Trying to meet women in the CL personal section for dating

[LoadShooter]

Hey guys, has anyone had much experience trying to meet women for dating or encounters in the W4M section on Craiglist? I am talking only about meeting women for dating/socializing/sex and not meeting SPs to do business with.

I'm just wondering if anyone here is experienced or has any tips on it or whether it is a complete waste of time and I should stick to dating sites. I did meet two women and go on dates with them a few years ago. Both these women had pictures of themselves posted in their ad, so that was at least some sign of them being a real person.

I find on CL alot of ads ask for a pic first without posting one. Also, it seems like these ads reply and then ask you to write to a particular email address. It sounds like its some sort of scam, but maybe someone here can clarify this for me.

Thanks for any advice or input.

 

[giaebonyprincess]

Hey guys, has anyone had much experience trying to meet women for dating or encounters in the W4M section on Craiglist? I am talking only about meeting women for dating/socializing/sex and not meeting SPs to do business with.

Thanks for any advice or input.

This first question sounds a bit foolish, a women looking for a relationship are going to want more than dating, socializing and sex. Sounds like your looking for free services with no attachment?

I find on CL alot of ads ask for a pic first without posting one. Also, it seems like these ads reply and then ask you to write to a particular email address. It sounds like its some sort of scam, but maybe someone here can clarify this for me.

Thanks for any advice or input.

Second, if your looking to date someone, a person in the real world is going to ask you send pictures of yourself and a real email. They don't know that you have been pooning for years and that you find it shocking with these sort of questions...right?

just my 3 cents but then again I'm single.

 

[LoadShooter]

In general the craigslist section is a crap shoot for ladies. Even trying to post in new cities looking for platonic female friends I would receive tons of emails from guys sending dick pics, propositions etc, as well as spam.

So personally I don't think it's a scam when the ad says please email this email address - as that weeds out a lot of the spammers that just auto send crap to posters, and that would help the receiver determine that YOU are a real person. I'm sure it does help if they post photos as well, as I have heard sometimes scammers pretend to be women to try and direct guys to sign up for dating sites, but i'm sure you'd realize what was happening in that case.

Thanks Charlotte. I've replied to email addresses given in the past on actual dating sites...so I was skeptical about them on CL, but I guess that doesn't necessarily mean they are all scams.

 

[giaebonyprincess]

Thanks Charlotte. I've replied to email addresses given in the past on actual dating sites...so I was skeptical about them on CL, but I guess that doesn't necessarily mean they are all scams.

Your welcome..oh you weren't thanking me for my input sorry.

My bad

 

[UhOh]

Second, if your looking to date someone, a person in the real world is going to ask you send pictures of yourself and a real email. They don't know that you have been pooning for years and that you find it shocking with these sort of questions...right?

just my 3 cents but then again I'm single.

Whats worse, a female in the real world looking to date and finding out the guy is an ex pooner? Or a guy in the real world looking to date and finding out the girl is an ex escort? Neither one is likely to mention that in their profile.

 

[giaebonyprincess]

Whats worse, a female in the real world looking to date and finding out the guy is an ex pooner? Or a guy in the real world looking to date and finding out the girl is an ex escort? Neither one is likely to mention that in their profile.

Your right...both probably want to start fresh.

 

[UhOh]

Your right...both probably want to start fresh.

Whats your take on each mentioning their past? I suspect a monogamous guy isn't interested in dating an escort anymore than a monogamous female would be interested in dating a pooner. Doesn't each have the right to know.

 

[LovesGourmetDining]

I find on CL alot of ads ask for a pic first without posting one. Also, it seems like these ads reply and then ask you to write to a particular email address. It sounds like its some sort of scam, but maybe someone here can clarify this for me.

Thanks for any advice or input.

Yeah, generally people are cowards -- they don't want to be judged first, so they ask for your pic first and (dis)qualify you based on looks probably. Because you'll probably do the same with their picture.
If they do send you a hot pic quickly, could be fake.

Asking you to write to a particular address will result in you exposing your e-mail address instead of staying in the anonymous Craigslist e-mail relay. Once they have that, they can sell your name to a marketing company and shortly after you will probably be bombarded with cheap I-want-sex scam spam.
I suspect real persons wouldn't be so quick to get your real e-mail address since it exposes them too, and in any case the Craigslist e-mail system works just fine for to-and-fro, so what's the hurry?

Something you can do is copy their personal-sounding e-mail reply to you and paste it into Google Search. See if other people are getting it as a template response.

 

[LoadShooter]

Yeah, generally people are cowards -- they don't want to be judged first, so they ask for your pic first and (dis)qualify you based on looks probably. Because you'll probably do the same with their picture.
If they do send you a hot pic quickly, could be fake.

