Pansies. The OP needs to learn the consequences of one's actions. If you don't want to pay the price, don't play the game. This is true for, not all, but a lot of things. You hit on another guy's gf and he chose to do something about it - much to your chagrin. But hey, he got his point across, didn't he? So the next time you try to "sarge" I'll bet you're gonna be a lot more careful. If you're not happy about this then DO something about it and stand up for yourself. And I don't mean get campus security involved either - those guys are there to escort girls to their cars late at night, not to deal with some pussy who can't clean up his own mess. But if you're a REAL man, you'd admit to your mistake and move on.
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ok aside from the fact that he was sarging and could be construed as overly aggressive towards women, how is he or I to know whether some girl has a BF or not? I mean ok if he's standing right there then you deserve his approach of retaliation, but if he's nowhere around can he really blame you for trying to hit on her? If the guy was overly persistant/pushy or vulgar ok, i would probably approach the guy and threaten his balls too, but if he was just simply trying his luck, well is the BF any different? i mean isnt that how he got the girl to begin with?? if the girl felt very uncomfortable by the guys approach, she could simply say i already have a boyfriend so please leave me alone. but if he still pursued after that......well then he may have deserved what he got. you can try to be very forward with women, and sometimes it may work in your favor, but ultimately you still need to be respectful of them.
I wouldn't consider it "harassment" to ask a girl for her number, unless you feel you are being made
"uncomfortable" & harassed whenever any stranger speaks to you. The three thugs, OTOH, were not only extreme harrassers but could quite possibly have been in violation of the law.
"uncomfortable" & harassed whenever any stranger speaks to you. The three thugs, OTOH, were not only extreme harrassers but could quite possibly have been in violation of the law.
Lol, you gotta love Vancouver. The people are the coldest most unapproachable people in the world. Only in Vancouver is it considered harassment to engage a Woman in Conversation and ask for her number. As long as it's not threatening or actual real harassment there is nothing wrong with this and if you don't know the Woman, how the hell could you know that she has a boyfriend. I'm kinda old school and I unlike many Men out there subscribe to the golden rule, I don't mow another Man's lawn if you catch my drift.
It's hilarious that this "tough" guy had to bring back up to this situation. Any civilized person would have approached the man and said something to the effect of "Hey dude, that girl you asked for her number is actually my girlfriend, I'd appreciate if you left it at that and didn't bother her anymore." but no, it's all this testosterone bullshit and intimidation to front and prove that you're the real deal homey.
On the other hand if the so called "offender" knew this girl had a boyfriend and proceeded to try to pick her up anyway then I would think it's justified for the boyfriend to up the ante some and maybe let the "offender" feel his presence and let it be known that there will consequences to his continued actions.
The coldness of people in this city is probably #1 reason the Sex industry is so big out here. Everyone is afraid to even approach a woman due to bullshit a lot idiot respondents have posted in this thread.
It's hilarious that this "tough" guy had to bring back up to this situation. Any civilized person would have approached the man and said something to the effect of "Hey dude, that girl you asked for her number is actually my girlfriend, I'd appreciate if you left it at that and didn't bother her anymore." but no, it's all this testosterone bullshit and intimidation to front and prove that you're the real deal homey.
On the other hand if the so called "offender" knew this girl had a boyfriend and proceeded to try to pick her up anyway then I would think it's justified for the boyfriend to up the ante some and maybe let the "offender" feel his presence and let it be known that there will consequences to his continued actions.
The coldness of people in this city is probably #1 reason the Sex industry is so big out here. Everyone is afraid to even approach a woman due to bullshit a lot idiot respondents have posted in this thread.
If a guy goes and asks a girl for her number and she says no..that's not a problem. But if he then approaches the girl right beside her and asks her for her number, I think it's safe to say the guy has a problem.
I maybe a little old fashion in this area but asking numerous women for their numbers in a short period of time is very close to harassment.
And I could easily see how women in general would find it offensive and how it could impede their enjoyment of their evironment.
School is for learning, if you want to try picking women up either do it discretely or go someplace like a bar, where it's understood that this is likely to occur. Work and school areas are off limits to improper behaviour, and I'm quite sure any rational human being would consider this improper.
I maybe a little old fashion in this area but asking numerous women for their numbers in a short period of time is very close to harassment.
And I could easily see how women in general would find it offensive and how it could impede their enjoyment of their evironment.
School is for learning, if you want to try picking women up either do it discretely or go someplace like a bar, where it's understood that this is likely to occur. Work and school areas are off limits to improper behaviour, and I'm quite sure any rational human being would consider this improper.
