marrying a working girl

[Crookedmember]

I'm just gonna sit here and sip my coffee and let all of that go straight to my head.

I'm in love . . .

 

[johnnydepth]

Would you marry a dentist knowing by profession they have a high suicide rate? Would you marry a paramedic or police officer knowing they have a high rate of infidelity?
I mean I'm from Winnipeg and a lot of the bar girls back in the day slept with more guys than your average escort. I think the problem with western views is that we are very sexually repressed.

 

[uncleg]

I married a working girl and while we have our ups and downs I do have to be careful about terminology...for her a blow job usually involves the destruction of something, buildings, bridges vehicles that sort of thing. MSOG tends to involve an empty clip and a C7.

 

[storm rider]

SP's are just like everyone else who love someone enough to marry them. I've met some very nice women who will exit one day and make one man very happy.

Only thing is and I have heard this a few times from SP who were in relationships. In the heat of the moment when arguing, never, ever use the past history against the SP or if the guy was a client for that matter. Once those words are spoken you can't take em back. Deal with the here and now and not someone's past history.

The last sentence should be the BASELINE of any relationship/marriage.In my case my nutbar ex went contrary to that and would create fights out of thin air over nothing.....should have chucked her aside after the second instance of this behaviour and thusly avoided/dodged the marriage.....life is 20/20 for hindsight.

SR

 

[Equity Market investor]

You take someone for WHO they are and NOT what they do. You create nice memories together. Surprise each other on occasion, take trips, have fun with each other, listen too each other, take interests in each other etc etc. People tend to make things so difficult and unrealistic. keep it simple. But....how would I know....I'm single lol

I'm going to give you an example in here

You and I will meet in a Social gathering we hit it off, I work as a .....designer and another profession which brings in a nice income for retirement. Two years ago before you met me, I worked as an so for a few years.
We have been dating now for a few years, we are actually living together bc we are so in love.
Then I tell you about my past.
Now what ????

Or I keep quiet bc people do judge. Love or no love they will judge and possible you will break up with me.
So most people will say nothing.

 

[clu]

My girlfriend was a stripper. Whatever. She's choosing to be with me.

I understand the idea of not feeling compelled to reveal your past but I'd be sad if she felt she couldn't. It was a significant part of her life for a time. The experiences shaped some of her attitudes. Part of knowing a person intimately is being able to see things from their point of view. Knowing the road they've traveled helps with that.

 

[Gai Jin]

I'm going to give you an example in here

You and I will meet in a Social gathering we hit it off, I work as a .....designer and another profession which brings in a nice income for retirement. Two years ago before you met me, I worked as an sp for a few years.
We have been dating now for a few years, we are actually living together bc we are so in love.
Then I tell you about my past.
Now what ????

Or I keep quiet bc people do judge. Love or no love they will judge and possible you will break up with me.
So most people will say nothing.

I guess I would wonder why you feel it would be necessary to disclose that information at this point in time. Is it because your relationship has progressed to the point where you want no secrets, and would that also entail that your boyfriend also disclose his sexual past, both paid for and free (if there is such a thing). Personally, if were you, I wouldn't bring up your sexual history, nor would I disclose mine. And if a prospective partner asked me for it, that would be the end of the relationship, which has happened to me.

 

[Helena D'Orville]

It's nice to see everyone being supportive. I have to wonder if the OP will be dissapointed we weren't vilified. Why are Sps good enough to pay to see, but not good enough to deserve love or a spouse or family during/after the industry? Clients get to have their cake and eat it too, many are married or dating and still book escorts. Why should any man question why another would love an SP and date them regardless of if they knew or not. I've never dated a guy who told me he saw escorts before, that's not something I think anyone discloses. Escorts should decide for themselves if they share or keep it to themselves that they used to be in the industry. Is previously being a stripper more or less acceptable? More because maybe you didn't have sex, or less because maybe your buddies or coworker saw her at the club too? If only guys listened to themselves when they talked about stuff like this. We are welcoming of gents no matter their issues or marital status. We're not working to try and find a client to marry, but if we do find someone who loves us why is it any concern of a random hobbyist?

Very well said Charlotte.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

One of my ATF's from my early days and I used to joke that if we were both still single in 20 years we would get married. We both would have been in our late 50's early 60's by then. LOL!

Too bad for me she moved away many years ago and I have not seen her since. I'm pretty sure she retired and i hope she found her Prince Charming and is happy.
Or maybe she will show up on my doorstep in a wedding dress in 5 years.

 

[westwoody]

We have been dating now for a few years, we are actually living together bc we are so in love.
Then I tell you about my past.
Now what ????

