....comes this evening from my illegitimate son in Calgary. Hello? omg....hello!!!!!!....it's been quite some time since we have spoken. He tracked down my number from my number one ex.....the mother of my two wonderful children...not him.
He was the result of a high school fling thing....and when it became apparent that she was preggers...the conversation ranged far and wide. Keep?....Abort?...Get married??...etc etc. We are all of 17 at this point...hardly capable of making such decisions.
I remember the disappointment of the parents. Having said that, I also remember the support. We decided to have the baby and adopt out on birth. And, so we did. Was that rough?.... I'm sure she has more horrid memories of that than I. I was a prick....I don't recall offering adequate counsel on that loss...but, then, I don't recall it being requested either.
We try to make a go of it....eventually she dumps me after joining the military and me at Dalhousie....smart girl.
I get married eventually. Have two of the most amazing children. Stay married hard!....and, that's a seperate thread. I got married once after also...total weakness....but who cares. I remain friends with each and all of them. Some are indifferent to each other....some hate one another....not really in my control.
So...comes this phone call. I should point out that I'm SO glad that I told wifey one about having this "illegitimate" child wandering out there somewhere...so it came as no surprise when he surfaced after teen mom and I giving permission to "contact". My two babies love the idea of having a brother!
So...imagine if you will...you have a child out there....no contact....but, in the back of your mind...how is he doing?...who is he?...is he the prime minister?
No, I get the initial phone call. He's freaking gay! I was with wifey number two at the time....and she is/was way cool...she talked me down on that...and we all met...and he is a wonderful man...albeit gay. So, I obviously did some self analysis.
I'll come to the point. He just called this evening...he's getting married in Banff this summer. He and his partner just bought a condo....and I'm like...wow...of course I'll be there! My children will come also and, apparently, wifey number one also. I think it will be a blast and a celebration and I am absolutely delighted.
Before anyone asks...who's giving him away...I have no idea....that thought crossed also. If I'm asked....I absolutely will.
eddie.
He was the result of a high school fling thing....and when it became apparent that she was preggers...the conversation ranged far and wide. Keep?....Abort?...Get married??...etc etc. We are all of 17 at this point...hardly capable of making such decisions.
I remember the disappointment of the parents. Having said that, I also remember the support. We decided to have the baby and adopt out on birth. And, so we did. Was that rough?.... I'm sure she has more horrid memories of that than I. I was a prick....I don't recall offering adequate counsel on that loss...but, then, I don't recall it being requested either.
We try to make a go of it....eventually she dumps me after joining the military and me at Dalhousie....smart girl.
I get married eventually. Have two of the most amazing children. Stay married hard!....and, that's a seperate thread. I got married once after also...total weakness....but who cares. I remain friends with each and all of them. Some are indifferent to each other....some hate one another....not really in my control.
So...comes this phone call. I should point out that I'm SO glad that I told wifey one about having this "illegitimate" child wandering out there somewhere...so it came as no surprise when he surfaced after teen mom and I giving permission to "contact". My two babies love the idea of having a brother!
So...imagine if you will...you have a child out there....no contact....but, in the back of your mind...how is he doing?...who is he?...is he the prime minister?
No, I get the initial phone call. He's freaking gay! I was with wifey number two at the time....and she is/was way cool...she talked me down on that...and we all met...and he is a wonderful man...albeit gay. So, I obviously did some self analysis.
I'll come to the point. He just called this evening...he's getting married in Banff this summer. He and his partner just bought a condo....and I'm like...wow...of course I'll be there! My children will come also and, apparently, wifey number one also. I think it will be a blast and a celebration and I am absolutely delighted.
Before anyone asks...who's giving him away...I have no idea....that thought crossed also. If I'm asked....I absolutely will.
eddie.
