Dateing a SP ????????

[tianna]

lots of talks about boundaries.. and what each person is comfortable with or not, and you have to really have to make sure that you secure each others individual worlds and the world that you are building together. I was single for years.. and the thought of dating while in this biz.. was hard because I believe that your life partner is the one person you walk completely naked with. I would not want to hold anything back.


However I tried it, and went on tons of dates with men who did not know, and I lied and made up stuff, but none of the dates turned into anything. After a while and believing that perhaps it just might be able to work if I were to be with someone who knew about this life as well, I gave in against all my own fears and tried that. It was great actually, and seemed perfect at the start, but one little thing built on top of another and another another, and it all fell apart.

I think some men think that they would be OK with dating an sp, and that it would not bother them, and if there really are men like that out there, I believe that the relationship would work better if the person was not a client first, just because some how I think that it really separates him from others. and that he should not be so involved in her world.. as active on the boards,, because I think that it can be easily forgotten at times how this is an Internet world created for a market and that we are all Internet personalities. There is a lot of truth and character in posts and there is a lot of creativity.

I'm really just rambling now.. but I do think dating an sp can work, well I personally have not sworn off men yet, so I'm sure that there is a way that it can work, I really believe that communication is key. Learning how much the other person can handle, and being really open and honest about your feelings. and not just hearing what the person is saying but really listening.. and ask yourself as well, Is it your friend that you really want to go out with???.... or does her other personality excite you?? and the thought of dating her ????

oh, and I had fantasies about seducing strangers, among other types of fantasies.. so with this I get to live them,, I was excited and very much turned on when I got into this business.. so there really are some of us out her who enjoy what we do. The financial perks are great.. I can use what I make to on other business ventures, passions and things I want to do and accomplish. Plus I live comfortably, and will say that Im well taken care of. and thank full to have everything that I do have. for the person who wrote " once a client always a client" Thats not true at all!! many of our relationships turn into " once a client, now a really great friend "

and as for a career choice.. its important for those who may not know or understand what we really do or how much work we put into keeping our businesses going. We are marketing experts, we work daily in communication, we do tons of research, we spend hour working even when we are not entertaining. We are hands on sexual therapists, erotic fantasy enhancers and emotional counselors from time to time
not to mention a really good lay !

 

[nube]

Brain up guys. What Coco says is very much the truth for many SPs. For any guy thinking of dating one, drop the notion that the girl is somehow fucked up and perhaps you might be her Knight in Shining Armor to rescue her. Instead, face the facts that your prospective girlfriend likes the easy (I mean, easier than most jobs) money and the sex with any number of guys who are complete strangers. Just like you enjoy sex with women who are complete strangers, and would love the money if only they would pay you instead.

I can't agree more!!! We are talking about a relationship. ALL relationships have their own set of baggage. In one way its like an office romance.

I do really resent the connotation that SP's are 'different' then other women. (or as COCO says fucked up). My opinion of the ones I seen on this board is that they are making a wise decision, complete with associated risks etc. based on either their circumstances or their assets. NOT MUCH DIFFERENT THEN THE REST OF US, except that they are more successful.

So dating, WELL, dating doesn't mean marrige or a long term relationship it means dating, exploring and learning about each other. You'll never know what it willbe like until you do it. No matter what others experiences are.

The best thing is to follow your instints, your gut feeling. And see what happens. I can tell you, if you didn't try it, you'll never know what it would have been like.

But first, you need to be sure, that an SP in your mind is an equal human being and your opinion of her is not based on her occupation. If you can't, then don't play with her head.

 

[BC_Boy]

back to your concept about rocking her world - why would you want to attempt this in a pool of sp's who probably have a higher sex drive than you, more experience, and make it an uphill battle for you to weed out the 2% you have a chance of actually dating instead of just being taken or faked out? why wouldnt' you just attempt that in any normal setting in life? and if you are that damn good that you could rock an sp's world then any other girl in life should be easy to acquire.

sorry to bust your bubble. if you feel that i'm wrong then enjoy the hunt. it is somewhat of a fantasy world anyways.

I don't think u got my point. I was saying that when a guy dates a woman (SP or non SP), he can either be her provider or her lover.

Think of the provider as the rich husband with the mansion, and the lover as the muscular, tanned pool boy.

 

[tianna]

that post made me laugh

so lets say he provided the mansion and the pool boy for entertainment.. would he get bonus points???

 

[TotallyTouchin]

Damn straight

I may lose friends but I am sick of this idea we are all fucked up women and do this because we need to use men or our sex to be happy...
I got into this work to support me and my son... simple... I do enjoy my work as I enjoy being one on one with people....
I have worked in retail and other jobs.. This one is the best for me and my skills as a PERSON!!!!
I am good at be the sweet loving horny lady you are paying for....When you go to a resturant do you wish to be served by a person that will sit with you at your table and tell you what a shitty week they are having or do you want to be served by a person with a nice smile and gets your order right...
Well I for one do not think of men as a walking ATM and to imply that is rude... I work for my money and never feel as I am owed more then what I worked for.....I love people and treat them as I wish to be treated.. with repect...

