Like I am not saying that we should only meet when "i" want the romance but if she wants it I should travel as well.
Just seeking some advice
Just seeking some advice
yes this is what i mean.Take your favourite SP and say "I'd like to be friends with benefits" and see what happens. My friends with benefits screw me for free because they like having a random booty call and vice versa. Is that what you're looking for?
I had a relationship similar to what you are describing with my last regular & it was nice because it no longer was about paying a fee to get fucked.Like I am not saying that we should only meet when "i" want the romance but if she wants it I should travel as well.
Just seeking some advice
Yup - but if you find the right one things can work out brilliantly for both parties.You do understand that they charge money for this, right?
Yes indeed - good to find if you can get it!You're both adults, figure it out.
Take your favourite SP and say "I'd like to be friends with benefits" and see what happens. My friends with benefits screw me for free because they like having a random booty call and vice versa.
So, really, you were still 'paying' for it then...I always made sure she was financially secure & she never wanted for anything
Not at the rate you're thinkin.So, really, you were still 'paying' for it then...
Isn't this something we seek from women all the time? And why would it be wrong if you were both into it? The problem isn't a moral one - it's the hazard of self delusion... either that you think you could get that - or that you'd get it and not be able to handle it because you get attatched and therefore might become possessive.Like I am not saying that we should only meet when "i" want the romance but if she wants it I should travel as well.
Just seeking some advice
um, we get sex. We get tons and tons of sex. No need to desire it, lol. There is absolutely nothing wrong with friends with benefits type thing, but I think sps like to be paid for their benefitswell there is nothing wrong with being a friends for benefit kinda thing.
the SPs also at some point of their 'business career' desire sex right?
Good luck with that,im thinking who to seek now, CL
Much more likely to happen with a dancer than an SP, in my experience; for the most part, you haven't already paid for anything or engaged in anything sexual.SP's and exotic dancers are similar in that they don't tend to date clients.
Fake it till you make it. It could be a huge effort but it's doable. I know plenty of people who have done it, especially here in Vancouver.I fit none of Topper's stereotypes,
Won't work unless you build attraction first. And that can also be a learned skill (doesn't have to be a natural talent).but I believe it is about building a rapport, and treating a woman with respect.
Don't know about SPs, but a couple friends have gone out with strippers (without paying)In my view, no such thing as "friends with benefits" with a SP as they are in direct conflict with the SP's work ethics.
Cool. I must have it all.SP's and exotic dancers are similar in that they don't tend to date clients. I'm likely to get some heavy backlash for what I'm about to say, but its the truth. The moment you pay the SP for sex or the dancer for a lap dance, whether she's conscious of it or not, your personal value decreases in her eyes, while at the same time, your value as a client increases.
Its almost impossible to get out of the client zone unless:
- you're amazing in bed
- are willing to become her sugar pops
- you inflict serious badboy skills towards her (rarely will it work, but it happens occasionally and she'll fall in love with you in a naughty sort of way if she's the type.)
If you want to improve your chances of dating an SP or an Exotic Dancer, you need the following 3 qualities:
1. You can't be a client.
2. You must possess high value/alpha male characteristics.
3. Have Serious Game and lots of experience with women especially if she's really hot.
In other words, your going to have to catch her when she's off duty, unless she's an exotic dancer where you could use the club she works at in your favor (I'll discuss that later in my other thread). It sounds simple, but it takes a lot of practice. So, yes it IS entirely possible.
Dude, you should be paying more attention to my other thread if you'd like to improve your odds.
I've got to question one point: A lot of women - SPs or otherwise - hear 'alpha male', and think 'asshole'.2. You must possess high value/alpha male characteristics.
Attraction is a biological response, not psychological. It is a low-level instinct, not subject to conscious control, and hard-wired in our brains by our genetics. What Topper outlined are alpha male characteristics that apply in very general terms across the population. BTW, I should point out that women will often say one thing, but feel another. You could ask women what they want, but you better listen between the words; taking them quite literally won't gain you any insight.Well, that's one theory Dr. Topper. The fact is that there are a lot of different ladies in this line of work with a lot of different backgrounds, motivations, goals and expectations.
Obviously not true. There are various ways alpha male characteristics can manifest themselves, but deep and unshakable confidence, independence, leadership, belief in one's abilities to handle any situation, and so on are common factors. In relation to the opposite sex, alpha males in general will hold a belief that they are desirable to women, rather than just the other way around. None of this says that you have to be an asshole or arrogant. Of course, some alpha males are assholes, but hardly all of them or even the majority.I've got to question one point: A lot of women - SPs or otherwise - hear 'alpha male', and think 'asshole'.





