Being an escort is being a...

[miss meiko]

A few days ago, one of my very good friends asked me when will I quit the business for real...well, I have retired and untired myself for quite a few times over the years.

Sometimes I wonder...do most escorts out there feel the same about the job?
Because the more I think about it the more I like it. I have met so many wonderful people, which I would never met if I was not in this business. I also have learned so much about myself, understand men better and the best of all...meeting many great ladies from the biz.

Of course, soon or later this job will end, either because of my look will wear out, people will get sick and tired of me, or I have reached my financial goal, which is the reason why I am in this business on the first place.

Right now, I'm really enjoying myself...to me being an escort means being a friend, being a lover, being a teacher or a student, being a counsellor, being a secret keeper, being a nurse, being a dream girl...
Not Bad!!

 

[chilli]

I am a guy so my thinking is probably very un pc.

If I was a woman I would be an escort - I think it's an awesome job. (cept the sleeping with old/fat/ugly guys part lol - don't know how you do it)

Society is screwed up in it's values - most people will rob you blind in a second as long as it's a so called legitimate business deal.

Where's the morality in that?

We have more people addicted to alcohol than weed. Yet weed is outlawed as an gateway drug????

The fact is most people/gov'ts are hypocrits.

We are a very funny complicated species.

At the end of the day - do what makes you happy.

 

[miss meiko]

Nothing wrong with talking about the upside of being an escort, but I don't think the downside, whatever that maybe, should simply be glossed over.

Well, like any other job...there are tons of the downside of being an escort. That is why we get paid more than most jobs. But, it is nice to be positive and learn from your own situation.

 

[JustAGuy]

Right now, I'm really enjoying myself...to me being an escort means being a friend, being a lover, being a teacher or a student, being a counsellor, being a secret keeper, being a nurse, being a dream girl...
Not Bad!!

Don't forget being a babysitter. From what I've seen on this board, a lot of pooners have the mental maturity, smarts and sophistication of a nine year old.

 

[miss meiko]

Don't forget being a babysitter. From what I've seen on this board, a lot of pooners have the mental maturity, smarts and sophistication of a nine year old.

You got it!! I missed that one.

 

[littlejimbigher]

I am a guy so my thinking is probably very un pc.

If I was a woman I would be an escort - I think it's an awesome job. (cept the sleeping with old/fat/ugly guys part lol - don't know how you do it).

That descibes a huge part of us johns.

 

[tedsweettangv]

That descibes a huge part of us johns.

It probably describes Chilli too, he just doesn't know it or won't admit it to himself

 

[DeaAphrodite]

Good and Bad

I know what you mean Miss M.

I was surprised at how many good things I found when I began as an sp. Yes, there is the occassional unpleasant person or interaction, so it is with any job. I don't wish to gloss over the negative, because it certainly does exist. There are VERY high personal costs to be involved in this business. I think the worst for me personally is when a client comes to visit who is filled with his own shame, and treats me like I'm dirty and clearly thinks I should feel dirty and ashamed about myself. But I don't! It feels great to help people and make them feel good. I don't buy into the "sex is dirty" modality. Sex is beautiful, and it is no less so because it involves a 'less conventional' trade than marriage is. The trade I make is clear-cut, honest, direct, and manipulating no-one.

The vast majority of men I've met through the job have been really great. And I have learned so much! About giving and receiving pleasure, human nature, my own sexuality and beauty, negotiation skills, what kindness and compassion and 'service to others' really mean, how good it feels to have extra $ to help other people with, patience and passion, how much I really love lingerie (lol!), diplomacy... the list goes on & on. I have gained a whole new level of self-confidence and self-appreciation, and that is something beyond measure. The short term financial rewards are great, but it is all the other things that will stay with me my whole life.

Life is good.

Dea

 

[Mr.O]

Naughty!

I know what you mean Miss M.

I was surprised at how many good things I found when I began as an sp. Yes, there is the occassional unpleasant person or interaction, so it is with any job. I don't wish to gloss over the negative, because it certainly does exist. There are VERY high personal costs to be involved in this business. I think the worst for me personally is when a client comes to visit who is filled with his own shame, and treats me like I'm dirty and clearly thinks I should feel dirty and ashamed about myself. But I don't! It feels great to help people and make them feel good. I don't buy into the "sex is dirty" modality. Sex is beautiful, and it is no less so because it involves a 'less conventional' trade than marriage is. The trade I make is clear-cut, honest, direct, and manipulating no-one.


