I'm so sorry - The Bunny can't bear to let people down

[JessicaPrabbit]

If you are a 'pleaser' not in any normal everyday way, rather, if you have a need to please 100% of the time, if you can't bear the look in someone's eyes when they don't get 100% of what they wanted from you whether it's a session or a peanut butter sandwich, if you don't like to sleep at night because there are people left unpleased ...if this describes you or anyone you know, chances are you or they are an Obsessive Pleaser.

Welcome to the life of a true to heart OP. (not original poster) Obsessive Pleaser.

I understand that there is nothing I can personally do to ensure that everyone I meet can be content all of the time, but believe me when I say I do absolutely everything within my power to make that happen.

Things outside of my personal control can greatly affect the results my efforts have on the people I care about. Those people are you.

I am sorry for letting you down Herman. So so sorry.
Ears to the ground,
JessicaPRabbit

 

[uncleg]

If you are a 'pleaser' not in any normal everyday way, rather, if you have a need to please 100% of the time, if you can't bear the look in someone's eyes when they don't get 100% of what they wanted from you whether it's a session or a peanut butter sandwich, if you don't like to sleep at night because there are people left unpleased ...if this describes you or anyone you know, chances are you or they are an Obsessive Pleaser.

Welcome to the life of a true to heart OP. (not original poster) Obsessive Pleaser.

I understand that there is nothing I can personally do to ensure that everyone I meet can be content all of the time, but believe me when I say I do absolutely everything within my power to make that happen.

Things outside of my personal control can greatly affect the results my efforts have on the people I care about. Those people are you.

I am sorry for letting you down Herman. So so sorry.
Ears to the ground,
JessicaPRabbit

Hey sometimes people's expectations are too high, of others and of themselves to the point somebody is going to feel let down no matter what you do.
Don't beat yourself up over it. Ears to the ground is nice though, usually means bunny tail is up in the air.

 

[JessicaPrabbit]

I'm sure you are forgiven.

I'm like this too, seeing people happy as a result of your efforts makes me happy too. Although sometimes you want to please so much that you end up doing the exact opposite and become annoying.
It's a fine balance.


I sometimes envy people who can just enjoy/please themselves and not give a fuck about others, I've met a few (especially in business) and I try to avoid them usually.

I don't envy the people who can just enjoy/please themselves and not give a fuck about others. I pity them, not in a pathetic desperate way but truly I feel they lack a sense of being content with themselves because they are not able to help make others content. It's simple, love yourself or know not how to love another. Enjoy and please yourself or know not how to offer those things to anyone else.

It's just kind of sad. I doubt that I have been forgiven. The capacity to forgive is something, in my opinion, that goes hand in hand with caring about themselves and about others.

I am only one Bunny. Can't please everyone all of the time ....
but Damn I do give it my very best to please everyone one at a time

JessicaPRabbit
Hopping to feel good as new by morning after a sleep in my burrow

 

[Mr.Boggo]

Ummm, ok, whoever this Herman dude is, is he even a member here? If not, then you're probably directing this to the wrong people. If he is a member, a PM may be more effective.

 

[Bad Santa]

I don't envy the people who can just enjoy/please themselves and not give a fuck about others. I pity them, not in a pathetic desperate way but truly I feel they lack a sense of being content with themselves because they are not able to help make others content. It's simple, love yourself or know not how to love another. Enjoy and please yourself or know not how to offer those things to anyone else.

It's just kind of sad. I doubt that I have been forgiven. The capacity to forgive is something, in my opinion, that goes hand in hand with caring about themselves and about others.

I am only one Bunny. Can't please everyone all of the time ....
but Damn I do give it my very best to please everyone one at a time

JessicaPRabbit
Hopping to feel good as new by morning after a sleep in my burrow

As usual Jessica, you were up all night yesterday trying to help someone else out! Being an obsessive pleaser is a wonderful quality, but you have to look after yourself too, Miss Bunny!

Hope you get some sleep tonight!

 

[HubbaHubba]

Being an obsessive pleaser is a wonderful quality,

No it isn't.....nothing obsessive is a good quality.
Sorry BS I disagee 100% with that statement.

 

[Bad Santa]

No it isn't.....nothing obsessive is a good quality.
Sorry BS I disagee 100% with that statement.

Not for the obsessor but the one being pleased, believe me, little Ms. Prabbit is an absolute pleasure! She's coming to Vancouver, Hubba! If you don't believe me, see for yourself!

Then you can actually write a review for us, what a concept!

 

[HubbaHubba]

Not for the obsessor but the one being pleased, believe me, little Ms. Prabbit is an absolute pleasure! She's coming to Vancouver, Hubba! If you don't believe me, see for yourself!

Then you can actually write a review for us, what a concept!

I don't doubt she is BS....she's a wonderful person from all indications........I'm talking obsessive in anything not being good. Personally i would be taking advantage of someone like her and that's not how I roll. Obsessive behaviour is a disease in most cases.

 

[Bad Santa]

I don't doubt she is BS....she's a wonderful person from all indications........I'm talking obsessive in anything not being good. Personally i would be taking advantage of someone like her and that's not how I roll. Obsessive behaviour is a disease in most cases.

Aww Hubba, you've gotta know I was just joshin' ya! You're right that Jessica is a wonderful person, that's why she was up all night yesterday trying to help someone out. And because of that lack of sleep she's hurt herself and still feels guilty she couldn't be there for another person today.

You're right, for our poor little "Bunny" it's probably not the best that she's such an obsessive pleaser!

 

[JessicaPrabbit]

Ummm, ok, whoever this Herman dude is, is he even a member here? If not, then you're probably directing this to the wrong people. If he is a member, a PM may be more effective.

My comments are often vague, I do apologize. Herman is my pet name for the gent who may just be my biggest 'cheerleader' here on Perb. Although Herman was deserving of an apology, the point of my post was to indicate that sometimes, no matter how hard we try and no matter how much effort we put into things even when attempting to please those dearest to us ...sometimes there are factors outside our control which have negative results leading to disappointment.

I don't believe I directed this post to 'the wrong people' Mr.Boggo. It's the lounge which, to my knowledge, is for ...stuff. This is stuff that I wanted to express to people, any people who are interested in why I missed work this evening for the first time in over 2 years. In the off chance that anyone attempted to book an appointment with me earlier this evening this was my somewhat discreet way of letting folks know that something had transpired which was not in my control. ...not so discreet now.

Sorry to have been vague.

As for being "obsessive" HubbaHubba ...I agree, not always a great quality. Everything in moderation so I've been told. It's just so darn hard to cut back on the sweets ...you know?

Anyhoo, to anyone who may have been let down by things beyond my control earlier this evening, including you Herman (BTBF) ...again, I'm sorry.

With many BunnyHugs of Appreciation
JessicaPRabbit