Who did you become, after your heartbreak?

[athaire]

OMG
So much this. I always say this and noone ever seems to understand what I mean. Thank you for that

You are most welcome

 

[Caramel]

I've become a hermit, an agnostic atheist, and its been around 8 years since the break up and I still haven't changed or entered in any new long term relationships and don't plan to, my current lifestyle is not appealing for GF material hehe

 

[westwoody]

Since that time I've had so many female sex partners I've lost count. When I say "sex partners", I mean ones I've not had to use a condom with because to me condom sex is not real sex.

Safe sex is for sissies!!

Seriously though, that shows an incredible lack of respect.

 

[Larry Storch]

Fair enough, Miss H.

 

[badbadboy]

I've always found heartbreak to be bitter sweet.

There is something beautiful about being vulnerable and open. Rarely do we feel as intensely and deeply as we do during the first few days and weeks of heartbreak. There is something beautiful about coming to a remembrance of who we are as an individual, without factoring in another person. There is a peculiar beauty in deep emotional pain. It is so authentic, and this allows us to reconnect with ourselves and grow into an even better version of who we are.

The primary lesson I have embodied is that there is only one thing we have 100% control over. That is how we choose to see a situation, what we take from it, and how we let it change us.

Remember the good times and appreciate the struggles, because that is how the deepest character is forged.

That really struck a chord with me.

You are an exceptional writer Angel.

 

[capitalCforcougar]

Evidently you have been associating with the wrong people.

I can't help but observe that if I were to make such a broad, all-inclusive statement regarding women; I'd be labeled a misogynistic. Or a racist if the statement was directed toward anyone of a specific ethnic origin. Am I overstepping any bounds by suggesting that statement is misandry?

Another observation: During my years of experience in BDSM, I have encountered a number of women who portray themselves as Dommes. In reality many of these women just have a shitty attitude toward men and have parlayed that into a source of income. Now, while that is definitely a clever example of "When life hands you lemons etc.", the down side is that there is the potential for harm.
The Domme/sub relationship is based entirely on trust. Some people aren't aware, but the sub is actually the one in control as to how far the session will go and the Domme will stop when that point is reached.
Putting that level of trust in someone who has a biased view of men would be extremely foolish.

....as a perrrson who has been fortunate enough to have had years of actual life experience on both ends of the toys <grin> I thank you sir.. for that comment... rings so true, and frighteningly sad at times.. with so many out there claiming to be dominant, when they have simply mistaken the word dominant, for asshole

and yes, a lack of respect for one who trusts another in that sort of scenario.. is scary and dangerous indeed ad should *never* be done...

 

[thedude6969]

After 1997, I resolved to fuck as many girls as possible, no matter what future relationship I was in, even if it meant cheating, even if it meant paying for it.

In 2001, I had 2 girlfriends that didn't know about each other, I would go from dinner+sex with one and bed+sex with another to end the night, and this would happen over and over for about a good 9 months until one of them broke up with me - but I was already working on another. I might've even fucked 3 (non-working) girls in a period of time, I don't recall it was all a haze. This would be about the only time I didn't hire working girls on a regular basis.

Since that time I've had so many female sex partners I've lost count. When I say "sex partners", I mean ones I've not had to use a condom with because to me condom sex is not real sex.

Giving men a bad name the only reason I use sp is because I'm too insecure I'm a really nice guy in my 30's iv only had sex twice without paying for it and once with a sp I'm the nice guy that all my friends girlfriends say "you will make a girl happy someday" but now that I'm in my 30's I'm getting tired of living a sexless life also scared of always being alone kinda don't even believe in "true" or "real" love anymore

 

[76duster]

Giving men a bad name the only reason I use sp is because I'm too insecure I'm a really nice guy in my 30's iv only had sex twice without paying for it and once with a sp I'm the nice guy that all my friends girlfriends say "you will make a girl happy someday" but now that I'm in my 30's I'm getting tired of living a sexless life also scared of always being alone kinda don't even believe in "true" or "real" love anymore

Nice guys either get trampled by women or they just keep you in the friends zone forever. Forget your insecurities, it's just a state of mind anyways. Just go up to them and say you don't want friendship you just want sex, otherwise forget it.

