use other vices to curb your addiction, gambling or smoking weed. i tried all for a significant amount of time during my highschool/university years. if you have the discipline for self-control, you'd still do well in school. we all need to relax sometimes, just don't try to seek pleasure too eagerly, its easier said than done.
I do smoke weed, a lot. Gambling is a no-no for me though due to family history. I am doing well in school, I don't have a problem with my studies. It's just that I want to cut down on my spending but it's really hard.
you are probably more after the relationship contact with a female than the actual sex, or gratification. So hang around places gals do and make friends with them. One of them might really get to like you and take care of things with you. And alternatively, leave your money at home. Make yourself put it in a place where you don't take it with you and then you won't be able to spend it. KNow how you feel. My first ecounter came from the $10 I made on my paper route back when $10 was the good old price. Was kind of hard to stop, but I had other expenses demanding payment, so had to.
This honestly could be why. I've seeked for relationships to the point where I just gave up because I always fuck shit up. Now whenever I see a hot or pretty or beautiful girl, I don't think normally. Normally you would think of starting a relationship, but I think of things I could do to her in bed :doh:
I was just about to start a thread on this topic. I have also "quit" due to financial troubles. I have been making money but do not really want to go back. There are still strong temptations but i just think of the regret i'll feel after i spend my hard earned money. That being said i think the easiest solution is getting a girlfriend although that may not be the "easiest". Here are some ways try at your own risk:
1.Become religious
2.Stop looking at porn
3.Don't look at girls
4.Prescription drugs that lower libido
5.Rub one out
I've tried some of the above but it still failed lol. I still think about escorts even after I rub one out!
Plan to make the call.. anticipate how much fun it will be.. but then just make sure you have a good wank before calling an SP. You can tantalize yourself by indulging in the full intention to go see your favourite lady - so long as you blow a load before you actually follow through. Then right when you're coming.. and I mean right then- say to yourself "Cool. I just save myself $300".
Then think about how unnerving and unsettling it is to have spent that money you don't have. Except you didn't. Don't try to distract yourself too much with porn or rationalizing why you shouldn't. You will want to see SPs because it's a totally natural thing. You just need to moderate your urge and slow down the 'burn rate' on your cash.
After a while wanking won't cut it and you'll have to follow through. But you'll be able to leverage the experiences you have to enjoy the anticipation and excitement so that you won't overdo it. It's really not that different from saving up to eat out once a month or whatever.
You're on a budget - bottom line: don't try to deny your temptation - just seek to moderate it. Also, save up for a quality SP and avoid low end providers. Good luck.
I only always go with the good, well reviewed SP providers so maybe that could be one of the reason why I'm addicted. The cheap ones are totally not worth it, have had bad experiences there before.
Addiction is something altogether different and obviously unhealthy. You lose control and your addiction controls you. Most addictions won't bankrupt you but pooning, drugs and gambling sure can do it.
The question is...are you really addicted? If you have 200 bucks in your pocket to see an escort and the appointment falls through, are you frantically searching online for a replacement or can you go buy something nice for yourself or better yet, for someone else. It's just sex and the pleasure is fleeting...assuming the session was even pleasurable at all. But to spend that money on somebody you care about can really make you feel good. The feeling it creates can be addicting.
I'm pretty sure I am. Whenever I get money, I start thinking of possibilities on how to spend the money and escorts are one of the top 5. Some of the escorts provide such good service that it makes you want to go back.
Jobless, university student, on an allowance from your parents.
GD, that should be enough reason itself, man. Where's the brains? (sorry... of course, you are thinking with the small head, instead)
Well, you have no money for girlfriends either. So the solution is self-restraint or you are doomed.
If you cannot exert self-discipline to manage your sexual urges, then you likely don't have enough to do well at studies.
Man, you must choose self-discipline for your life.
Maybe penniless and a future-less drop-out? Living at home the rest of your life? How's that sound for reasons?
There's lots of free porn websites with thousands and thousands of clips to indulge in and wank to.
Strike up light conversation with some girls on campus and maybe get lucky over time. University is a field full of flowers.
If you answer back saying you are a star student, then use some of that focus you have for studying to pull you out of pooning.
You have a lifetime to poon if you want, after you graduate.
Yeah my small head probably has more control of my brain :frusty:
Honestly, I do have the money for a girlfriend but I've spent quite a fair amount of money on gifts for girls only for them to leave me hanging. I figured, why not just spend the money on escorts instead? I get pleasure and I am happy.
I would not conflict my sex drive with school at all. I am not a star student unfortunately, but I am not a bad student either. I can focus in my studies, just procrastination is one hell of an evil mother fucker.
