When is short notice too short?

[OftenWrong]

I was just in the Quay area of New West and I knew Eva Rose was working and offers 15 minute appointments. By the time I found a spot to park, found her number and typed up a ‘it’s a long shot’ message, it was 6:17 and I would need to be back in my car by 7:05. I did the math and the idea that started as a long shot started sounding ludicrous. I’ve never met Eva and didn’t want to come across asking for something ludicrous, so now I’m walking my dog with blue balls.

Is there a short notice ask that’s too short? Does it come across poorly?

 

[GentlemanJack69]

I was just in the Quay area of New West and I knew Eva Rose was working and offers 15 minute appointments. By the time I found a spot to park, found her number and typed up a ‘it’s a long shot’ message, it was 6:17 and I would need to be back in my car by 7:05. I did the math and the idea that started as a long shot started sounding ludicrous. I’ve never met Eva and didn’t want to come across asking for something ludicrous, so now I’m walking my dog with blue balls.

Is there a short notice ask that’s too short? Does it come across poorly?

You can only ask respectfully and apologize for the short notice as a gentleman would. As always it's the ladies discretion whether to entertain you.

 

[OftenWrong]

True, but does a 'gentleman' even bother asking when the available time is that tight? I haven't done this a lot, so I'm still trying to sort out some of the etiquette. I think I made the correct decision given she has never met me. I feel like a short notice request is better received if the lady has met me and knows that I am a gentleman.

Sadly, my schedule is hectic at the best of times so short notice accommodations are something I truly appreciate.

 

[GentlemanJack69]

True, but does a 'gentleman' even bother asking when the available time is that tight? I haven't done this a lot, so I'm still trying to sort out some of the etiquette. I think I made the correct decision given she has never met me. I feel like a short notice request is better received if the lady has met me and knows that I am a gentleman.

Valid points.. but perhaps an approach where you indicated your desire for a short notice request... respectfully of course and included your noted appreciation and respect for her. Stating that you would understand completely if this could not be accommodated and would certainly appreciate the opportunity to reach out to her at another time if such was not convenient for her. The key is being respectful and not pushy or rude.

 

[VanCityNewb]

Doesn't hurt to ask. Although, I'd think you probably could've inquired before showing up at her doorstep, like when you were leaving at least. But it basically just comes down to whether or not she's occupied, and if she has proper time to prepare. The worst that happens is she says she can't accommodate you, and you end up in the same position as you were anyways. Best case scenario, well...

 

[Harmony-bc]

Sometimes a person might have a no show, and she’s actually available right this minute and might be happy to make something instead of nothing. It doesn’t hurt to ask respectfully. I never get annoyed with polite sweet short notice requests. I’m usually way too busy to accommodate them but it doesn’t hurt to ask. Other providers might get annoyed. But I’d say as long as you’re polite, respectful, and apologetic then asking is ok.

 

[OftenWrong]

... you probably could've inquired before showing up at her doorstep, like when you were leaving at least.

True. For a bit more context, I didn't know I'd be in that neighborhood with time to kill until I was, and I would be surprised if I had parked at her doorstep. I've yet to go to the New West PDC, but her ad said Quayside, so I figured I was pretty close.

Sometimes a person might have a no show, and she’s actually available right this minute and might be happy to make something instead of nothing. It doesn’t hurt to ask respectfully. I never get annoyed with polite sweet short notice requests. I’m usually way too busy to accommodate them but it doesn’t hurt to ask. Other providers might get annoyed. But I’d say as long as you’re polite, respectful, and apologetic then asking is ok.

Another fair point. I wouldn't ask to be the exception when an ad states a minimum lead time, but I shouldn't presume to know the situation on the other end. She may have welcomed the business.

 

[LADY-LYRAH]

I was just in the Quay area of New West and I knew Eva Rose was working and offers 15 minute appointments. By the time I found a spot to park, found her number and typed up a ‘it’s a long shot’ message, it was 6:17 and I would need to be back in my car by 7:05. I did the math and the idea that started as a long shot started sounding ludicrous. I’ve never met Eva and didn’t want to come across asking for something ludicrous, so now I’m walking my dog with blue balls.

Is there a short notice ask that’s too short? Does it come across poorly?

This literally depends on the lady. Whether or not you have an established relationship may also be a factor. Next time just ask her & be up front about the your time crunch.

I have a regular client who gives me next to nothing notice sometimes. Last time it was 15 minutes & he asked me to wear the sluttiest out fit.

I was technically ready to go. I wasn’t doing anything & then I showeted, touched up my make up and ran wild putting together a skank fit. Felt like a contestant in one of those cooking shows going 100mph until the finish line.

She too could also have been pretty much ready to work & not really doing anything she couldn’t have paused for a short period. I was cutting up vegetables which I paused to see my client.

 

[rinamood]

New clients, at least 2 days before
Repeat clients, at least night before
*I'm a prebookings-only SP and have screening etc that new clients need to sort

It's also based off of availability, of course. Can't answer your text/email if they're in the middle of certain things 😇

The weirdest same-day inquiries I have received ask for a time within 1h from their email, either before or after - time travellers have desires too I guess 🤷 They never have the info and screening I ask for in my ads/website, and often ghost after I respond with booking info.

 

[kelcaine]

I’ll echo what has been said here that it’s in your approach. Most of us who are established in the industry will be relatively busy on the days we work where we would need a couple of hours notice at least or a few hours. But as mentioned we get cancellations, no shows and slower parts of our day where we can fit in last minute appointments, sometimes.

So if you sent a respectful message like “hi there, my name is ____ and I understand this is very last minute but I would really love to see you for ______ minutes/hours at ______ time. Thank you for your time.”

We appreciated polite short introductions with your name and desired time and duration. I would also add if the particular provider requires specific information in their inquiries to make sure to provide that too. I do have clients who have schedules where they can’t book ahead and do fit them in if I can with short notice. Other times I can’t. Hopefully you can find a time to see your desired provider you wish to see.

 

[lukom]

Honestly as long as you are polite and acknowledge how short notice you reaching out to them is, and if youre low maintenance (i.e. you dont need hair/makeup/lingerie), just for you both to be showered, you might be in luck. Some may have had a cancelation, others may just happen to be available by chance. I work a standard 40 hr week, but my boss on an off day may call to ask if I can work. Most times I can head back and get to work, unless I have set in stone plans that can't be rescheduled. Some SP's may be just as flexible.

 

[OftenWrong]

So if you sent a respectful message like “hi there, my name is ____ and I understand this is very last minute but I would really love to see you for ______ minutes/hours at ______ time. Thank you for your time.”

Good to know my messaging manners are in line with your advice. The txt I had on my phone was very close to your example.

Hi Eva, I'm ___ and I realize this is very last minute but I'm in the neighborhood for the next 45 minutes. Any chance you can accommodate a 15 min appointment for a __ year old ___ guy?

 

[LADY-LYRAH]

Good to know my messaging manners are in line with your advice. The txt I had on my phone was very close to your example.

oh absolutely. Your manners are spot on.

 

[plodoublesuited]

Text first then drive out to the area (and find parking)

a lot of us think about if visiting a SP when we get that extra 30min or an hour during our day (cancelled or delayed meetings, etc.)

Park on side of the road and message a few on your list asking if they might he available 'soon' by any chance.

Good luck