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Or perhaps many would take it as a compliment if they were asked for their number. It's just like asking a stranger if you could buy her a beer and it makes her day.
I was in a bar and asked the waitress if she had a BF. It tells her i'm interested & available and leaves the ball in her court, if she wants to play and return it or not. All she need do is politely say she has a BF, GF, is not available, or whatever the case may be, and that's the end of it. No need to be a rat and whine to her boss, friends, police or anyone else. Hot women get hit on all the time, so they should be used to it and learn to handle it in a civilized manner rather than like a barbarian.
I was on the sidewalk and walked up to a cute young Asian spinner smoking a cigarette and asked her if i could buy her a drink. She smiled, apparently flattered, and said that she had to go home. I didn't press the matter by asking to see her later or for her number, but excused myself wishing her a good night.
Yes, and if you worked in a midsize to large corporation and you started asking every girl on your department for their phone number all within a day or two, I'm sure you'd impress the boss..especially if she were one of the one's you flattered with your request.
There's something called context, and within that concept acceptable behaviour is expected.
What if you were a teacher, would it be okay to ask all the pretty women in your class for their phone numbers?...would it be acceptable to say make that their first assignment?
If any object you could tell them they should feel flattered..see how that plays out.
There's something called context, and within that concept acceptable behaviour is expected.
What if you were a teacher, would it be okay to ask all the pretty women in your class for their phone numbers?...would it be acceptable to say make that their first assignment?
If any object you could tell them they should feel flattered..see how that plays out.
Apparently you are not very good at reading between the lines. In this instance, I think "she had to go home" is more like a PFO (polite fuck off)
.Certainly there is a time, place & manner to do and not to do this. The first thing out of one's mouth doesn't have to be a request for her digits. Unless she's already staring, smiling and making suggestive movements with her lips and tongue. In that case one should not beg for but demand her # ;
Wow, you are brilliant. Why didn't i think of that. It must be because you are the residentApparently you are not very good at reading between the lines. In this instance, I think "she had to go home" is more like a PFO (polite fuck off)
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Doing what the OP said he was doing might be OK in a club, where people meet specifically to socialize, but not in a place like school. If enough girls complain about him he could find himself facing disciplinary action for sexual harrassment. Girls go to school to study, not to get picked up by some random loser for sex just because he wants it. In this particular case the girls most likely complained to their male friends about some jerk harrassing them, and one of those male friends decided to do something about it. Women are acutely aware of the ever present danger of rape or sexual assault, and a creepy guy doing the rounds with one thing clearly on his mind is going to create a sense of fear. What he then experienced was the reaction to that fear in the form of protective rage from other males, but instead of learning a lesson from that encounter his solution is to change his predatory hunting grounds because he believes that he has an inherent right to harrass females until he gets what he wants. Women have good reason to be nervous about men like that.
It seems the on campus security disagrees with you:
"even the security guard on campus told me that their was nothing wrong with what i was doing(approaching girl and asking for their numbers)"
Actually most girls are interested in a life beyond being a 100% nerd, also enjoy sex/intimacy, and many go to school to party just as much as to study.
It would appear that said campus security personnel, typically moronic that they are, didn't know what he or she was talking about. According to Doulgas College's "Policies and Procedures" (highlights mine):
Why is it that when people do something stupid and there is retaliation, they are the innocent victims ? Consider that maybe the OP had already "sarged" this girl previously and been told no. Under what circumstances did he do his "sarging", where the girls alone at the time, were other people around, were they in a position where they felt isolated and vulnerable ? His harmless approach may have been considered threatening or overbearing by the girls he "sarged." Maybe the girl in question wasn't even a girlfriend, maybe it was a sister or whatever of one of the trio.
I think the OP is leaving a few things out of his story that may clarify the reaction he got a bit better.
I think the OP is leaving a few things out of his story that may clarify the reaction he got a bit better.
If it were up to people like you, no one would talk to anyone ever. It's not just me that say's this, Vancouver is quickly becoming one of the coldest places to humanity ever. I don't see anything wrong with approaching a nice young woman and just feel out the situation to see if she might be interested and if she is ask for her number. It's gotten to the point where it's just automatically assumed then men are aggressors and women are automatically victims, GIVE ME A FUCKING BREAK!!! If she isn't interested then move on to your business.
He probably neglected to mention that he had been doing it shotgun approach to a hundred girls, or just why he was doing it. He would have claimed that he was "just talking" to a girl, and then her boyfriend threatened to beat him up. Leaving context out when crying victim is a common story.
Sorry to dissillusion you, but while many girls who go to school like to party, while actually AT school most are there to study. I don't doubt that there are female equivalents of the OP at the school, but they would be the minority.
