And YOU can hire yourself out as well!Oh fascinating! I was not aware of this. I'll be checking it out.
Thanks a lot!
Underserved Market for Lonely Guys?
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You always come up with good speeches. I agree particularly with this part. When I and my ex were together, comfort is what she seeks; she wants a comfortable, stable life with me. That scared the hell out of me because I have noticed what happens when you become too comfortable with your current position. You stop improving yourself. When I was in the relationship, I could stop working out or spend extra time getting myself look sharp, and still get unconditional affection and sex with my ex, that's how "great" the relationship was. It was too comfortable. But I realized that's not what I wanted. I don't mind spending time and effort to make myself look good and attractive, but in the kind of relationship I was in, there was no need for improvement. If fact, if I was looking too damn good and other girls start to be attracted to me, my ex would feel insecure. That's why she never pushed me to improve. But that's not what I want.
Being single during the pandemic sucks, but before covid happened and I ended things with my ex, I was happy. For far too long I felt like my life was already set but once I was single again, the world is wide open. I don't have to bear moral baggages when I want to flirt with other girls anymore, and I need to motivate myself to improve in order to attract girls out of my league. Yes there's a lot of uncomfortableness and frustration linked to it, but that's the kind of life I want to live. I want to be a better man, but I realized I can't do that if I settle for someone below or in the same level of attractiveness as me.
If I am not getting into relationships and not meeting women to have sex, I loose motivation to stay sharp. It sounds shallow but that's the truth about me. Everything I do to make myself attractive, working out, make money, staying sharp, is because by doing those things I can get laid. When I am lazy in getting into relationships, seeing escorts regularly pushes me to stay in decent shape. Because I crave to be wanted. I treat every date with a lady like an actual date, getting ready, shave and make myself look neat, it makes me feel good about myself. So thanks ladies. For the warm smiles and the endless excitement you bring to me.
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Briffault’s law seems pretty transactional and simplistic. If you add love, hope, fantasy and then add kids and family dynamics, relationships become hopelessly complicated. This is why, in pooning you must know what you want. Pooning is purly transactional, if you think otherwise your going to spend a lot of money trying to get something you are allways promised by are never going to get.
On the other side of the transaction the woman certainly does know what is going on. You may be her third or fourth or ninth client that day or that week and she will do what ever it takes to make that dollar. Know what you want, don't walk into a fantasy trap after you have a hardon and the hooker is stroking your cock.
A good comparison is a tenant to a landlord. When a tenant pays rent, thats the best part or the only part of the landlord/tenant relationship the landlord has any instrest in, everything else is an expense, in time or money. With a hooker, the best part or the ony part of the hooker/pooner relationship is the money you pay. After that everything else is expense, in time or money.
On the other side of the transaction the woman certainly does know what is going on. You may be her third or fourth or ninth client that day or that week and she will do what ever it takes to make that dollar. Know what you want, don't walk into a fantasy trap after you have a hardon and the hooker is stroking your cock.
A good comparison is a tenant to a landlord. When a tenant pays rent, thats the best part or the only part of the landlord/tenant relationship the landlord has any instrest in, everything else is an expense, in time or money. With a hooker, the best part or the ony part of the hooker/pooner relationship is the money you pay. After that everything else is expense, in time or money.
In the end, its all about fulfilling a fantasy. The SP in your mind, is your loving crazy about you sexy hot beautiful do almost anything gf or wife for however much time you spend with them..or simply a way to get your rocks off (Which I've always thought is the dumbest way to enjoy the experience. I have a very good imagination and can watch porn or think about a hot hostess I saw at a lounge and get myself off any day of the week) The trick I think is to be able to "turn off" after that date with an SP ends. The danger is to walk away thinking you were somehow the most generous lover they ever met, best behaved customer and because they say they would love to see you again, interpreting that as maybe there is something more. What SP who is really successful at what they do wouldn't make you feel like you are the only man in the world for them, as long as your wallet is open.
I do find it interesting when I see an SP advertising, especially if she is still in her 20s (and really is!) that she is only available for clients 35+. My guess , and it's only a guess is its a combination of how they are treated by men who are that age or older in general and probably a lot less risk of a guy trying to burn them, dicker on price etc. And I do think many SP's enjoy what they do.They make great money, enjoy that feeling of being in control and desired.
I can fantasize with the best of them in the moment, I'm under no illusions the older I get that at 59, some very hot 20 or 30 something wants to have a relationship with me. But even 7 years ago I was not so "grounded" in that sense. Not any SP's fault but I was a willing victim to myself. lack of friends, lost my 30 plus year career, 2008 stock market crash destroyed my retirement plans, marriage..then a relationship that followed for 3 years blew up and I totally didn't see it coming. So yeah, I was a prime candidate to look for affection and attention in a dream world.
My life is more together 7 years later..I intentionally stayed away from this hobby...and dating in general for 6 years and just in the past 8 months got back into trying dating..and sadly the real world of relationships seems to have nothing to offer me and at my age I don't expect that expectation and opportunity to get any easier to fulfill.
So here I am today....at least knowing that this hobby is not reality but a bit of very expensive pleasure and fun for some brief moments. Nothing more.
I do find it interesting when I see an SP advertising, especially if she is still in her 20s (and really is!) that she is only available for clients 35+. My guess , and it's only a guess is its a combination of how they are treated by men who are that age or older in general and probably a lot less risk of a guy trying to burn them, dicker on price etc. And I do think many SP's enjoy what they do.They make great money, enjoy that feeling of being in control and desired.
I can fantasize with the best of them in the moment, I'm under no illusions the older I get that at 59, some very hot 20 or 30 something wants to have a relationship with me. But even 7 years ago I was not so "grounded" in that sense. Not any SP's fault but I was a willing victim to myself. lack of friends, lost my 30 plus year career, 2008 stock market crash destroyed my retirement plans, marriage..then a relationship that followed for 3 years blew up and I totally didn't see it coming. So yeah, I was a prime candidate to look for affection and attention in a dream world.
My life is more together 7 years later..I intentionally stayed away from this hobby...and dating in general for 6 years and just in the past 8 months got back into trying dating..and sadly the real world of relationships seems to have nothing to offer me and at my age I don't expect that expectation and opportunity to get any easier to fulfill.
So here I am today....at least knowing that this hobby is not reality but a bit of very expensive pleasure and fun for some brief moments. Nothing more.
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