Sexual Chemistry?

[Rammstein69]

Curious question for the lovely ladies on the board. Is it difficult for you to provide a high level of service when the chemistry between you and the client just isn't there?

I imagine it would be hard to feel genuine pleasure (and thereby pleasure him) when there's just no spark or attraction there at all.

I'm sure there are tons of guys who couldn't care less how 'into it' the girl is; they'll just pound away until they're satisfied. For some of us though, it's a letdown if the girl isn't enjoying herself too.

Just wondering how hard it is to fake it...or do you fake it? Can you always find some attractive quality in every client?

 

[TheGuy]

Curious question for the lovely ladies on the board. Is it difficult for you to provide a high level of service when the chemistry between you and the client just isn't there?

I imagine it would be hard to feel genuine pleasure (and thereby pleasure him) when there's just no spark or attraction there at all.

I'm sure there are tons of guys who couldn't care less how 'into it' the girl is; they'll just pound away until they're satisfied. For some of us though, it's a letdown if the girl isn't enjoying herself too.

Just wondering how hard it is to fake it...or do you fake it? Can you always find some attractive quality in every client?

Forget Hollywood! The best actresses are right here!

 

[Lady Companion]

We screen our suitors in the same way you do when you look for a lady

Each lady is going to have her preferences regarding what makes an ideal date. For me, personality is 99% of it. If I find a gentleman to be intelligent and witty (along with being courteous and respectful of course), there is a very good chance I will be enamoured with him when we meet.

If our conversations and emails leave me feeling like we may not truly connect on multiple levels in person, I simply decline the tryst.

Rarely do I enter into an arrangment and then feel that there is no attraction. On the few instances where this has occured, and I wasn't truly taken by the gent once we met in person, I will do one of two things; either offer the envelope back, or proceed with the tryst, make the absolute best of it, and then decline a future encounter with him.

I would hope most, if not all of the ladies here are doing this as a choice and not as a last resort. This allows us to be selective, decline far more trysts than we accept, and truly find the stellar matches which have us looking as forward to an encouter as the gentleman.

 

[vidwindow]

Mmmmmmm. Mullet.


(Hahahahahahahahahahahah!)

Vid

 

[smackyo]

Reverse the roll. You're a male SP and your client is Heidi, the angry 50 something mare from HR that you hate. She says "eat my pussy boy" and you have to go down, bury your face in it and "pretend" to enjoy. The chicks have to do the same.

Your next client is Tamara in the mailroom. She's..220 pounds, a big girl and has a mullet. She's paid for 2 hours of FS and wants it hard.

*shudders*.

I'd say yeah, some kind of chemistry is important..though I'd bet that being polite & recognizing the chick is human also helps too.

lol, one big difference though. the male sp has to get and maintain an erection. i know without it in those situations i couldn't do it but all the viagra in the world might not be enough either.

 

[Krustee]

Well for me it's ALL about the personality...
for ME that is.
Let's be honest here folks I feel close enough with most of you wonderful providers & pooners to say that I am really lousy in bed.

So as you can imagine I don't get many repeat dates unless they are religious & trying to convert me.

or

They are auto phobic Emo types with low self esteem & suicidal tendencies.

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/d/d5/Emo_girl_by_Charles_Johnson_from_New_York.jpg

or

They are mentally challenged & don't know the meaning of "dolt".

or

They suffer from short term memory loss & don't remember being with me before.

But believe it or not I do find em out there & it is those kind souls who help me to get over my lack of skills in bed.
Well, let's be honest, I'm too lazy in bed to claim any skills at all as that would imply effort.

I enjoy sex it's just that if it happens at the same time that Dukes of Hazard is on then I have to multi-task.

Here is a list of things I have learned not to say during sex.

As for my expectations;
ALL I care about is that she is still breathing & has a body temp somewhere in the neighborhood of 98.6.

 

[HB40]

As long as I feel their desire (Number 1 on my list of attractive qualities), I can feel attracted.

Lust is contagious!

xoxo
Nina

Yes indeed! That is the one thing infectious I love to share....I'm trying to start an epidemic!

