Suggested this business to some girl - Feeling like a pimp now!

[Hardlover]

There is a girl who works at Tim Hortons working as a cashier and I know her for past couple of years whenever I buy my coffee. Anyways I saw her looking tense and smoking near their loading door, I went up to her to say HI and she told me that she is looking to borrow some money as she is short of some bills and rent.

Basically she is a single mother and always been in the company of bad guys but she is a hard worker neverthless. Anyways I gave her some money and told her I can help once but not always and during over conversation I recommended her to think about "this" business. I told her since she likes to party and what not maybe she can look into this so that she does not need to work her butt off for a minimum 10 dollar job on her feet all day long.

First she was horrified to hear about my suggestion, (I told her my friends are some paying customers) and thats how I know about this line of work. She was a bit stunned but also disbelief when I told her how much money she can be making and how much some girls are charging starting rate to elite courtesans etc.

Now Ive been thinking about it all night long and dont know if it was a wise advice or not. Im having hard time pondering over and deciding if it was a good call or not. The more I think about it the more I feel like a pimp/john now.

Would you recommend somebody you know into this business?

Does it make me a bad person? Im NOT going to visit her as a customer due to privacy reasons and my intentions were only to help her out with what I knew.

 

[jesuschrist]

First she was horrified to hear about my suggestion, (I told her my friends are some paying customers) and thats how I know about this line of work. She was a bit stunned but also disbelief when I told her how much money she can be making and how much some girls are charging starting rate to elite courtesans etc.

She's a good actor then. If she's a party girl and she's in a crimp financially, this must have crossed her mind already. She's just pretending to be stunned that anyone would suggest this to her, after all, a woman's reputation is something that is of some value to them - depending on who she is speaking to of course.

So don't worry about it. It might have been a small dent to her pride but only because she may not have expected that kind of suggestion from you, but it's nothing she hasn't already considered herself.

Besides even if she didn't consider it and you were the first one to suggest it to her, remember it's only a suggestion and it's up to her to make the decision. How does that even make you a bad person.

 

[Caramel]

you're not her pimp unless you get paid too

 

[*emmanuelle]

She's a good actor then. If she's a party girl and she's in a crimp financially, this must have crossed her mind already. She's just pretending to be stunned that anyone would suggest this to her

I agree. Every woman knows that sex work exists. Even if she hasn't seriously considered doing it, she knows it's an option.

I think if she has to be CONVINCED that escorting is a good career, she probably wouldn't make a very good escort anyways. She knows perfectly well that she could be having sex for money, but obviously chooses instead to work 8-hour shifts, on her feet, for a wage that probably puts her below the poverty line. I think that is pretty telling. If she now suddenly decided to have sex for money because she's in such a desperate financial situation, that would actually be pretty sad. If she's so hard up for cash that she HAS TO escort, she probably isn't going to enjoy it very much.

I believe (from personal experience) that those of us who are good at what we do entered the industry voluntarily - because we had a genuine interest in sex and sex work. Not because we were desperate for cash.

 

[CJ Tylers]

I'd be very careful about who prepares your coffee now...

But seriously... you suggested that a potentially desperate, heavy drinking and/or drug using (it's the inference I picked up on, could be wrong) single mother whom is obviously struggling with the "mother" part of her life... take part in an industry that can ruin even a stable person if they aren't careful. Also, just keep in mind, if she's always with bad boys... she might already be turning tricks for them, or they've already suggested it.

It really depends on how "bad" they are.

As far as the money goes... I'm not ever going to touch that one with a ten foot pole. Perhaps look into support services on her behalf...and the next time she's in trouble, let her know about them.

 

[badbadboy]

You may have done her a favour if she is a party girl and in need of some extra $. Tim's is not gonna cut it and as long as she keeps her civilian job and tries to be a SP part time evenings and weekends she will probably thank you for the little 'push' you gave her.

Take a look at ERS or BP as you get closer to the end of the month when rents are due. There is deluge of "part timers", "students looking for a rental helper" or "party girls". Way more ads and new faces at that time of the month.

 

[thebuttdance continues]

I like the working girls who make wise choices,

but I hate pimps

 

[blazejowski]

I don't think you're a pimp... I have made the same offer to friends of mine - some say no, some say yes. Some I have seen once, some a few times, and one has been my steady go-to girl for almost 10 years. She doesn't do it with anyone else (AFAIK)...