Life is good.

Dea

You're a DIRTY girl Dea !

Now... can I spank you?

 

[LutherBlissett]

I used to bring my own shame into this hobby but about 13 years ago I met a provider who had Meiko and Dea's attitude. I used to skulk around looking for women that matched my own sense of "dirty" from the voices of my parents, teachers and society. After virtually every session, I told myself that I "shouldn't" be doing this. I would make vows not to indulge and then I would find myself suddenly parked outside a massage parlour with my ears burning knowing I was looking for someone who I could feel comfortable with in imagining her shame was as great as mine.

One day, so long ago, I found an Eastern European beauty in a massage parlour that made me feel her joy in pleasing me. We did "dirty" things (as some would call them) but with such a sense of mutual joy that I felt no remorse. I went with her exclusively for several years until she retired happily. I met her again a couple of years ago and we often have lunch and talk openly about our sex lives. She is now a close friend and no more (although I still stare at her butt a lot because she likes to see me looking).

When "dirty" is used in the playful fashion by both parties, it is nothing but fun but when one party wants to degrade the other (the pooner's disease) or manipulate/hoodwink the other (the SP's disease) , it is a short-term fix for a life-long problem a lot of people in our society have.

When you get over your shame, sex is way better. You end up doing the same things (or even more) but they feel twice as good.

 

[bigmoe69er]

I know what you mean Miss M.

I was surprised at how many good things I found when I began as an sp. Yes, there is the occassional unpleasant person or interaction, so it is with any job. I don't wish to gloss over the negative, because it certainly does exist. There are VERY high personal costs to be involved in this business. I think the worst for me personally is when a client comes to visit who is filled with his own shame, and treats me like I'm dirty and clearly thinks I should feel dirty and ashamed about myself. But I don't! It feels great to help people and make them feel good. I don't buy into the "sex is dirty" modality. Sex is beautiful, and it is no less so because it involves a 'less conventional' trade than marriage is. The trade I make is clear-cut, honest, direct, and manipulating no-one.

The vast majority of men I've met through the job have been really great. And I have learned so much! About giving and receiving pleasure, human nature, my own sexuality and beauty, negotiation skills, what kindness and compassion and 'service to others' really mean, how good it feels to have extra $ to help other people with, patience and passion, how much I really love lingerie (lol!), diplomacy... the list goes on & on. I have gained a whole new level of self-confidence and self-appreciation, and that is something beyond measure. The short term financial rewards are great, but it is all the other things that will stay with me my whole life.

Life is good.

Dea

Your attitude is positive, sensitive, and mature, Dea. ...excellent post!


---Dr. Moe

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Just like Dea, I think the reality of my situation could not be any further from the assumptions I had before I started doing this. It's funny because I'm sure a lot would/do judge me or pity me and certainly do not understand me for doing what I do...much less would they believe I'm doing this by choice..because I love it and I get a great deal from it, well beyond the monetary aspect that I'm sure everyone thinks is my main motivation... But in reality, it's something else that keeps me doing this.The biggest surprise to me is when I started meeting wonderful guys and enjoying nice evenings, genuine conversations, guilt free and pressure free pleasure and company. It was like some sort of revelation! There's an intensity and honesty about it... It changed my perspective on a lot of things and I can't even describe the effects it's had on my own personal growth and my attitude on a lot of things has changed...

I like sharing that part of me with gentlemen who appreciate this and the fact is that this kind of situation can be so rewarding. It simplify the interactions we have with the opposite sex and leaves out the guilt, the pressure and a lot of outside insecurities that often get in the way in more conventional settings, which leaves us to enjoy the actual moment. I almost see it as some kind of therapy...for both parties.

I totally agree that it is not all good, but what job is? Being selective and knowing what type of person you want to meet is the best way to minimize the bad.. I feel really lucky as I seem to have attracted amazing playmates and I'm sure that makes a huge difference on how I view this work. But I have to agree that the type of situation described by Dea is the one I also find the most unfortunate. It hasn't happened much but whenever it does, I'm always a little frustrated because I think to myself: "I am comfortable about what I do, I've thought about it and don't feel it's wrong or dirty....why should I be made to feel like this because you have not been honest with yourself? If this is so shameful, then why are you doing it?! " It isn't for me to carry anyone's guilt and I have learned to shake it off a lot quicker.