Sing it sister! Life is too short not to be with the one you want to be with....be with the girl and deal with the unique issues as they arise...

Some of the coolest and most adjusted people I have met are in the biz and fiercly loyal to their loved one.

Live life uniquely.

 

[nube]

Thank you for these words....NUBE
This is my thought I am a person with a tough job...It affects many more areas of my live than a "normal" job...

Thank you Tianna
So true....for most people just going to work and putting in their 8 hours works for them.. They do their work as "ordered" and go home until thier next work day..
for us SPs when we are not with gents....We are answering Emails,updating web site, making sure we have outfits, running a incall ( rent, cleaning shopping for supples).. all goes with being a Sp..
So if you are not confortable with her work know it is more than just fucking.. We are business women that work for ourselfs.. I would think that yes you may not be comfortable with dating an Sp because of the sex ..Remember she must be one smart lady to be able to work for herself with help from no one...
And women that are willing to work that hard for their job would be a awesome person to know...

NOW there is a mouth full I can't speak from experience, but I would think that a man would have to be well adjusted to live with an SP. Assuming that the SP, is as Tianna described. Yes there are those that are born beautiful, but don't have the smarts that is required to be successful in the long run.

A GOOD relationship,and they are far and few, is one where there is a meeting of the spiritual and mental aspects before the physical aspects. One has to remember that beauty usually belongs to the young. There has to be more an just a physical attraction for a relationship to last til death do you part

 

[nube]

I have no clue what type of SP's your into, but some SP's are FAAAAAAAAAR from being like how you think they are. getting hurt again I must be in the wrong business because me PERSONALLY I am soo far from being lonley, I always have a smile on my face, and yes I like to take control in the sheets but that Is because I am a very dominant young lady. I like to make SURE THAT I GET OFF TOO, so.....I put the man how I want them only to ensure thatIK cum . Nuthin wrong with that.

People REALLY need to get it out of their heads that SP's are not COLD PEOPLE.


anyhoo, enoguh said about that

Hmmmmm....how about coffee tomorrow????

 

[nube]

Caramel Macchiato Mmmm...

Gusto latte, with 2 extra shots.....

 

[freakychef]

People please don't missunderstand me..............

...............I know not all sp are like what I described however alot are and certainly I have met quite a few. I have dated many sp and I have been the most understanding and supportive guy on earth. Most guys really could not accept what she does for a livivng. The fact that I and some others can sets us apart. We can truly see the woman as she is and not for what she does. It all boils down to the men and women involved. How well adjusted each are and then just take it from there. Regardless I know from experience sp's seem to have more baggage than regular girls. This is based on my experiences only and just MO.

 

[georgebushmoron]

We can truly see the woman as she is and not for what she does.

That's mental gymnastics for you, Olympic caliber I'd say. You are what you do. There's no separation between willful act and identity, even as identity can encompass more than what one does as a profession/job. Nevertheless, it eventually takes its toll. How many people start off as newbie accountants, full of life and vigor, but spending 65% of their conscious life working, only to find that they have become boring and analytical, eventually fitting into the accountant's straight jacket? They see everything through the eyes of their profession, be it how money is handled, or other workers or even relationships. If you're contemplating dating an SP, you should contemplate what it's like to experience part of her life vicariously through her and see things as a prostitute would.

 

[freakychef]

Good point......................

That's mental gymnastics for you, Olympic caliber I'd say. You are what you do. There's no separation between willful act and identity, even as identity can encompass more than what one does as a profession/job. Nevertheless, it eventually takes its toll. How many people start off as newbie accountants, full of life and vigor, but spending 65% of their conscious life working, only to find that they have become boring and analytical, eventually fitting into the accountant's straight jacket? They see everything through the eyes of their profession, be it how money is handled, or other workers or even relationships. If you're contemplating dating an SP, you should contemplate what it's like to experience part of her life vicariously through her and see things as a prostitute would.

................I have tried exactly that. I am honestly glad I am a man. Even with all the benefits of being an sp I personally could not do it if I was a woman. I would be too frightened of all the risks associated with it. IMO

 

[georgebushmoron]

As for tuning out when I’m with someone – are you kidding? I feel it’s like a dance and to make it the ultimate experience I must pay attention every step of the way....

As for bonding with someone on a deeper level, I connect with some of my clients that way. It just can’t be helped.

This is a good example. So for men who are considering dating an SP, you best beware that your future GF is perhaps someone like Beautiful_Anna; that is, someone who is attentive to the desires of her client, someone who sees it as an "ultimate experience" for him and possibly for her, and someone who will bond with men who have paid for her services. Dating such an SP is only possible if you can handle that she shares that level of intimacy with other guys. For most of us, it makes absolutely no sense, even if the roles were reversed.

 

[freakychef]

Y thats true....................

This is a good example. So for men who are considering dating an SP, you best beware that your future GF is perhaps someone like Beautiful_Anna; that is, someone who is attentive to the desires of her client, someone who sees it as an "ultimate experience" for him and possibly for her, and someone who will bond with men who have paid for her services. Dating such an SP is only possible if you can handle that she shares that level of intimacy with other guys. For most of us, it makes absolutely no sense, even if the roles were reversed.

