A question for the guys....

[Yackityyak]

I've been seeing a special lady for about five or six months now and everything is going great. We waited for intimacy for about two months (her decision) and everything is great - she really keeps me hopping.

The relationship is wonderful and we've shared a lot about our past lives. During this relationship, I haven't been tempted to poon, partly because the sex has been great and regular and partly because I don't want to stray from a good thing.

Anyways, during a number of chats and laughs about past partners, I've come pretty close about disclosing my pooning past. She's very openminded but I can't help but think she may see me in a different light if I disclose this chapter of my past.

It may well come up at some point in the future so my question to my brothers is - have any of you disclosed your pooning history to a romantic interest and if so, what was the reaction, good or bad. If the consensus is that I shouldn't go there, I will drop it.... Thanks brothers...

 

[shuffle]

I did once. No regrets regarding it, despite the fact that months later the relationship ended. She understood and got off on it a little. Takes the right lady however.

I applaud your decision to not be active while in a relationship. I do the same as I want true intimacy (I don't mean sex, but the connection between you) in my relationships which means no secrets. I hope this special lady is the one for you who rocks your world for the remainder of your time on it.

 

[sarahpassion]

I know it said for the guys

Since nobody else replied I thought I would chirp in.

I would say no, this "hobby" isn't very accepted in society, so it is all very secretive. Many people who haven't been involved don't really understand.

I know before I became involved in this industry, I really looked down on girls in this industry, based only on stereotypes. A regular patron of mine (at the bar I worked at), would talk quite a bit about it, he would be like "Okay now Ima go home and call up one of my girlfriends", it worked out well for him.

Also I guess after seeing so many married men, if you told me that you were involved in this I guess it would always be in the back of mind, if you would/are doing it again? I would say just keep it to yourself.

 

[dipitydoo]

Yackityyak,

If you have not told her about it from the start, the more you wait, the more she will feel betrayed when you do tell her and you're already heavily involved on the emotional side.

There are some things one has to keep from others, it's a personal, private thing. As long as you're being true and honest with yourself and your principles, and in doing so you are not causing any harm to anyone, then your past is your past, you don't owe anyone anything from what you have experienced in your life before they were a part of it.

I dunno, if you think she can handle it and you believe it will make you feel better and make the relationship grow, go ahead, tell her about your pooning.

 

[Quarter Mile'r]

There's an old saying..........

Let sleeping dogs lie. 'nuff said.




................QM'r

 

[Pantherdash]

There's an old saying..........

Let sleeping dogs lie. 'nuff said.




................QM'r

I agree with this guy (don't know why ) and everyone else who's telling you not to disclose this part of your life...don't go there bro! Some people are not very open minded to this kind of thing primarily because there are so many misconceptions about it, like the diseases, exploitation of women, what does it tell you about yourself and your integrity, etc., that it's not worth it to sit there and explain why you do it to someone who has no idea. You haven't been cheating on her, you're happy, she's happy. Why ruin a good thing? You got to keep something for yourself, no?

Good luck

Panther

 

[rescue911]

why

why would you do something that would harm the relationship....do you feel like bragging about the women you have bedded...then why even think about telling. do you think it will add something or improve your relationship...again then why tell.

do you feel guilty and need to unload..then find a priest or another clergyman....if it is so great why do you feel the compulsion to screw it up..perhaps you really want it to end.

 

[tedsweettangv]

It is a trust thing, and it illicits strange behaviour. I don't poon when I am in a relationship, I just don't. I have in the past told one woman that I was seeing what I did before I saw her. She seemed ok with it at first but then I caught her looking at by bank statements and credit card bills. I asked her why and she admitted she wondered if I was still pooning. She never trusted me after I told her that. It is odd that I believe I could have told her I went to bars and picked up whatever random women I could and she would have been better with that than with pooning.

 

[Pantherdash]

cancel your account, keep right away from this site and any others like it.

Oh, Hubba! If only YOU were the OP!

Oh, to live the impossible dream...

...I'll keep dreaming now.

Panther

 

[sarahpassion]

There's an old saying..........

Let sleeping dogs lie. 'nuff said.




................QM'r

I was going to quote that! It just seemed a bit Ironic....

 

[rimas]

Bad move to tell. Let it be.

 

[Pantherdash]

Dreaming is probably all you got enjoy!!!

Well, at least I write about the dreams that I live on this site, MARICON!

Panther

 

[Quarter Mile'r]

I have in the past told one woman that I was seeing what I did before I saw her. She seemed ok with it at first but then I caught her looking at by bank statements and credit card bills. I asked her why and she admitted she wondered if I was still pooning. She never trusted me after I told her that.

Yackity, there you have it man. Let the sleeping dogs lie and forget
your past. Let it be a distant memory to enjoy and NOTHING more bud!!

To give a spouse/gf or whatever you want to call it anything that
might raise suspicion, is a bad move brother.
Panther laid it out for you pretty well also.

.............QM'r

 

[dreamer222]

For its worth. I have been married for quite a while and early on my wife said that are some things that are best taken to the grave (as long as it does not effect the relationship).

Also, when you weigh the potential benefits against the potential costs it seems like a bad investment to me. So my/her advice is don't tell.

 

[Yackityyak]

Thanks guys (and girls)

I've carefully read and thought about each of your responses and want to thank you. You've each brought a different perspective with a common theme, many that I would never have considered myself. You're absolutely correct that some things are best left unsaid and some things NEED to stay in our distant past and in a remote corner of our minds.

I share a very high degree of trust with the person that I'm with and would not wish to jeopardize our emotional attachment by possibly planting seeds of doubt that, under the right conditions, could germinate in the future.

I've made a decision not to poon for a number of reasons. Thanks for your responses above; they're very much appreciated. Ciao