 

[thedude6969]

Nice guys either get trampled by women or they just keep you in the friends zone forever. Forget your insecurities, it's just a state of mind anyways. Just go up to them and say you don't want friendship you just want sex, otherwise forget it.

I'd rather just be fat rather then the fat asshole because the fatass hole is still gonna strike out I'm not like morbidly obese or anything I hold my weight well but it's still enough to put people off

 

[Flashmp]

For me I'm staying single , I've lost my soulmate due to my own fault so I'd rather be single and enjoy the days on earth rather than put my heart out there to try and find love......it's gonna have find me

 

[Jessikitten]

I lost the love of my life to a hit and run. I have been searching for someone who comes close to how amazing he was but no luck. I'm happy on the outside and do find happiness almost every day. However, for the most part I have become lonely behind the wall I've built.

 

[golferjohn]

I lost the love of my life to a hit and run. I have been searching for someone who comes close to how amazing he was but no luck. I'm happy on the outside and do find happiness almost every day. However, for the most part I have become lonely behind the wall I've built.

Tragic. Unfortunately, until you've reconciled 100% with his memory you'll always be chasing a ghost. Not fair to you, not fair to the guy

 

[badbadboy]

I lost the love of my life to a hit and run. I have been searching for someone who comes close to how amazing he was but no luck. I'm happy on the outside and do find happiness almost every day. However, for the most part I have become lonely behind the wall I've built.

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I hear you on building walls. Protect your own psychie first and foremost.

Seeing SP's almost exclusively since 2010 has shown me a lot of the good and bad. I had a few Long Term arrangements with a small circle of friends. Always being the eternal optimist didn't prepare me for the heartache.

Three SP's I grew quite fond of since 2012 retired. Mostly they had an exit plan and I'm happy for them for making it happen.

Then the shock of one who fell off the 12 step wagon and passed away from a fentanyl OD. We had been close for years after her retirement.

2016 has been very difficult for me. It's been three steps forward and two steps back again.

Staying focused on my biz, working on personal relationships with friends and family has given me optimism that these speed bumps won't be so significant moving forward.

 

[ddcanz]

Safe sex is for sissies!!

Seriously though, that shows an incredible lack of respect.

What part is disrespectful? 2 people mutually agreeing to fuck without rubbers? So what?
And spare me all the whole "well you never know who you may end up in bed with (with all their sexual history)" jargon.
Does that mean that when someone breaks out of a relationship that did not include covered sex (which I assume is fairly typical) then the world is now at risk?
If someone is so completely worried about contracting anything then it's up to them to take precaution- eg: never dip it without cover.
I don't think 76duster meant he was on a sheath-less rampage with unwilling partners.

 

[Tugela]

I became more aware that single life isn't bad at all.
most of my close friends are married (including my brother) and I'm the only one of my group not attached.
I wonder at times if my buds are genuinely happy w the whole marriage racket?

long-term relationships (I've had a few) are the hardest to get over simply
because of the strong emotions that are invested in it. I just kept busy with work and discovered
AMPs (thank God these places and comfort women exist) to ease the heartache and u know what…IT DOES!

definitely happy being unattached. I'm early 50's now but people think I'm late 30's or early 40's.
a regular visit to your local AMP will do that. just what the doctor ordered.

The point of getting married is not to get laid, it is to create a family. If you have no interest in that, then you should not get married.

 

[Tugela]

After 1997, I resolved to fuck as many girls as possible, no matter what future relationship I was in, even if it meant cheating, even if it meant paying for it.

In 2001, I had 2 girlfriends that didn't know about each other, I would go from dinner+sex with one and bed+sex with another to end the night, and this would happen over and over for about a good 9 months until one of them broke up with me - but I was already working on another. I might've even fucked 3 (non-working) girls in a period of time, I don't recall it was all a haze. This would be about the only time I didn't hire working girls on a regular basis.

Since that time I've had so many female sex partners I've lost count. When I say "sex partners", I mean ones I've not had to use a condom with because to me condom sex is not real sex.

You are the kind of guy who we will hear about in the news one day when one of these girls finds out about what you are doing.

Don't fuck with peoples emotions dude. It is not a game, and it is not cool.

 

[uncleg]