Oh how that sounds like a white collar worker who just spent his 9th consecutive paycheck on his favorite stripper.
"Kyle" played a role that she has rehearsed many times before. She knew how to impact both you and your wife to greatest height.
To suggest that "Kyle" had very much to do with the experience is to imply that your wife should be considering "Kyle" as some sort of a divine offering from above.
In reality, as is stated oh so many times at this website, she was merely doing her job.
Don'tcha see, that it was what your wife already had invested in Kyle that made the experience so memorable, and so personal. This really wasn't about Kyle herself.
In fact it is much like the internet. Once Kyle gave your wife the smallest sincere sense of herself, then your wife was drawn in part to the individual person there, and not just to the sexually-charged atmosphere. On the net, people are attracted all the time to folks about whom they know next to nothing... but once they (think they) get some small tidbits of understanding about them as individuals, they become very attracted long before they should. Your wife had more of a turn-on from showing some vulnerability in front of a person that she'd already been caused, for whatever reason, to take an interest in, than she ever would have if merely presented silently with someone with a better body and more appealing face.
If it were merely about the things you see with your eyes at strip clubs... there would be long lines for the impeccable appearances and the other girls would struggle to get any dances at all. Instead, because it is about human minds impacting one another, those other girls who would possibly get very few dances, need only call upon the same apparent sincerity that Kyle called upon, to inspire someone's mental investment in her, making her seem far more appealing than she may have been if only regarded as butt and boobs.