If you make an SP cum.....

[badbadboy]

My Dr keeps me waiting 45 minutes minimum. I showed up an hour late for my last appt. The Dr proceeded to dress me down in front of staff and other patients about being late. I reminded the Dr and the staff they always overbook and my time is valuable too. I finished the conversation by telling the Dr "you are fired". "You are useless to me".

I figure since none of these MD's have admitting priveleges they are not providing any value.

Clinics work for me if necessary so far. If I need a referral I will work on the clinic to arrange it by saying I no longer have a GP.

 

[JustJason]

You have a very interesting perspective on women. An orgasm is their choice. Just because you're good looking doesn't mean you have skills in bed, that's not enough to bring a lady to orgasm. You cannot force women to orgasm. The more you pressure her the less likely it will happen. You have to create chemistry on your own (like IRL)

I think maybe you either misunderstood me, or I did not communicate my point correctly. I never stated i'm interested in pressuring women to cum, it's that I love when they do! Of course it's their choice how they interact with clients/people/etc. And I don't consider myself special in any way in the looks department either, although I do like to think of myself as "decent" in bed (and could very well be wrong lol!). I am however not interested in having sex with someone who is intentionally "holding back" (whether with an sp or a fwb). If this is a standard practice with sp's then I have been super naive about the whole thing, and either need to find a select few whom don't "hold back", or quit this whole "lifestyle".

 

[VanessaofBC]

My Dr keeps me waiting 45 minutes minimum. I showed up an hour late for my last appt. The Dr proceeded to dress me down in front of staff and other patients about being late. I reminded the Dr and the staff they always overbook and my time is valuable too. I finished the conversation by telling the Dr "you are fired". "You are useless to me".

I figure since none of these MD's have admitting priveleges they are not providing any value.

Clinics work for me if necessary so far. If I need a referral I will work on the clinic to arrange it by saying I no longer have a GP.

LMFAO
:clap2: :thumb:

 

[rockinbods35]

When I first started this hobby, I was primarily focused on the woman's pleasure. I would spend a large amount of time going down on a woman to try to ensure that happened, I didn't always succeed and on more than one occasion I spent so much time trying to please the woman that I ran out of time for myself.

Now, I focus on me...as long as I get off the goal of the visit was accomplished, if she has an orgasm as well, that's great but no longer the primary purpose of my visit. Remember I am paying her, not the other way around.

Instead I try to get off as many times in the allotted time I can, and again if she can cum multiple times with me, so much the better..if she can't oh well I am not going to lose any sleep over it.

That being said the sessions I have enjoyed the most are those where the chemistry has been good between us, and those are the girls I have repeated with. I feed off the energy of the person I am with, if I am getting positive energy (good chemistry) i will get more aroused and have a better time than if it's just a straight forward mechanical interaction. Stick this here, thrust until orgasm, repeat if possible.

I have made a few escorts orgasm, but never asked for a refund, partial or otherwise lol. However, I have had the odd one discount future rates, or let me stay off the clock because they enjoy my company, but again that was not something I pushed for or asked in compensation for "showing them a good time". That is up to the discretion of the escort and shouldn't be expected just because you made them cum.

 

[twelvetwentytwoam]

Oh my god some of this shit you guys are saying is just nonsensical (I don't even know if nonsensical is a real word).

For those of you who think you are hot shit by lasting long with a SP: just stop it. I'm going to make two point on this. Point number one, nobody gives a shit. The SP is actually less than impressed when you purposely hold your load and jackhammer her. Like come on, I understand we all want to get our money's worth but be a little considerate here. Point number two, nobody knows what you did behind closed doors. Are you going to tell all your buddies after a session how long you lasted with a SP? If all you're trying to do is just feeding your measly little ego, stop it.

Now to those who are discouraged about SPs faking it and "oh I get turned on from pleasuring women", what is the big deal? I mean do you get discouraged too when the movie credits roll and it says "all characters, events and places are works of fiction"? How do you get off from porn? All the pornstars are acting as well. There seems to be this obsession about making SPs cum that just gets some of you off. I'm not going to lie. Making a woman cum is hot. But I'm also in touch with reality enough to know that there's probably someone who sees her who is better at sex than me. To me hobbying is not reality. It's an escape from reality for most of us. Why would you expect something real when it is fantasy?

 

[BORKO]

I don't really agree. Lots of reviews read into more about the guys performance, so it must be important enough to some guys to boast about it. The original comment was about numbing cream, so perhaps that was its reason. To fuck like a pornstar.

Bragging about sex on the internet is ultra lame IMO.

 

[Whiteninja9772]

I think maybe you either misunderstood me, or I did not communicate my point correctly. I never stated i'm interested in pressuring women to cum, it's that I love when they do! Of course it's their choice how they interact with clients/people/etc. And I don't consider myself special in any way in the looks department either, although I do like to think of myself as "decent" in bed (and could very well be wrong lol!). I am however not interested in having sex with someone who is intentionally "holding back" (whether with an sp or a fwb). If this is a standard practice with sp's then I have been super naive about the whole thing, and either need to find a select few whom don't "hold back", or quit this whole "lifestyle".

Ohh yes. Those horrible ladies holding back orgasming! The horror! I doubt you would be able to tell I a girl is holding back anyways. If you don't like the way sp's have been responding to you why don't you actually engage them and ask how you could do better ? You do realize if a woman doesn't feel comfortable with you she probably won't come, not from holding back cause your skills are so good, but because it would fuck with her mind after the session. If you care so much about a beautiful girl coming you sure don't have the attitude to match! "Oh she's not coming she's holding back." No it's probably just you. Enjoy the session if you can't provide pleasure to the ladies. Also don't expect these girls to cum after the first session meeting you, you should see her more to get familiar with her body and comfortable/trusting of you.

 

[JustJason]

Ohh yes. Those horrible ladies holding back orgasming! The horror! I doubt you would be able to tell I a girl is holding back anyways. If you don't like the way sp's have been responding to you why don't you actually engage them and ask how you could do better ? You do realize if a woman doesn't feel comfortable with you she probably won't come, not from holding back cause your skills are so good, but because it would fuck with her mind after the session. If you care so much about a beautiful girl coming you sure don't have the attitude to match! "Oh she's not coming she's holding back." No it's probably just you. Enjoy the session if you can't provide pleasure to the ladies. Also don't expect these girls to cum after the first session meeting you, you should see her more to get familiar with her body and comfortable/trusting of you.

Thank-you for providing an interesting conversation and provoking me to put more thought into my own ideas of what I am truly seeking in this "lifestyle". In return i'll try to answer to your questions of me in point form =)

1)Why don't I engage them? Because I believe that they are not "into" what I am "into". I am not interested in wasting an sp's time in trying to get her to engage in a certain mindset I am looking for. It took me a little while to realize this is not only futile but quite probably inappropriate. I believe these types of conversations are best left to "non-professional relationships". It's her body, her business and how she conducts herself is her choice. If she wants to hold back who I am to try and convince her otherwise? She has her reasons and it's not really my business. And btw I find it blatantly obvious if they are really not "into it" (for whatever reason), as opposed to say some sp's who are exceptional professionals. They might not be getting off but they are gracious in their attitude about it. Those are the sp's I repeat with, my "performance" is not relative in this decision.

2)Yes I realize and agree if she is not comfortable she won't cum. I'll take it a step further and say i'm not sure I have met anyone who ever enjoys a mutual sexual experience when they are not comfortable, period. This again has nothing to do with my "skills". Perhaps she had a bad day? Perhaps she was just with a shitty client? Perhaps she finds me unattractive? There are so many variables! But I do believe if an sp goes into it planning to not enjoy herself it will almost never happen. And I do love it when a woman enjoys herself!

I am not sure about "fucking with her mind". Perhaps you could explain that in more detail? Do you mean to say i'm fucking with her mind if she cums with me?

3) It could very well be just me. Perhaps I just don't "do it for her" in any way. If she thinks I suck, and isn't adept enough to conceal that from me i'm sure we will never "click" and therefore I don't think a repeat will really change things. I think perhaps you are making assumptions on the type of sessions I typically engage in with some of your other statements. I usually find if you go for longer sessions you can have all sorts of opportunity to explore a woman's body!

I am also unsure of what part of my attitude is the wrong match for showing that I care about enjoying all the awesomeness that is the female orgasm? Really if you have some quality tips for me here I'm all ears =)

 

[BORKO]

Agreed. I actually recently watched 'After Porn Ends' and one thing that I found interesting is how many of the female porn stars laughed at the all the guys who would tell them they were their favorite because they KNEW she wasn't faking. lol. One of them (I think it was Houston) said for her, she felt nothing. She said it was the same as putting your finger in your mouth. I'm guessing quite a few perbites would hear glass shattering in their mind.



Yeah, that also sounds really, really boring. At some point, I'd imagine you'd be saying to your partner "So. . . what are your plans for tomorrow." lol.

I thought in the doc some of them did enjoy it and some didn't?

If it was up to me, I'd cum 15 times per hour with a SP. Although the giant orgasm you get after an hour and a half of stimulation is fun too, but I do feel bad if I have a huge cum load and fill a ladies mouth past capacity and it leaks out all over her lips. Feels kind of hot and kinky but makes me feel a little guilty at the same time.

 

[BORKO]

I had a client years ago who would restrain himself from coming with SP's because he was self conscious about the huge volume of cum. After seeing him for a couple of years I finally convinced him that it wouldn't gross me out, so he let himself COB that time, and it was pretty amazing. I would have drowned if it was a bjcim, lol.

Well, I don't think I would ever stop myself from coming with a SP if I had the option.

It's amazing what people can tell from semen, I've been told sometimes I taste dehydrated.

 

[Caramel]

I think maybe you either misunderstood me, or I did not communicate my point correctly. I never stated i'm interested in pressuring women to cum, it's that I love when they do! Of course it's their choice how they interact with clients/people/etc. And I don't consider myself special in any way in the looks department either, although I do like to think of myself as "decent" in bed (and could very well be wrong lol!). I am however not interested in having sex with someone who is intentionally "holding back" (whether with an sp or a fwb). If this is a standard practice with sp's then I have been super naive about the whole thing, and either need to find a select few whom don't "hold back", or quit this whole "lifestyle".

Its not that they "hold back"...they feel nothing, so they cannot orgasm if they don't feel any pleasure in the first place. Sometimes its all in the subconscious and there needs to be some kind of therapy to control it, happens with women who have been working a long time, have been abused by men and past boyfriends, or have had the same issue with their SO/bfs/etc and over time was able to build up the relationship and now can ONLY cum with their lover, not a stranger.

 

[JustJason]

Its not that they "hold back"...they feel nothing, so they cannot orgasm if they don't feel any pleasure in the first place. Sometimes its all in the subconscious and there needs to be some kind of therapy to control it, happens with women who have been working a long time, have been abused by men and past boyfriends, or have had the same issue with their SO/bfs/etc and over time was able to build up the relationship and now can ONLY cum with their lover, not a stranger.

Very perceptive, I appreciate the insight.

 

[Smilf]

Well in case some of you forgot, some ladies and men can't orgasm what so ever, just like some people don't have g-spots and some don't have skenes glands (so they can't squirt)... everyone's genetic makeup is different and what works for some in terms of stimulation does not work for all. Personally I LOVE DATY and giving BJ's too BUT the reasons WHY it foils some times, is because a lot of guys "who think" they can perform oral, can not, lapping a pussy like a dog laps it's water doesn't qualify. And guys who grab the back of a lady's head or hold her head while she's giving you a BJ is annoying as hell when you're trying move your head around for better performance ... something to think about. If you're a lover of DATY, ASK your sp, if you're truly doing it right.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

If you're a lover of DATY, ASK your sp, if you're truly doing it right.

you know, that's a question i've asked hundreds of times - and the answer is INVARIABLY, 'oh, you're doing it just fine.'

and when i ask, it's a detailed question asked VERY politely - whether they like it faster or slower, harder or softer, higher or lower, tongue-tip or full lips or deep sucking of the parts, etc.

now i'm certain that MY technique is NOT the best technique for ALL women - so what the heck is going on here with the 'just fine' answer? sounds pretty phony to me... just sayin'

 

[vancity_cowboy]

Or you could be naturally gifted. I would have to experience your technique in person before I could give an educated opinion.

yer just bein' a tease, ma'am...