligations seem to fall to the wayside.

My apology via email the following day was absolutely sincere (which you said you accepted and had "moved on"..... but apparently not). I understand the time and effort it takes to prepare for a date. I am sorry to have left you hanging and to have wasted your time. As for me possibly 'compensating you for your time"..... I am currently running a special with reduced rates and would not feel true to myself if I were to reduce them farther. I invited you back in my email if you were to give me a second chance. We met once, a year ago, without incident. Life happens and it happened last Friday just before 4pm.

Take care,


Claire

...........for stepping up......

No matter how intimate the business is, in the end it's an exchange with strangers and there are some things that are just not anybody else's business. Yes, I know people do become friends in this business to where it extends beyond the business, but I'd say they are few and far between. In this case, we all now know who was involved, so I think everybody can make up their own minds as to the validity of what is being said.

 

[P3t3rp4n]

Reduced rates should have been a red flag. Unless she's grandfathering the previous rate you posted that's a red flag for me. I think Claire could have just emailed in the morning saying she want into it and then mr brown could schedule another date with someone willing to provide. Shit does happen but this could have easily been avoided and honestly makes Claire come across as shallow and cold in regards to her response.

 

[badbadboy]

So can we now get back to Happy Endings? :clap2: :nod: