How do you define “GFE”?

[Cami Parker]

How do you define “GFE”? It’s a simple question that begs a multitude of complicated answers, each one as unique as the individual living the experience. Does it boil down to something as simple as a list of “services” offered on her “menu”? Or is it something more innate than that? Something in the way she looks at you, the way she touches you. Or is it all about that feeling you get when you see a lady and you know for certain that she’s just as happy to be in your company as you are hers. That swept away feeling, full of laughter, butterflies and excitement? I’m dying to know how you define GFE, if you’ll be so kind as to let me pick your brains as I’ve been known to do. What does GFE really mean to you, what makes it a successful encounter and what ensures you’ll always be back for more?
xoxo
C
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[maniacalone]

Bbbj. Cim. Cof. Cot. BLS. Daty. DFK. LFK. Anything you would let your boyfriend do without inhibitions (except the obvious that requires a condom).

 

[take8easy]

Although there is a general consensus out there, I think it still boils down to individual preferences.

Personally speaking, and I think many guys will agree that GFE is basically, a romantic, passionate session including at least (but not limited to) DFK, LFK, BBBJ, DATY. Anything over and above is bonus.

 

[BIGOZZIE]

Definitely passionate kissing for me, all else flows from the kissing, and for me a little taking charge on her part, not just laying there waiting for me to lead the way

 

[ddcanz]

I remember the last thread on this- it degenerated into heated debate over two sticking points- DFK and BBBJ.
When with a real GF or SO these things are a no-brainer.
But so is just about everything else between consenting participants.
However, in this industry with personal hygiene being "subjective" as to each individual client, and with personal preference and safety being paramount to any individual SP, these two items should not necessarily become automatic or expected.
Some SPS just won't ever gobble bare cock or play tonsil hockey with a stranger. Doesn't mean that she can't deliver a very close, intimate, sensual, erotic and passionate encounter without DFK- at least for me anyway. Maybe a wet one to start, but then LFK, nibbling, nuzzling, breathing, caressing, licking, darting etc. can all lead to a make out session and a very personalized and genuine experience.
Same with head when it comes to hygiene etc.
I think that GFE is about an overall 'loving' experience, and not necessarily governed by any checklist.
But to each their own on this one- we all have our own perceptions and expectations.... and needs.

 

[Emmy_St_Claire]

I think that GFE is about an overall 'loving' experience, and not necessarily governed by any checklist.

Nicely put, I agree!

 

[Lady Companion]

I think it is less about alphabet soup and more based on the feeling. I personally define it a GENUINE and natural feeling interaction. Something that moves a bit slower and really focuses on sensuality, pleasure, and incorporating the mind, body and spirit connection.

Finding common ground and interest through good conversation, laughter and bantering which naturally transitions into a deeply intimate experience and FUN experience that transcends the mere physical, because we genuinely like one another, feel comfortable together, and are able to let our guard down and truly enjoy the experience to the fullest.

However, each individual is going to have their own definition of it, so I find it really important to be clear, open and honest at the time of booking with regard to expectations.

 

[Missy Mariposa]

Bbbj. Cim. Cof. Cot. BLS. Daty. DFK. LFK. Anything you would let your boyfriend do without inhibitions (except the obvious that requires a condom).

I don't know anyone who lets a boyfriend do a bunch of those without a condom or some kind of protection for at least a certain period. Personally when I dated, pre-industry, I didn't do anything uncovered with a guy for a year. My health and life come first and anyone you haven't known that long you can't trust with your life. #sorrynotsorry. Also, I've never dated a guy who had a problem with it -- but rather felt reassured that I wasn't letting a train of guys fuck me over a toilet in a bar whilst drunk.

More on topic:

GFE is not a checklist. I am not compatible with those who reduce it to such either. GFE is a full mind and body experience that leaves you feeling desired, attractive, fulfilled, satisfied, and happy. Something you'll remember for years to come. I pamper every one of my visitors and treat them with the care and compassion of a lifelong friend. My visitors aren't "clients", and my long term visitors aren't "regulars"....they're friends. I offer full evening packages where I cook for you, we dance together, we take in a show. Not everyone is in this for a checklist or a merely physical encounter. That's why I personally avoid acronyms, even GFE. I write the basic idea of packages I offer on my website, and we can custom tailor them to what you seek from there. It's worth remembering the brain is the biggest sex organ, so really the best physical encounters come from a more holistic approach.