 

[Harmony-bc]

The most important thing is personality. I could care less about looks in work or in my personal life. You make me laugh and I'm yours. I feel happy when I make someone else feel happy. Chemistry is not so important, chemistry might make a girl or a guy enjoy the session a tad bit more, but is irrelevant to the end result, lol, and not why I'm there. The only people I would turn away would be if they were rude, pushy, trying to bargain, or wanting a service I did not provide.

 

[Harmony-bc]

Sexual chemistry is in the pheromones, impossible to detect over the phone, no matter how sweet, smooth, or funny the guy is. You can still have orgasms even if your chemistry does not match. I had a very intense long term relationship with a man that other people thought was ugly. I thought he was beautiful, we had chemistry and great sex.

You can have chemistry with a client, but what is more important is how she treats you, how much fun you have. Orgasms are easy to have by any woman who knows her own body, and wants to be there, but is not the reason she is there.

 

[BJhunter]

Sexual chemistry is in the pheromones, impossible to detect over the phone, no matter how sweet, smooth, or funny the guy is. You can still have orgasms even if your chemistry does not match. I had a very intense long term relationship with a man that other people thought was ugly. I thought he was beautiful, we had chemistry and great sex.

You can have chemistry with a client, but what is more important is how she treats you, how much fun you have. Orgasms are easy to have by any woman who knows her own body, and wants to be there, but is not the reason she is there.

Whew, I do have a chance after all

 

[Rammstein69]

As long as I feel their desire (Number 1 on my list of attractive qualities), I can feel attracted.

Lust is contagious!

xoxo
Nina

Hmmm... I always thought women were turned off by horndogs. I always act disinterested around women for fear of being thought of as a perv. I think I found one of my toes over here in the corner...

 

[Holly Taylor]

Hmmm... I always thought women were turned off by horndogs. I always act disinterested around women for fear of being thought of as a perv. I think I found one of my toes over here in the corner...

Somewhere inbetween is best, I think.

If you act too interested, you come on too strong and it's creepy. If you don't act interested at all, you may come off as gay, and then women won't attempt to pursue you.

 

[deslicher]

The most important thing is personality. I could care less about looks in work or in my personal life. You make me laugh and I'm yours. I feel happy when I make someone else feel happy. Chemistry is not so important, chemistry might make a girl or a guy enjoy the session a tad bit more, but is irrelevant to the end result, lol, and not why I'm there. The only people I would turn away would be if they were rude, pushy, trying to bargain, or wanting a service I did not provide.

With all due respect that is not the world we live in or else I'd have girls knocking my door down. I'm sure you feel that way and I appreciate and respect that.

I'm very average looking but have a good personality and a great sense of humour, the VAST majority of women appreciate that, but that same majority need chemistry. For me it's either been a rejection and/or "I don't think the chemistry is there".

I sometimes reply, "well how's that working for ya? Your single aren't ya, still gonna be looking for Brad Pitt when your 60? Good Luck".....LOL....

Well I don't really say that alot, but I'm going to someday, hey maybe next time I won't have to....

 

[HB40]

Somewhere inbetween is best, I think.

If you act too interested, you come on too strong and it's creepy. If you don't act interested at all, you may come off as gay, and then women won't attempt to pursue you.

Whew, thanks Holly, I don't want to come off as gay....although the huge erection I have might be a dead give away.

 

[smackyo]

something i've found funny is that a lot of women in the adult industry, be it strippers, sex trade workers or porn actresses tend to be the women that really do see a guys personality as being the most important and often end up with very average looking dudes or even ugly dudes in their private lives.

this could be because of two reasons. either the women know that these ugly or average dudes will put up with what they do cause these dudes should consider themselves lucky to even be able to "share" such a hot dish and this woman will not be lonely and always have someone to go home to and be able to share things with outside of sex.

or...............................

with these women being around so called good looking, beautiful macho guys have just grown tired of their arrogance and superficial attitudes and can see through their good looks to their soul and see what a shell of human they are cause they are around it all the time and the women don't have to lust after looks for sex cause they get it all the time through work and what they are missing is someone to truly connect with on an emotional level.

my two cents i guess.

 

[Aynia]

Ok... so I am guessing I have a different opinion

between Chemistry and " it works". Personally, I believe when the ladies say they enjoy the majority of their encounters, they do, as I do and it is "easy" to get comfortable in each other's personal space in the rather short introduction.

BUT, I believe, again IMHO that Chemistry is entirely different and not something that can be " forced" in any capacity.

Chemistry is the allusive " connection", clearly made by our bodies rather than our minds and I believe we have no control over it. It is there, or it isn't. That isn't to say the comfort/connection cannot be great... but chemistry, when it is there ( far rarer than most think) is the equivalent to a drug and can be as damaging as it can be fulfilling.

I am sure everyone has met someone that was not there "type" look or even perhaps personality wise, but for whatever reason (chemistry) you are drawn to the person. On the flip of that, I have experienced some wonderful men in my life that I could easily get connected too, have great sex and even be capable of a relationship but not experience "chemistry".

Chemistry is as rare as the perfect kiss.... but I can say, once you have had it, you will have a very hard time settling for anything less.

 

[deslicher]

between Chemistry and " it works". Personally, I believe when the ladies say they enjoy the majority of their encounters, they do, as I do and it is "easy" to get comfortable in each other's personal space in the rather short introduction.

BUT, I believe, again IMHO that Chemistry is entirely different and not something that can be " forced" in any capacity.

Chemistry is the allusive " connection", clearly made by our bodies rather than our minds and I believe we have no control over it. It is there, or it isn't. That isn't to say the comfort/connection cannot be great... but chemistry, when it is there ( far rarer than most think) is the equivalent to a drug and can be as damaging as it can be fulfilling.

I am sure everyone has met someone that was not there "type" look or even perhaps personality wise, but for whatever reason (chemistry) you are drawn to the person. On the flip of that, I have experienced some wonderful men in my life that I could easily get connected too, have great sex and even be capable of a relationship but not experience "chemistry".

Chemistry is as rare as the perfect kiss.... but I can say, once you have had it, you will have a very hard time settling for anything less.

I agree, the last paragraph or sentence is probably true as well, especially for women which is why in my experience I see so many older women still talking about a guys looks and how good looking or not so good looking someone is.

Sometimes I wanna say "Listen madam, if i'm not remotely attracted to you chances are stud boy isn't going to be either" They have an inflated sense of themselves, of course men do it too but unless both grow up they will never find happiness in a healthy relationship.

 

[Rammstein69]

I agree, the last paragraph or sentence is probably true as well, especially for women which is why in my experience I see so many older women still talking about a guys looks and how good looking or not so good looking someone is.

Sometimes I wanna say "Listen madam, if i'm not remotely attracted to you chances are stud boy isn't going to be either" They have an inflated sense of themselves, of course men do it too but unless both grow up they will never find happiness in a healthy relationship.

Lol! That's very true. My mom has a friend around 60ish, who still thinks she's 30. She won't even entertain the thought of dating a man close to her own age; she'd rather go out with guys my age (39). Keeps saying she wants to go out with me. (shudder!!)

 

[Aynia]

I agree, the last paragraph or sentence is probably true as well, especially for women which is why in my experience I see so many older women still talking about a guys looks and how good looking or not so good looking someone is.

Sometimes I wanna say "Listen madam, if i'm not remotely attracted to you chances are stud boy isn't going to be either" They have an inflated sense of themselves, of course men do it too but unless both grow up they will never find happiness in a healthy relationship.

Lol, actually what I was saying was regardless of looks, you can't ensure chemistry.

So, in reality we are disagreeing...because if there is chemistry between "stud boy" and " madam" their looks have no importance if you believe like I that "Chemistry" cannot be forced or "man made".

 

[necko]

Can there be chemistry if the SP is Gay or Bi? Bi sure maybe but how could there be if she was gay?Lots are and this just a living for them just a job.