................it is like a woman having more than one boyfreind at a time!!! It is hard to wrap you head around it!! Even if you are super accepting of what she does!!!

 

[freakychef]

I guess in some way I am old fashioned then...........

...Yer talking like there's only a limited amount of love to go around.
Lighten up!

.............as for me love is love and should be a special shared thing between only two people at a time. Not to confuse that with intimacy, and or sex. Which are another thing all together. Relationships are hard enough to understand with out confusing things more. Being old fashioned I am not that naive to realize that you can love someone and still have sex with multiple partners. However for me the one ya love is the only person who should come home too you and share in your hopes and dreams. As for lightening up I am as far as sex is concerned but for love it is a different story. I am a hopeless romantic and still searching for the one!! Call me a sucker but I beleive in the great movie type fairytale love!!! Been looking my whole life but yet to find it. Thats part of the reason I poon. It fullfills my sexual needs while I am single alot and still searching. Oh ya I am married but basically sepperated. My wife is out of the country and we do not see each other for over a year now.

 

[nube]

.............as for me love is love and should be a special shared thing between only two people at a time. Not to confuse that with intimacy, and or sex. Which are another thing all together. Relationships are hard enough to understand with out confusing things more. Being old fashioned I am not that naive to realize that you can love someone and still have sex with multiple partners. However for me the one ya love is the only person who should come home too you and share in your hopes and dreams. As for lightening up I am as far as sex is concerned but for love it is a different story. I am a hopeless romantic and still searching for the one!! Call me a sucker but I beleive in the great movie type fairytale love!!! Been looking my whole life but yet to find it. Thats part of the reason I poon. It fullfills my sexual needs while I am single alot and still searching. Oh ya I am married but basically sepperated. My wife is out of the country and we do not see each other for over a year now.

Yes I guess that being single can be a lonely time and thus one would be looking for that special someone. It also depends on your age too.

I find today, that I enjoy meeting different women, without the idea of looking for a mate, but someone to relate to and have conversation with vs just sex. I guess for me, at this point, my courisoty is greater then it used to be. In other words I am looking at women not only as sexual partners but mental intercourse too. Thus I 'think', that if an SP has the combo of brains and beauty, and really dug me - I could go for it. But I also accept the reality that the risks (as in broken heart) are there, but truthfully in this day and age, the risks are there with non SP's.

This thread is a good one.

 

[freakychef]

Oh definetley the risks of a broken heart are..........

.............always there in real life and in pooning life. I guess if ya never risk anything ya never will find the rewards. Heartaches while they suck let us know we are alive and show us that we must keep getting on the horse so to speak. I have had many broken hearts but don't regeret one minute spent with the people that it happened with. To not try or give up destines(spelling) one to a life of loneliness. I prefer the alternative as loneliness really ,relaly sucks.

 

[nube]

.............always there in real life and in pooning life. I guess if ya never risk anything ya never will find the rewards. Heartaches while they suck let us know we are alive and show us that we must keep getting on the horse so to speak. I have had many broken hearts but don't regeret one minute spent with the people that it happened with. To not try or give up destines(spelling) one to a life of loneliness. I prefer the alternative as loneliness really ,relaly sucks.

For SURE...life is an adventure. I also like to say ...enjoy the JOURNEY and not the DESTINATION.

 

[georgebushmoron]

...Yer talking like there's only a limited amount of love to go around.
Lighten up!

It is very possible to have unlimited love, or to love more than one person at a time, but love is not the only issue in intimate relations. The other one is trust. You can say that one should take another at their word in the beginning acceptance of trust, but the consecration of trust is the willingness to sacrifice. So an SP's potential boyfriend may accept her word at the beginning, but for trust to endure, she might have to make a sacrifice. That sacrifice might have to be that she voluntarily leaves the industry. Trust is not unlimited, nor is it possible to transfer one's trust to another, which is why when trust enters intimate relationships it severely limits the number of people involved in it. Thus trust has always been about sacrifice for something greater.

 

[freakychef]

I don't think sp's are bad people.............

After all the point of views posted here including my own and I can say is if Sps are such bad people why are you paying us???

....I think there are many reasons why woman sp. You cannot ignore that there are negative reasons included as well. However it would be a stereotype to label all sp as damaged emotionally. Also the reasons we pay you(sp's) are varied not the least of wich is physical gratification, followed by companionship, intimacy and many others. All of which vary from pooner to pooner. Also quite simply for many damged pooners this is one of the only ways we could ever get super hot chicks to sleep with us. Also for varying reasons. Looks, self comfidence, time, not into pickup scene and so on. Truthfully IMO only I feel many pooners feel a sense of low self worth having to pay for what alot of guy's can get for free. However the sex drive and need for intimacy sometimes superseed these feelings. IMO please don't flame me as I only speak from my experiences and those of people close to me. Not all pooners or sp. Thanks!!

 

[LaCreme]

For SURE...life is an adventure. I also like to say ...enjoy the JOURNEY and not the DESTINATION.

i like that very much awesome!