Your cheatin heart

[erotic_exotica]

Ok, so maybe the fella’s here can help me out……So every time a lady finds out that her man has cheated on her, I hear such like phrases like “What does she have that I don’t?” or “I did I do wrong?” or “Why? Look at her and look at me?”

So correct me if I wrong but at least half of it is a sexual thing? So my question to you all is why don’t you just talk to your partner about how to improve your love life rather then cheat. Could it be because you don’t think your GF/wife will be open to your fantasy? Are you scared of rejection or judgement from GF/wife? Or do you just have a need to sleep with other women? Now I understand that there’s way more to relationship problems then just sex, but I’m really only interested in opinions on the sexual level of Why men cheat.

 

[SexyBoy]

Ok, so maybe the fella’s here can help me out……So every time a lady finds out that her man has cheated on her, I hear such like phrases like “What does she have that I don’t?” or “I did I do wrong?” or “Why? Look at her and look at me?”

So correct me if I wrong but at least half of it is a sexual thing? So my question to you all is why don’t you just talk to your partner about how to improve your love life rather then cheat. Could it be because you don’t think your GF/wife will be open to your fantasy? Are you scared of rejection or judgement from GF/wife? Or do you just have a need to sleep with other women? Now I understand that there’s way more to relationship problems then just sex, but I’m really only interested in opinions on the sexual level of Why men cheat.

A lot of women do not try or focus enough on sex. Mental attraction is also a problem. Women really need to watch more porn. The ones that do never seem to have a problem with men on a sexual level.

Lots of women are just really bad at sex. Men become more picky the longer they are in a relationship.

 

[SexyBoy]

I agree with that and I am a woman lol, but my problem has always been the opposite. Being a SP and selling porn, I'm too adventurous for most guys I've dated. When I talk to clients about this topic, they pretty much all say the same thing as you do, "my wife is just not interested".

The problem I have had with the adventurous ones is that they don't really sit still in one city.

I can't travel the world. Sure I can go on a trip here and there but some of these girls can do what ever they want when ever they want.

I need to be close to family and in a set routine sort of.

 

[Verb]

i think it is the thrill of another women......Wait....it is the thrill of another women...

 

[Rodge]

I think that a big part of the issue is that Man (Homo sapiens) as a species are still instinctual enough to be tempted by our polygamous mammalian urges. Males of the species in particular, are very driven to spread the seed as much as we can. Women, on the other hand, are still instinctually inclined to nest, and want the safety and stability of a monogamous partner.

All that being said, I've known guys who wouldn't be disloyal if you paid them and women who could only be called 'Breeders'.

More than anything else though, I've always found that a woman wants you to see her as the best. Period. The best, the most deserving, and your preference. Women want to be chosen, preferred over everything else, and feel like they are your queen for whom you would kill, climb mountains, and lift anvils. Women are also competitve and possessive when it comes to their men.

When they ask 'What does she have that I haven't got?' they aren't asking anything about the other woman...they're asking why you stopped preferring them the most. Truthfully, explaining anything about the qualities of the other woman is an excellent way to go from 'screaming argument' to 'starring on an episode of COPS'.

Just my $0.02.

 

[perbertt]

It boils down to one thing: Lack of self-control.

 

[chilli]

It boils down to one thing: Lack of self-control.

That is a very simplistic and silly answer.

Geesh... You've got to be a woman.

In our society Women complain that men don't look after their needs (romance, attention, etc...) and Men complain that women do not look after their needs (sex).

The fact is that just as many women cheat as men.

If a woman wants to keep her man loyal it's just as much as a responsibility of hers as it is of his.

When I was single I dated many women who would say to me, "why is sex so important to you?"

I'd look at them in wonder how they could ask such a stupid silly question and then I would dump them shortly thereafter.

Nature set up men and women the way we are for a reason.

Imagine if all men had sex drives like women - generally indifferent to sex - needing attention to get interested, etc...

Our species would die out from a lack of interest. Everyone would complain about being too tired, cramps, being too fat etc...

This is clearly not in natures best interest, where survival of the fittest is concerned.

Imagine if all women had sex drives like men - as a society no work would ever get done. We would have sex at a drop of a hat, monogomous relationships would not exist.

This too is not in our species or nature's best interest.

So to answer the OP's question, some men cheat for a huge variety of reasons. I don't, never have. But some men are just dogs. Same as some women don't like sex or giving blow jobs, it is what it is.

 

[SexyBoy]

That is a very simplistic and silly answer.

Geesh... You've got to be a woman.

HAHA! Good Stuff!

 

[perbertt]

That is a very simplistic and silly answer.

