Asking out a cuddler

[Lenzarz47]

I was swiping on bumble and came across her profile. I closed the app as to not swipe left/right to make her profile go away. I do enjoy our current platonic cuddler/cuddlee relationship, but I'm afraid asking her out may 'ruin' our business relationship should she say no. We have shared interests, so that's a plus. At first I drew a hard line at not asking her out, but I noticed in the past these 'hard lines' I make for myself can limit me from potentially great outcomes. If I do ask her out, when should I do it? I'm probably over thinking this; but I don't want to do it over text. If she's uncomfortable with the idea it will appear on her phone and keep her feeling uncomfortable until she either blocks, or deletes me. I'm thinking some point closer to the end of a cuddle date (but not the end) so that it if it goes poorly, it doesn't end on a sour note. I don't want to do it at the start since that will set the tone. Obviously, I'd like to continue a business relationship should she say no. Does anyone have any thoughts or ideas on this?

 

[Miss Hunter]

Keep in mind...You may have fallen for the illusion of her.

And I agree with Vanessa, if she says no it will be very awkward to continue a business relationship after. Every regular that has ever asked me out off the clock is no longer a client of mine.

And even if she does agree to see you off the clock, can you handle her job? Cuddling with other men? The human male can be as territorial as a male betta fish.

 

[Lenzarz47]

I think it's some weird combination of feelings, but primarily consisting of her being able to make me feel good from cuddling, along with my mind trying to act on the fact that she's single. I don't think I'll ask her out. I decided to swipe right because her profile came up again. If she also swipes right and messages me, awesome! If not, we can continue as is ... though in hindsight, if she pays for the dating app she can see who swiped right on her. Guess only time will tell how it turns out.
As for her cuddling other men, I honestly don't know how I feel about that at the moment. One bridge at a time I suppose?

 

[BobbyMcgee]

one word ought to suffice
TITANIC

 

[Kikoolol]

As Miss Hunter said, if you ask and she says no, it's going to be very awkward if you keep seeing her. The same goes if she were the one asking you and you were the one saying no.
But someone has to be brave enough otherwise you might both be interested and you'd never find out. I believe the rule of thumb is that the lady will let the client know if she's interested.

 

[Lenzarz47]

After more thought, I agree with you Kikoolol. Sadly, I already right swiped with no match. So here's hoping she doesn't pay for the premium service to see who swiped right lol
Part of me was hoping there'd be some kind of "mature" no where cuddles could continue as normal if it wasn't reciprocated. It's not as if we've known each other for super long to the point where romantic feelings are involved. It's more of a "hey, I think you're awesome. we have shared interests, wanna go on a date?" I do think you have a point about the bravery thing, otherwise I'd never know.