Asking you to write to a particular address will result in you exposing your e-mail address instead of staying in the anonymous Craigslist e-mail relay. Once they have that, they can sell your name to a marketing company and shortly after you will probably be bombarded with cheap I-want-sex scam spam.
I suspect real persons wouldn't be so quick to get your real e-mail address since it exposes them too, and in any case the Craigslist e-mail system works just fine for to-and-fro, so what's the hurry?

Something you can do is copy their personal-sounding e-mail reply to you and paste it into Google Search. See if other people are getting it as a template response.

Good point about the emails. I am comfortable with the anonymous CL relay also, which is why requesting my email seems suspicious. I understand why people request a pic from you, but at the same time, when they don't provide one in their ad, it puts the sender at a big disadvantage and makes you give up your privacy, while they don't give up anything. I'm more likely to send a pic to an ad where the OP posts their pic.

I think overall, I'm better off sticking to the mainstream dating sites and apps...but still willing to browse CL occasionally.

 

[VanessainVictoria]

Hey guys, has anyone had much experience trying to meet women for dating or encounters in the W4M section on Craiglist? I am talking only about meeting women for dating/socializing/sex and not meeting SPs to do business with.

I'm just wondering if anyone here is experienced or has any tips on it or whether it is a complete waste of time and I should stick to dating sites. I did meet two women and go on dates with them a few years ago. Both these women had pictures of themselves posted in their ad, so that was at least some sign of them being a real person.

I find on CL alot of ads ask for a pic first without posting one. Also, it seems like these ads reply and then ask you to write to a particular email address. It sounds like its some sort of scam, but maybe someone here can clarify this for me.

Thanks for any advice or input.

Join Meet Up and get out more. Craigslist is a crap shoot.

 

[UhOh]

this whole thread is hilarious , but your post is particularly funny , given the fact that many pooners and sps end up in longterm relationships with each other some even marriages

as for craigslist and dating , pretty much a woman will get emails from 99 percent the same emails that write to the newest ad for a girl under the therapeutic section.
Pooners , escorts ,dating site members.... we are all looking for connection , companionship, friendship and sex .

If you really want a relationship then do as I was advised by a man on POF a few years ago , sign up for eharmony
We are all adults and everyone has a past , when we start a new relationship it should not matter so much about our past but who we are and where we want to go forward to .

OP I really hope you find what you are looking for and I wish you luck .

That you think someone's past doesn't matter to others is particularly funny also. The past is all we have to judge people and yes we all judge people even when we don't like others judging us

 

[LovesGourmetDining]

I'm more likely to send a pic to an ad where the OP posts their pic.

Even (or especially) if the person at the other end is real, the chances of this happening is pretty much zilch.
Some say "your pic gets mine" but if they have already disqualified you based on your pic, you're not even going to get a "no thanks" email.

Go on a free site like PlentyOfFish or Tinder (are they still free?) if pictures are important up front. There's something more sadly honest and time-saving about being disqualified by the pictures you post. And less time-wasting emotional wrangling over whether you are going to be scammed.

 

[giaebonyprincess]

Whats your take on each mentioning their past? I suspect a monogamous guy isn't interested in dating an escort anymore than a monogamous female would be interested in dating a pooner. Doesn't each have the right to know.

I think they are both different...for one it is a job and the other could be a addiction or a once in awhile "leisure" activity.

Me personally I wouldn't tell the person until after 3 months of dating and I wouldn't have sex with them for the 3 months as well. I think it takes about 3 months to see if your really interested in the person. Sex comes easy right?

That's my take

 

[LovesGourmetDining]

We are all adults and everyone has a past , when we start a new relationship it should not matter so much about our past but who we are and where we want to go forward to .

I think this is true, just hard to actually make it true.
Suppose someone had a whack on the head and suffered amnesia. Their past would only matter -- only come up to be judged -- if evidence surfaced. Otherwise they would be the blank slate you talk about. So theoretically it is possible.

I think mostly people end up revealing things about themselves because they are afraid of the judgment around it -- which implies they acknowledge that those things they confess have some sort of cultural taboo associated with it, whether they personally share that viewpoint or not. It might not hurt anyone if no one found out, but they are pre-emptively confessing in case it is found out.

Hence all the fairytales about people confessing into inanimate objects to get things off their chest -- a weird sort of fearful guilt when they should just stfu.

 

[ddcanz]

I never said that someones past does not matter to others , I said IT SHOULD NOT!

some people care about another past and some dont Judge
people judge themmselves harshly enough most of the time they do not deserve to be judged over thier past sex life ffs , we are adults not teenaged virgins .
and no the past is NOT ALL we have to judge people by , try judging people by thier current behavoir would be a great start , or maybe judge them by how they treat you and others ?

wow sometimes I swear a few of you just lurk and pounce on anything I say and try to twist it wth....carry on

GIA as always I think you are Bang on !!!! YOU GO GIRL !!!

