thoughts for the upcoming year in regard to this hobby, tdl list, budget, or get out.

[sevenofnine]

i guess once or twice a year, i look at my future in this, where i want to go, who i want to see and sit down with a spread sheet and look at a budget

i guess this is the first year since i started in this that i don't have a clue where im going in this. i don't at all have a game plan or a to do list for the upcoming year, or a budget for that matter,,

for a year or two now, i felt my path in life changing that this wasn't for me any more, i guess that was a reflection of my writing or perhaps, how i viewed the ladies. or myself,
it was just time to move on.

personally i think paying for sex, is not an ideal situation, yet at times, the need is so great, that well nothing else matters,
and well it follows that paying for company and well accepting money for your company is sort of disrespectful
but yet its better then being poor or being alone

a sp told me once if you love your self you don't sell your self
and for me the reverse is true, if you love your self you don't buy someones company,

im not sure if that is true, but i would surly agree its not the ideal to buy or sell ones company
and i kind of have felt that way for awhile. but i have been involved with some one and were close.


it feels not like i bought her company for several hours, it feels like we share our life for several hours,
that is the only reason why in some ways im still here, and i have no idea where this will end between us.

and don't reallly have any desires one way or another in that regard,
i mean i have family and kids, and that isn't going to change, she as well has a personal life with people in it,
that isn't going to change, so i guess its easy in that regards my future is allready planned
not with her,
yet were close and friends,
and its not some thing i worry about is our friendship real and all that,
were comfortable with each other and the way things are, period,

just curious has any one else client or sp been long term with some one, and it just feels so comfortable so right,
yet there is no pressure to define your relationship or move on, to another level, so where does it end or does it ever you just keep going and going
i guess i wouldn't have a problem with that,
like i said i have no need to prove that our friendship is real or make a life with this sp
i have all ready made a life for myself

one or two other sps out there i would like to see, mostly just because there so dam cute,
but like i said my guilty feelings, may or may not hold me back

 

[Dickson]

Deep thoughts sevenofnine. I have been in the "hobby" for over 30 years. Seen a lot of SPs over the years. I have had some long term arrangements. One for 8 years. Those long term arrangements have felt so right and so amazing. However remember that feel will pass. I have never been married or had kids so I cannot comment on that aspect of things. I travel a great deal and about 9 years ago I gave up on the traditional concept of meeting someone. It always ended in a mess for me and all others concerned. This lifestyle works for me. I donot need to worry about the mess. I get what I want when I want it. I can play it however I want to.

Buying her company is not a big deal. If I pay for it one way or another, I pay. We all pay. You don't think you are not paying your wife for sex? I hear it from guys all the time if you do that and this you can have sex with your wife. I bet most women use sex to get what they want from thier husbands. So get that out of your head that what we do, paying for services, is some how bad. Good news I pay only for the time together. I had a buddy who is still paying for his marrage that last 5 years and has not had sex with her for 2 years. He is paying a lot more than what I pay. I know what I get and she knows what to give. It is a clean an easy business. I do not have to pay for the BS. Like I was not there for the fathers birthday. Or I was looking at a hot girl. Or she did not like what I said to her friend. Yes emotions get in the way at times but we all know what is happening, we know where it is going. Buying her company has not got messy for me over the years until I cross the line. I did twice and it cost me big time. I bought a house once with a SP and her EX showed up. Not a pretty picture. The other one cleaned out my condo. I learned my lesson.

I kind of think of it like going to Disneyland. You pay, you go, you enjoy, and you go back to your life. No harm no foul. Everyone gets what they want. But you can't live in Disneyland! What a nightmare that would be. Just enjoy the moment with your SP.

One of my SPs just gave me a great Xmas present. She knows how I like the idea of a relationship. (we all want what we don't have) She treated me like a real boy friend or husband and did not charge me. Matter of fact she got up set when I offered to pay. So you can have your cake and eat it too. How ever it did cost me over a grand because I took her shopping and I had a few carollers show up to help her get into the spirit plus I had a tree set up in the hotel for her. So even when it is free its not free.

I have had a large number of SPs who I felt a connection with (I have had a number I "married" so I could have a wedding night) but I would not enter thier life and they would not enter my life. As much as I think Snow White is hot I do not want her showing up in my office or at a dinner meeting I did not ask her too. I do not need Ciderellla pissed off at me because it is that time of the month. It is much simpler.

I hope that this helps. Enjoy the experience. Great ladies out there.

 

[Dgodus]

Just feel the need to reiterate.

Everything in this world has a price.

I don't just mean financial or material either. Emotional, mental and physical tolls can often times be steeper than financial.

Also don't kid yourself. The majority of people sell themselves in one fashion or another; wether it be mind, body, time, or talents. Most people I know genuinely enjoy their occupations, but all would have a massive lifestyle change if a substantial sum of money was injected into their lives.

Don't need to be involved in any aspect of the hobby to realize those two truths I mentioned.

If it wasn't coming from seven little comments about buying/selling time can be perceived as a little offensive, as it's very general and much too presumptive.

As for any actual questions. All I can say is I've got a nice weekend planned that'll have me grinning for a few weeks until it arrives and I'm sure afterwards I'll be smiling like a buffoon. Beyond that my future is uncertain so I have important matters to attend to other than my sex life (just gives me incentive to arrange my ducks inorder sooner I suppose :thumb

 

[PlayfulAlex]

i guess once or twice a year, i look at my future in this, where i want to go, who i want to see and sit down with a spread sheet and look at a budget

Such a deep thinker you are, 7of9...SPs can bring so much comfort, ease, tranquility, and simplicity to their visitor's lives, if handled with professionalism and decorum. Maybe don't complicate things so much. Accept what is happening, enjoy the moment(s). Long term, or short term arrangements...everyone's needs are so unique. But these are the most unusual relationships, which fit no simple descriptions. It could be exhausting, trying to figure it all out! Perhaps there are no simple answers...

 

[InTheBum]

i guess once or twice a year, i look at my future in this, where i want to go, who i want to see and sit down with a spread sheet and look at a budget

i guess this is the first year since i started in this that i don't have a clue where im going in this. i don't at all have a game plan or a to do list for the upcoming year, or a budget for that matter,,

for a year or two now, i felt my path in life changing that this wasn't for me any more, i guess that was a reflection of my writing or perhaps, how i viewed the ladies. or myself,
it was just time to move on.

personally i think paying for sex, is not an ideal situation, yet at times, the need is so great, that well nothing else matters,
and well it follows that paying for company and well accepting money for your company is sort of disrespectful
but yet its better then being poor or being alone

You sound just too anal for this hobby...

Seeing SP's on a regular basis is for relaxed people that want to have a good time.

The spreadsheet comment says it all...

 

[lenny]

a sp told me once if you love your self you don't sell your self
and for me the reverse is true, if you love your self you don't buy someones company,

im not sure if that is true, but i would surly agree its not the ideal to buy or sell ones company
and i kind of have felt that way for awhile. but i have been involved with some one and were close.

Feeling pain, going to the toilet, toiling in labour, these are not "ideal", but ordained in the present world we live in.

You try to make the best of it, with the talents you've been given, for maximum happiness.