Geesh... You've got to be a woman.

OK Maybe they are just empty and shallow and have nothing else that they could be passionate about LOL

 

[SexyBoy]

It boils down to one thing: Lack of self-control.

Life is a lot more fun when you just let yourself be out of control.

I use to be calculating and in total control. Now I am totally out of control and loving it.

I feel wild and free

 

[perbertt]

Now I am totally out of control and loving it.

I feel wild and free

Sounds like you are heading for a disaster in my opinion....

 

[SexyBoy]

Sounds like you are heading for a disaster in my opinion....

Man lighten up!

Being out of control does not mean being stupid.

Not holding back your passion is great!

 

[chilli]

OK Maybe they are just empty and shallow and have nothing else that they could be passionate about LOL

Did you even read my post???????

You know sometimes you have to open yourself to the idea that the way you view the world could be wrong.

And most men are passioante about sex, deal with it.

But then again look at history and most great composers, authors, inventors, explorers, scientists, philosophers, conqurors are all men.

So kind of debunks what you just said.

Men are very passionate about alot of things.

 

[perbertt]

Did you even read my post???????

You know sometimes you have to open yourself to the idea that the way you view the world could be wrong.

And most men are passioante about sex, deal with it.

But then again look at history and most great composers, authors, inventors, explorers, scientists, philosophers, conqurors are all men.

So kind of debunks what you just said.

Men are very passionate about alot of things.

Where does it say they were passionate about sex? As far as I know some of them were quite asexual.....

 

[perbertt]

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When I was single I dated many women who would say to me, "why is sex so important to you?"

I'd look at them in wonder how they could ask such a stupid silly question and then I would dump them shortly thereafter.

actually, they are quite smart ladies.

They know that if sex is too important someone, that person is into instant gratification and won't have what it takes to have a meaningful relationship.

Having sex is like pushing a button that doesn't fail to make you happy, at least for a very short time. But there is a different kind of happiness that needs time and work. I am talking about the happiness that comes when you engage your mind, soul, intellect and love to achieve something.

People who tend to look for instant gratification are not good partners in the long run.

The ladies used their instincts to filter out selfish men as possible mates.

 

[perbertt]

Besides, right now your mind is on having sex with her, but pretty soon it will be on having sex with the neighbour, her girlfriend, her sister or daughter... (Woody Allen) After that you will have to come up with more and more new tricks to satisfy him, from anal sex to threesome, to role-play, etc.

A woman's job is to give birth and raise children. She can't possibly keep up with these demands, at least not if she wants to remain sane.

Believe me, oversexed guys make lousy husbands. This board is the living proof of it.

 

[SexyBoy]

Besides, right now your mind is on having sex with her, but pretty soon it will be on having sex with the neighbour, her girlfriend, her sister or daughter... (Woody Allen) After that you will have to come up with more and more new tricks to satisfy him, from anal sex to threesome, to role-play, etc.

A woman's job is to give birth and raise children. She can't possibly keep up with these demands, at least not if she wants to remain sane.

Believe me, oversexed guys make lousy husbands. This board is the living proof of it.

A woman's job? Birth is a job?

I would love to raise a child.

Highly sexual men can make the best husbands. They stay healthy, look after their appearance, and they are romantic. You can expect them to pursue a woman and yes the same woman.

When a man's testosterone decreases it almost seems like he is dieing. They focus on other things besides their wife. They spend more time with their friends, hobbies, and at work.

 

[kalel]

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Highly sexual men can make the best husbands. They stay healthy, look after their appearance, and they are romantic. You can expect them to pursue a woman and yes the same woman.

preach on bruh!

When a man's testosterone decreases it almost seems like he is dieing.

we have "supplements" for that.

 

[chilli]

Besides, right now your mind is on having sex with her, but pretty soon it will be on having sex with the neighbour, her girlfriend, her sister or daughter... (Woody Allen) After that you will have to come up with more and more new tricks to satisfy him, from anal sex to threesome, to role-play, etc.

A woman's job is to give birth and raise children. She can't possibly keep up with these demands, at least not if she wants to remain sane.

Believe me, oversexed guys make lousy husbands. This board is the living proof of it.

Wow...

I hope you never get married, because if you do you're going to make some poor guy very miserable.

 

[perbertt]

There are plenty of men out there that raise children and do a very fine job of it

Except, those are not to be found on hooker boards....

There also plenty of women out there (and proof is on this board), that are highly sexual and maintain a family too.

Who? Like the woman who said on terf that she tells her 12 year old daughter what she does for a living?

She is DEFINITELY a living proof of it

Or the other one that advertised on CL 8 months pregnant and fucks for money?