I offer me, my attention, my thoughts, my touch, my kisses, my hugs and all of me. When it's received with appreciation... it's the biggest rush ever.
It isn't for everyone..but when it is for you.. it's great.

 

[tianna]

and...

to be a friend.. good listener, caring, understanding, willing to give out as much energy as needed to those who really need it, to feel.... be patient, considerate, sensual, sexual, comfortable, gentle, flexible, to not look at the person who enters the door as $$$$ but rather see them for the person that they are, and respect that..... to pay attention to detail it takes a while to learn what it is to be an escort.... and what it means to carry yourself with that..... I enjoy what I do.. and when I do chose to retire.. I can say that I will miss it.. it's true...... tianna

 

[curvy_nympho]

On being a service provider

It is great to hear the other ladies who posted on this thread speak about the things they enjoy about being in "the oldest profession."

Dea's and Ms. Meiko's posts reflect a lot of why I do what I do. (I always find Dea's poststo be so thoughtfully written!)

Besides being a good listener, counsellor, lover, etc., I also enjoy the rush of being the object of someone's fantasies. I like knowing that I have made someone smile the rest of the day (or week even!). I like knowing that someone trusted me enough with his innermost desires, things he may have never shared with anyone else, and I got to make them real. That is certainly a rush for me! I know that for years to come, a man will remember the first time he ever did _________ with me and that it was hot!

I think a lot of people have too many hang ups about sex. It makes me sad that men feel they can't go to their wives/girlfriends/significant others with their fantasies because they are scared of judgement or rejection. I think that is why a lot of men choose to see service providers. We can create a safe environment in which to express one self.

Bella

 

[DeaAphrodite]

Wow!

Wow! Great comments everyone! I've got that "warm fuzzy" feeling.

Any other ladies want to contribute? I am so loving this! Thanks for the Thread, Miss M.

 

[DeaAphrodite]

Exactly!

When you get over your shame, sex is way better. You end up doing the same things (or even more) but they feel twice as good.

Exactly right Luther! Man-o-man do I wish more people understood that!

Guys, if you're doing this but feel ashamed about it, I really suggest you deeply explore that for yourself. You are holding yourself back from so much in life by not embracing it.

I know that me stepping up to my altar and preaching that it is all ok and not sinful will do nothing to change the minds of those who feel strongly otherwise. However, I will feel deeply gratified if even one person takes my words to heart enough to actually critically question those beliefs and dare to make up his own mind, and shake off his unquestioned societal programming.

(see my sig? I really mean it. )

 

[DeaAphrodite]

One more thing...

There is another invaluable thing I have become very good at since becoming an SP, and that is living in the moment. It doesn't matter what else is going on in my life, or what happened to me ten minutes ago, when a gentleman walks in the door, I do my best to put all that aside and become fully present in the moment at hand. I don't know of any other situation that makes one practice this with so much necessity. It is an incredible lesson.

 

[ms.belair]

good work

One of my favorite moments in this business was a client exclaiming, "now this is heaven!", he had a glass of wine in his hand and me naked on top, my mouth on his cock. Good Times! Hard not to like this job!

Mutual respect and appreciation go a long way in the bedroom.

Is this me shilling myself? Sorry about that if it is.

 

[miss meiko]

Wow! Great comments everyone! I've got that "warm fuzzy" feeling.

Any other ladies want to contribute? I am so loving this! Thanks for the Thread, Miss M.

I'm glad some of us feel the same way about this occupation; liking it very much. Once in a while I feel bad for not using my education for a living. But on the other hand, I think I'm doing great here because of my education back ground.

As we know this is a great job, but only temporary, so just enjoy it while we can. Learn from it and make the best out of it. Some of my bad experiences help me better understanding of human nature. How sex is the greatest equalizer among humans...

The reason why I don't write the negative sides of this job because they are the things that people always want to talk or think about. How about the positive side...


Thanks everybody!

M.

 

[Mr.O]

Well said...

I will say this, it is ladies with your attitude & insight that will allow or cause these men with reservation to change thier preconceived ideology.

Most men are able to be moved to thier core when in the presence of a woman of true substance. (if not, I question his stature)

Virtue, it's not just fer virgins anymore!