Tell the guy when you feel it is the right time.
It will come out sooner or later.
Better to get it out in the open, than worry about some jackass telling him.

I know a few ladies I would have no issues marrying them. Love will allow for a few imperfections.

 

[islander1-1]

Maybe its just me...but I probably fall in love too easy. or is it just infatuation... what is love? ... Currently there are three SPs I am in love with.. or is it infatuation?.. what is love? All three probably know I am in love with them.. One is way too young for me, and has a partner, the next one is already married (secretly), and the third is separated and a single mom. Way back in my past there was another escort in my life i should have got married to, instead of trying to work it out with wifey number 2. It would have saved us both a whole lot of grief. Ya now as an old phart who has taken a few hard knocks I would get married to that escort, and never look back.

 

[jamasianman]

The fact of the matter is that on this board, both providers and clients have a general understanding of the industry. We have a good concept and more knowledge. The average civilians man or woman doesn't know anything. They live on in their carefree happy world, and when they meet a great catch who used to poon or was a provider, they might not be able to handle it if it is revealed by the other person or if it comes out in a different way. Their tiny little minds can't handle it sometimes. You might get lucky and find the really understanding person, but there is so much stigma. People think clients are losers for having tivpay for sex, and people think a provider is somehow devalued for being in the industry. When you throw in a civilian into the mix, your sexual history should stay history.

 

[Crookedmember]

I’m ape-like, ugly as a mud fence and dead broke, uncultured, outrageously chauvinistic, unsporting, greedy, irresponsible and anti-social. I have no sex appeal, no social graces, no physique, no ambition and no sense of humor. I’m a crashing bore.

Are any of you lovely ladies smitten yet? We could fly to Vegas and get hitched by Elvis.

 

[Gai Jin]

The really great advantage of marrying a girl who is an escort is that you wouldn't have to worry about her sleeping around on you, because you would know that she is.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I’m ape-like, ugly as a mud fence and dead broke, uncultured, outrageously chauvinistic, unsporting, greedy, irresponsible and anti-social. I have no sex appeal, no social graces, no physique, no ambition and no sense of humor. I’m a crashing bore.

Are any of you lovely ladies smitten yet? We could fly to Vegas and get hitched by Elvis.

OOOH pik me!

 

[Crookedmember]

OOOH pik me!

I'm coming, Ms Erica! I'm coming!

 

[EuroSZabina]

Many, many years ago, back in my civilian slut days, I found out one of the guys I was fucking was seeing track ladies. His friend got pissed off at him over something and outed him to me. This was back in the day when plenty of providers worked track.

Delusional, ignorant civilian me flipped out, stopped seeing him and made a panic visit to the clinic. The nurse laughed at me over my sti paranoia. And assured me there should be nothing to worry about.

After I entered the industry, I understood what the nurse meant. And I realized what a judgemental idiot I had been.

"Many, many years ago, back in my civilian slut days"

Hahahahaha

 

[FreeG]

"working girl" I'm not a fan of this phrase either. I hope we all aspire to meet someone who "works", versus someone who...what, sits around all day? Haven't you guys watched enough porn to know that non-working women are the ones getting jiggy with the gardener??? Sheesh...

Anyway, I agree that what's in the past is in the past - the two of you (whether referring to clients or SP's) are together and have found love with each other. As long as neither person is hooked on drugs or absolutely horrid at managing finances, consider their sexual past as "practice" so they're that much better for you!

 

[grizzly]

Here's my rant. What really irks me is the grammar and political correctness police on this board and many others. We all know what panda88 meant by "working girl." Why waste your time and rip apart the meaning? On to the point. There have been many ladies I could see a future with, and one in particular presently I do have a special relationship with. I actually help with her promotion and encourage her success and would never ask her to give up her vocation for me. My only concern is if we do become a couple and introduce each other to family and friends, what happens when your cousin, who hates you, is a fellow pooner and outs her? I'm sure panda88 just enjoyed the chicken dinner and didn't say anything to her, but who did he tell? I would be fine with it, but I would be concerned on how it might reflect on her.

 

[jamasianman]

That is playing with fire. The cousin cannot out her without outing himself. If he tells the family her past, and the guy denies it, someone is gonna be like: wait how do you know she used to be an escort? And well then everyone knows abbout all three of their activities.

My best tactic in this situation is that if you really like this girl, and the cousin is going to ruin it, tell everyone that he sees escorts. Then he will try and deny it and say oh so do ho you, but by saying it second and also throwing in that the girl used to be sp will seem kinda desperate. But that is like a defcon 4 kinda last resort situation. If the cousin wants to threaten outing then its gonna happen.