I work in at a Ranch in Nevada, so I have the freedom to provide a full range of experiences so I can still offer a great party for someone who IS looking for a checklist while there or a brief encounter...though half of those quoted activities in that checklist up there are actually illegal for health reasons so it would have to be a much different checklist

 

[204fun]

While I am fairly new to all of this the idea that a GFE can really be experienced in a single encounter with someone new just doesn't make sense to me. What you experience in being physical with someone for the first time definitely includes attraction and excitement, but to truly feel like a GFE there has to be a level of comfort with the other person that very rarely (if ever) can come from a first meeting. In any relationship I have ever been in it is the expectation and knowledge of what is going to happen mixed in with the potential of something new that made it different and more enjoyable than just a one off. Knowing a bit about the person (within reason of course) and about how you each react around each other combined with the excitement that maybe something today might be different (in a good way) makes it feel more like a real GFE.

Like any person I like the feeling of being desired, especially by women as beautiful as many of the SP's out there, but I don't doubt for a second that many of the top end ladies could make me feel that way regardless of what they truly feel towards me. Attraction is never going to be an issue as I wouldn't be scheduling with someone if there wasn't a required level of attraction on my end, but having a small amount of personal knowledge of what to expect going into an encounter is what really can make it feel like that lust-filled beginning to a relationship that to me defines a GFE.

But then again, that's just my opinion and at the end of the day who really knows...

 

[johnsmit]

I think finally a few have figured out what a,GFE is.
It connection and enjoying your intimate time with a friend and doing what turn both of you on.
There is,no formula or to do list..

And I don't think you can get a GFE, from someone you have just met once and expect everything to click. If there is some connection then you will see them a,few more times and that can build that true connection and open attitude and trust which makes for that real experience.

Of course to say they are your girl friend is not right
More friend with benefit both ways.

 

[haigum141]

True GFE is when they start refusing your payments and literally want you to spend time with her exploring each other because she legitimately is into you and doesn’t care about the payments.

If you’re talking about fake GFE, then yeah, BBBJ CIM and fake intimacy or “pretend cuddles” as i like to call it

 

[wintersurfer]

Personally true “gfe” and to narrow it even more the “honeymoon phase” of a relationship, I have only felt with 2 ladies, Scarlette Rose and Inaya Byrnes, both have the ability to connect via a random touch or a certain look/gesture...

 

[badbadboy]

I'm usually a longer date kind of guy so a good connection in and out of the bedroom is important. The prelude before the dance is pretty important for me. I like the conversations, the running hands over each other and generally making out a bit before I hit the shower. Of course, flexibility is important too. Sometimes making out just inside the door that moves to the shower together immediately is always hot too. I'd say flexibility and not being part of a routine makes a great date for me. Spontaneity rules.

One thing that is unmistakable for me with a true GFE is the sense that we are both in synch and what we are doing is mutually enjoyable. Sometimes there just isn't any connection and sometimes the air is electric; it's unpredictable with someone new and also with those who I repeat with over time. With regulars, it's usually a sign I've gone to see her a bit too often and it's time to space out repeat dates a bit longer.

The extra things that I take note of are her looking amazing with perfect hair, make up and how she meets me at the door; these things do not go unnoticed. It does make me feel great being in the presence of someone who really rocks a casual look in a pair of jeans or a pretty summer dress or the sexiest AP lingerie.

Bbbj. Cim. Cof. Cot. BLS. Daty. DFK. LFK. Anything you would let your boyfriend do without inhibitions (except the obvious that requires a condom).

Funny, first thing I thought of when I read this was it's primarily the reason guys go to SP's because some GF's or SO's don't like or do not do many of the things on your list on a consistent basis.

 

[theimp]

I consider cum on face & cum on body to be acts of degradation and humiliation.

When I was an escort I didn’t think it was a big deal and did allow it on occasion. But my years as a dom have forever changed my perspective.

Hmmm, interesting. While I have never requested cof( just not my thing ) I do like to cum, on a nice bum,sometimes, but I don't think of it as an act of degradation. I just, really, like a nice bum.

 

[PierreCoeur]

How do you define “GFE”? It’s a simple question that begs a multitude of complicated answers, each one as unique as the individual living the experience. Does it boil down to something as simple as a list of “services” offered on her “menu”? Or is it something more innate than that? Something in the way she looks at you, the way she touches you. Or is it all about that feeling you get when you see a lady and you know for certain that she’s just as happy to be in your company as you are hers. That swept away feeling, full of laughter, butterflies and excitement? I’m dying to know how you define GFE, if you’ll be so kind as to let me pick your brains as I’ve been known to do. What does GFE really mean to you, what makes it a successful encounter and what ensures you’ll always be back for more?
xoxo
C
​

Kissing, LFK, cuddling, caressing, being able to stroke the girl's body, being able to kiss every inch of her body, extra shot and everything safe.

