I met this woman on the bus and started conversing with her. We really hit it off and when the conversation started to wane, she was eager to reinitiate it. I forgot to ask her number thinking i would have another opportunity but then two weeks later i never saw her again. Thus i started to see if i could find her on Facebook and to my luck i found her. I messaged her telling her who i was but after a week there was no response. Could she have forgotten me already? What is going on? Maybe it was all an illusion...
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Unless you have friends in common, she probably won't have gotten the message. Messages from what appear to be total strangers go into a special file called "other mail" (the recipient doesn't get a notification). Try adding her instead 
Emmanuelle: That's what i thought at first but through experimentation i do not think that is the case.
Nerdburger: Yes i had considered the possibility that using facebook would label me as a stalker. But there was really no other way. I had already missed one opportunity and was not going to risk another. Question: I creeped her out by not asking for her number and then creeped her out again by trying to reconnect? Fuck this this shit i'm done. But it's going to be hella awkward if i do see her again.
P.S I wasn't really trying to pick her up. I was hoping we could be friends... I guess females think that all males are trying to pick them up cuz essentially the majority are.
Nerdburger: Yes i had considered the possibility that using facebook would label me as a stalker. But there was really no other way. I had already missed one opportunity and was not going to risk another. Question: I creeped her out by not asking for her number and then creeped her out again by trying to reconnect? Fuck this this shit i'm done. But it's going to be hella awkward if i do see her again.
P.S I wasn't really trying to pick her up. I was hoping we could be friends... I guess females think that all males are trying to pick them up cuz essentially the majority are.
You were on the skytrain - a public place of people in transit. A transient place! Remember that as the context of your meeting with her, for surely she was well aware of it because she was the passive acceptor of your advances.
That means that you MIGHT have had a small window of opportunity to ask for her phone number or any other real information about her for future contact. If you did ask her, she would have seen the request within the light of being in a transient place with a stranger. She then might have decided it wasn't worth the risk and denied your request or given you a false number, or whatever. Your chances of getting her real number would be very slim. Facebook contact is about as threatening as her phone number. Next time, you should just ask for her email - which shows respect for her privacy and her freedom to decide further contact as she chooses.
Why she would engage in a discussion with you "reinitiating" as she did could be any number of reasons. A lot of females feel pressure to not let a guy feel bad, so they might re-initiate discussion to feign interest. On the other hand, she could be interested but it's hard to tell until you call their bluff - and that's when you should have taken that small opportunity to get her contact info.
A lot of times females want you to express interest in them and continue to do so steadily. You failed to ask for more contact so that might have disappointed her. When you tried through facebook, she might have thought you were just another one of those guys who didn't know what he wants.... so why bother hooking up with another guy like any other. This is quite typical of female pathology.
On the other hand, it could all have been a ruse like I discussed earlier.
If I were you, I would have been forthright and called her bluff at the end of the discussion, but done so by requesting an email contact - then emailed her the next day and not the same day.
That means that you MIGHT have had a small window of opportunity to ask for her phone number or any other real information about her for future contact. If you did ask her, she would have seen the request within the light of being in a transient place with a stranger. She then might have decided it wasn't worth the risk and denied your request or given you a false number, or whatever. Your chances of getting her real number would be very slim. Facebook contact is about as threatening as her phone number. Next time, you should just ask for her email - which shows respect for her privacy and her freedom to decide further contact as she chooses.
Why she would engage in a discussion with you "reinitiating" as she did could be any number of reasons. A lot of females feel pressure to not let a guy feel bad, so they might re-initiate discussion to feign interest. On the other hand, she could be interested but it's hard to tell until you call their bluff - and that's when you should have taken that small opportunity to get her contact info.
A lot of times females want you to express interest in them and continue to do so steadily. You failed to ask for more contact so that might have disappointed her. When you tried through facebook, she might have thought you were just another one of those guys who didn't know what he wants.... so why bother hooking up with another guy like any other. This is quite typical of female pathology.
On the other hand, it could all have been a ruse like I discussed earlier.
If I were you, I would have been forthright and called her bluff at the end of the discussion, but done so by requesting an email contact - then emailed her the next day and not the same day.
You don't ask, you don't get, I would have asked for the # & asked her to text me(easy way to communicate with out the awkward silences)What Emmy said with a note on how you know her might work?
I must admit as a male the thought of getting in her pants did occur to me as it is our prime directive. But i was more interested in getting to know her since i rarely meet women who i can hold a conversation with. I hoped i could see her again and talk more but at this point even being Facebook friends would be all right with me. I just don't' understand why she would totally ignore me. Makes me lose faith in humanity when friendship is misunderstood as creeping.
Now she's a "broad"?
Because you didn't get what you wanted??
Um, okay.......
A slang term for woman, usually considered derogatory.
You know, while it appears from all the comments here that men (some of them, anyway) always have some ulterior motives/reasons/expectations/etc for engaging in any sort of interaction with the opposite sex, it is an error to expect that women are doing the same.
While it's not impossible, what's actually far more likely is that she happened to be having a friendly conversation with someone on the skytrain...... And that's it..... Period. No complicated reason, just that at that moment that's what she felt like doing and apparently she was enjoying the convo so she kept it going . It's most likely not any more complicated than that.
Some of you guys really need to chill out, stop thinking of women you meet or talk to wirh sine sort of plan or mental calculations about what you want or should get out of it and get stuck on what you think "women" (as if there's a formula or profile to explain all women's thoughts because being a woman makes us all one way, and one way only so once you've figured out "the formula" and cracked "the secret code", you know what any woman is thinking in any given situation. You're not doing yourself - or women - any favors!).
I know you didn't mean it that way but the Facebook thing probably came across as kind of creepy, stalkerish...
