Did my escort stand me up because i'm ugly?
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Nah!......I'm a scarred up, knuckle dragging Neandrathal ,although I do shower everyday.
I've had a few run away in fear after seeing me, and I go curl up in corner and cry for five minutes.....most see past my leather face, and realize there's a human being behind it.
That almost made me cry! I'm really sorry you had to go through that.
While everyone is entitled to their opinion, and a woman certainly has the right to decline someone from entering her personal space, for any reason, it breaks my heart that there is such a lack of empathy from some ladies.
If there is an extremely unusual aspect to your appearance, I would suggest letting the lady know when you first contact her. You shouldn't be looking to spend time with a lady who can tolerate you for money. You deserve a lady who genuinely isn't bothered at all by your perceived inadequacy. A lady who will happily and easily see past the meat suit and adore you for who you actually are......not what you can't control.
Yes, every lady has standards. But for many of us, appearance, beyond being clean, isn't one of them. Many of us believe that those who can't get it on their own are much more in need touch, affection and feeling accepted and cared for.....and willing do their best to boost your confidence and show you how amazing you are in ways you may not realize. I would much rather spend time with someone who was considered by current western standards to be hideous, but who had qualities I admire such as a kind heart, intelligence, a sense of humor, character, passion, integrity etc. than with a Greek God who was ignorant, angry, uncaring or boring.............Just ask anyone who knew my 420 lb, furry, balding marshmallow of an ex
And no....he wasn't rich. Most of the time YOU just need to believe that you are attractive. There is something physically beautiful about each person....so try to focus on that. Also, focus on all the wonderful internal qualities you have. When you really believe that you have something to offer the world, it shows in how you carry yourself ..... and that is attractive to almost everybody.
When I was in 10th grade, there was a girl in my class with growth that covered more than half her face. It was dark brown, and stuck out more than half an inch. Kids can be cruel, and her self esteem was abysmal. She began to believe she was ugly.....when the truth is, she was exquisitely unique! To me, her face was a beautiful piece of contemporary art....and she just had to see that too! I was editor of the yearbook, so a few of us got together for a project where we all put stuff on our faces, and did individual shots called (the many faces of .........) The final shot of the series had her standing on a podium, in a sexy and powerful stance. The other 7 of us were kneeling around her, one arm raised to her beauty, with our masks strewn about, beneath us and on the platform floor. The caption read "Diversity is Beautiful! Authenticity is Divine!"
After the shoot, SHE changed. When she seen the final layout, before it went to print, SHE began to see herself as beautiful, unique and invaluable. SHE finally believed it.....and began projecting a sassy confidence. Almost immediately, those who bullied her previously left her alone. Those who previously ignored her began vying for her time and attention. Nobody else had seen the project. The turning of tides had nothing to do with us influencing how others seen her. We simply influenced how she seen herself, and once she believe it to be the truth, she sold it to everyone else, all by herself!
In a nutshell, it sucks that you have been made to feel 'less than' by society or companions. Some people are judgmental, and some people are cruel. However, most people will treat you with the same respect you give yourself, and echo whatever beliefs you project about yourself. If you want to change the game, you have to change the rules. That means you have to take charge in changing how others perceive you by first changing at a core level how you see yourself.
I also had an ex (female) with a hump on her back. I noticed it first when we were in university studying a lot.
Strange thing was, that it was at the base of her neck and it would get REALLY hot! like unsafe hot! She never thought it was an issue.
...we broke up shortly thereafter.
true story
typically a chiropractic issue. I would probably be a scoliosised hunchback twisted hipster if it weren't for my chiropractor and fitness training
Until a SP has taken your money, she owes you nothing.
A SP has right to refuse you for every reason you would refuse a SP. I sympathise with your predicament, however, but it's the reality of things.
A SP has right to refuse you for every reason you would refuse a SP. I sympathise with your predicament, however, but it's the reality of things.