 

[jamasianman]

I don't consider certain services to be GFE. When an enckunter flies right on by and you have a lot of fun, and it feels like you are banging an old girlfriend or your girlfriend, then I consider it GFE. If she doesn't kiss, well that can sort of make the session a bit more mechanical, but then for me my regulars do a lapdance instead and its equally fine. And bbbj doesnt mean automatic GFE, I've hsd everything covered sessions that were totally awesome. It depends on the skill of the lady. Some enjoy sex and meeting new people. Some are just in it for the cash and dont put in an effort to hide that fact.

 

[Cami Parker]

This is actually a perfect example of how I feel, and exactly why I find what I do so rewarding. Unlike a lot of jobs where there’s constant negativity swirling around, mine is nothing but love and happiness. I really like your take on this, and I couldn’t have said it better myself.

I don't think the experience has ever boiled down to services offered. It all in the attitude or personal attention that the provider gives. To me its not just her personality but the emotional connection established in the meeting. Its also in the way she touches you and the attention she gives to you which I think is more tender caring and less businesslike and rushed.
One girl I recently seen, I went to for a PS experience and instead got the best GF experience ever. It wasn't the service it was just her. To me its dangerous, I mean you get that kind of emotional connection and you can end up getting burned; like flying to close to the sun. The feeling afterwards though as you were treated so incredibly good, is that you feel like you're high and walking on air.

Everyone is different though. I strongly think that because I'm single and do this hobby that I really value the emotional connection. Another guy who is married and has that attention at home from a spouse and comes to a SP just for a better physical connection is not looking for the same thing.

My answer is the emotional connection. Although it can be defined to be so much more and not in so few words.

 

[Cami Parker]

This is why you and I have always and will always get a lot so well. I find our thoughts on this subject to be about as close as 2 separate individuals can come to thinking the same way. Love, love love you my Sweet ❤

I think it is less about alphabet soup and more based on the feeling. I personally define it a GENUINE and natural feeling interaction. Something that moves a bit slower and really focuses on sensuality, pleasure, and incorporating the mind, body and spirit connection.

Finding common ground and interest through good conversation, laughter and bantering which naturally transitions into a deeply intimate experience and FUN experience that transcends the mere physical, because we genuinely like one another, feel comfortable together, and are able to let our guard down and truly enjoy the experience to the fullest.

However, each individual is going to have their own definition of it, so I find it really important to be clear, open and honest at the time of booking with regard to expectations.

 

[Cami Parker]

For some reason, this all sounds very familiar, Sir heehee might be near time for a do-over heehee

I'm usually a longer date kind of guy so a good connection in and out of the bedroom is important. The prelude before the dance is pretty important for me. I like the conversations, the running hands over each other and generally making out a bit before I hit the shower. Of course, flexibility is important too. Sometimes making out just inside the door that moves to the shower together immediately is always hot too. I'd say flexibility and not being part of a routine makes a great date for me. Spontaneity rules.

One thing that is unmistakable for me with a true GFE is the sense that we are both in synch and what we are doing is mutually enjoyable. Sometimes there just isn't any connection and sometimes the air is electric; it's unpredictable with someone new and also with those who I repeat with over time. With regulars, it's usually a sign I've gone to see her a bit too often and it's time to space out repeat dates a bit longer.

The extra things that I take note of are her looking amazing with perfect hair, make up and how she meets me at the door; these things do not go unnoticed. It does make me feel great being in the presence of someone who really rocks a casual look in a pair of jeans or a pretty summer dress or the sexiest AP lingerie.




Funny, first thing I thought of when I read this was it's primarily the reason guys go to SP's because some GF's or SO's don't like or do not do many of the things on your list on a consistent basis.

 

[Cami Parker]

I agree, I’m not into the face.. I’m too cute and my hair and make up look too cute lol.. but there are other parts of my body that I get quite excited watching a gent ..... onto....

Hmmm, interesting. While I have never requested cof( just not my thing ) I do like to cum, on a nice bum,sometimes, but I don't think of it as an act of degradation. I just, really, like a nice bum.