He simply stated his opinion, but- because it is different than yours and directed towards you in response to your statements- well, of course he is "pouncing".
You seem to have this perception that "certain" handles on here are out to get you. Sorry to burst your bubble, but you're just not that special, my dear.
That's the truly "particularly funny" part of this thread- that you can't seem to accept opposing, alternate or debatable viewpoints without taking it personally.
Don't be hurt by this, AA. I'm just judging you on your "current behavior", as you point out.
Oh, and BTW- speaking of judging people- aren't you a DNR? That pretty much precludes you from being judged professionally on this forum, does it not?
Just my observation.

Also, so not to seem that I'm hijacking this thread and piling on, I agree that there is more to someone than their past, and recognizing their current and future self is equally- if not more- important when assessing someone for ANY reason
But we are who we are- all of us different- so how we choose to "judge" people is actually a more personal thing based on our own life experiences and perceptions.
And this coming from a "teen-aged virgin" mentality.

 

[apl16]

Hey guys, has anyone had much experience trying to meet women for dating or encounters in the W4M section on Craiglist? I am talking only about meeting women for dating/socializing/sex and not meeting SPs to do business with.

I'm just wondering if anyone here is experienced or has any tips on it or whether it is a complete waste of time and I should stick to dating sites. I did meet two women and go on dates with them a few years ago. Both these women had pictures of themselves posted in their ad, so that was at least some sign of them being a real person.

I find on CL alot of ads ask for a pic first without posting one. Also, it seems like these ads reply and then ask you to write to a particular email address. It sounds like its some sort of scam, but maybe someone here can clarify this for me.

Thanks for any advice or input.

Reply to emails. Try to start a dialogue. Maybe chat on some chat app. If it seems interesting, meet up somewhere.
Ignore scammers, spammers, and other assorted poopheads!

Don't over think it things too much.

To the rest of you.
Really! Grow up!

 

[UhOh]

I never said that someones past does not matter to others , I said IT SHOULD NOT!

some people care about another past and some dont Judge
people judge themmselves harshly enough most of the time they do not deserve to be judged over thier past sex life ffs , we are adults not teenaged virgins .
and no the past is NOT ALL we have to judge people by , try judging people by thier current behavoir would be a great start , or maybe judge them by how they treat you and others ?

wow sometimes I swear a few of you just lurk and pounce on anything I say and try to twist it wth....carry on

GIA as always I think you are Bang on !!!! YOU GO GIRL !!!

You'll have a hard time finding evidence of me lurking or pouncing on your posts. I doubt I've ever replied to one of them before.
There isn't anyone on this forum using their real name, why is that? Might be because we know there's a difference between how we wish people would judge us and the reality of how they actually do, right or wrong. Humans are hypocritical bastards.

 

[papillion]

Hey guys, has anyone had much experience trying to meet women for dating or encounters in the W4M section on Craiglist? I am talking only about meeting women for dating/socializing/sex and not meeting SPs to do business with.

I'm just wondering if anyone here is experienced or has any tips on it or whether it is a complete waste of time and I should stick to dating sites. I did meet two women and go on dates with them a few years ago. Both these women had pictures of themselves posted in their ad, so that was at least some sign of them being a real person.

I find on CL alot of ads ask for a pic first without posting one. Also, it seems like these ads reply and then ask you to write to a particular email address. It sounds like its some sort of scam, but maybe someone here can clarify this for me.

Thanks for any advice or input.

I lucked out with my current GF, met her on CL, but that hit was after A LOT of misses.
Most of the W4M posters are looking for a ltr, some don't even want sex until you become the "friend first"

 

[Damaged]

I've been a monogamous guy in a relationship with an escort. It was never a requirement or expected but it was that way.

As for mentioning your past to your future someone. Should you? That's a really really hard question to answer. I'm at year 10 having been in a relationship of some level with a woman in the sex trade. As I understand their past, I hope they understand mine. Now, if I was with a civilian woman, what would I do? I don't know. But I will tell you something I find interesting with my own circle of friends. I became so used to having an "escort/former escort" as a GF it just became naturalized to me. The result was I came out to most people about who was in my life. I was honestly very surprised to find that many (not all) of my female friends accepted it completely. In fact, a good number were very supportive and a half dozen or so opened up to me about their past in the sex trade (at varying levels)

Honestly, my own opinion from my own experience is that men have a bigger problem with it than women do.

YVR, I am curious on what your position would be if a friend or acquaintance booked a session with your Significant other who was a SP, let's say they were still offering FS? You seem open minded so I'm interested in how you would handle that.

Myself, I'm not sure I could be in a relationship with an active SP, and I realize that is a fault in my character. I'm too jealous I guess. I would definitely find it easier if they didn't offer FS though. If they were retired I wouldn't have an issue with it.

 

[87112]

Dating is crazy isn't it, Every watch that show Million Dollar Matchmaker. Listen if you're a millionaire and you need fixing up what does that say about the rest of us 9 to 5 Joes. We are beyond hope??