Being 5'7" doesnt help, that's for sure. I've been told "I'm too nice." more than once. Lots of women want a guy with "an edge". I can offer stability, but stability is boring.
Stopped Dating
- Thread starter InTheBum
- Start date
until their biologic alarm clock goes off - then they want the nest and financial stability and, if they can think that far ahead, good genes
You cant control destiny, we have some guys at work 5 3 5 4 tall and married in their 20s and not rich just working stiffs like me. They found a woman who accepted their plans looks and short stature. Its out of your hands, I'm talking about everything in life. The woman are working stiffs too, go home and cook, clean. Work OT hours.
I dont see how they married into a good life, but someone somehow that life was good enough for them.
I dont see how they married into a good life, but someone somehow that life was good enough for them.
So your idea of a relationship is someone to talk to, but find physically repulsive? Basically, using each other for company and to split the bills? Sounds like bliss...
I can get the same with a roommate if i wanted...
What ever works for you in the end, you have to live with yourself.
A few guys I know are divorced and have said never again,
Kind of my sentiments if I ever happened to get divorced. No matter what kind of relationship your in, you kind of have to put up with a lot.
Some guys though they get divorced or there wife dies and in no time there in another relationship.
They just need to be with some one.
A couple of guys I know have never been in a relationship, I would swear their virgins one is as old as me fifty something another thirty.
I'm not sure how you could do it or why you would want to be thirty something or fifty something and a virgin.
But my point is there is no normal.
Whatever works for you,
Personally though if I was single.
I would go to a doctor get myself fixed so there would be no little me's running around.
Rent my self some cheap pad some where. Find some girl at least twenty or thirty years younger then me and settle in with her. Any static and either I'm gone or she is gone.
I have a friend that did that in his sixties moved in with a thirty two year old asian girl for a year. He was a drunk but she didn't care. She didn't care at all about anything. Perfect girl.
I'm involved with a young twenty five year old I found on arrangement seekers, she wants me to take her on vacation talks about us moving in together. I have a wife. But she doesn't care.
She was involved with a guy once before as old as me. She is into art and everything all she wants is a guy to support her while she struggles to get her art career on track she knows its not forever.
There are girls for sure are desperate for the ring and for ever and ever amen. But there are girls out there just want a place to stay while they figure out what there doing with there life.
There are girls who are just like guys for what ever reason want to have fun no strings attached not ready to settle down with some one.
and there are girls who are clingey and desperate and loney and what the marriage thing. yeah i agree, with some one who made the comment about hurting some one like that by leading them on not really cool to do hurt people
but not every girl or women is desperate and loney for that ring on her finger.
A few guys I know are divorced and have said never again,
Kind of my sentiments if I ever happened to get divorced. No matter what kind of relationship your in, you kind of have to put up with a lot.
Some guys though they get divorced or there wife dies and in no time there in another relationship.
They just need to be with some one.
A couple of guys I know have never been in a relationship, I would swear their virgins one is as old as me fifty something another thirty.
I'm not sure how you could do it or why you would want to be thirty something or fifty something and a virgin.
But my point is there is no normal.
Whatever works for you,
Personally though if I was single.
I would go to a doctor get myself fixed so there would be no little me's running around.
Rent my self some cheap pad some where. Find some girl at least twenty or thirty years younger then me and settle in with her. Any static and either I'm gone or she is gone.
I have a friend that did that in his sixties moved in with a thirty two year old asian girl for a year. He was a drunk but she didn't care. She didn't care at all about anything. Perfect girl.
I'm involved with a young twenty five year old I found on arrangement seekers, she wants me to take her on vacation talks about us moving in together. I have a wife. But she doesn't care.
She was involved with a guy once before as old as me. She is into art and everything all she wants is a guy to support her while she struggles to get her art career on track she knows its not forever.
There are girls for sure are desperate for the ring and for ever and ever amen. But there are girls out there just want a place to stay while they figure out what there doing with there life.
There are girls who are just like guys for what ever reason want to have fun no strings attached not ready to settle down with some one.
and there are girls who are clingey and desperate and loney and what the marriage thing. yeah i agree, with some one who made the comment about hurting some one like that by leading them on not really cool to do hurt people
but not every girl or women is desperate and loney for that ring on her finger.
itb, you started a good thread here. i've read more thoughtful and thought-provoking stuff here than i have in many moons :thumb: :nod: 
If I found her repulsive I wouldn't be with her. On the other hand if you found her repulsive, I would tell you to mind your own f***ing business and maybe more. Obviously your friends see something in their spouses you don't, because you are shallow and only look skin deep. You are probably incapable of having a real relationship, so you can't understand your friends when they do. But that is not something that is wrong with them, it is something wrong with you.
It is common to see what I would consider attractive people paired up with what I would consider unattractive people, but obviously they don't see each other that way. People age, especially women after they have done their duty and produced your spawn, but an adult isn't going to change their opinion of their partner based on that. If they do, they probably had no business getting married in the first place. Like I said, if you got married simply for hot sex, your marriage is allmost certainly doomed from the start.
Not that many attractive lonely women out there desperate for a shag last time I looked. You been on plenty of fish lately?
It's really astonishing to me how many men out there are so bitter or skeptical or outrightly cynical when it comes to women. I'm not denying the veracity of what the men are writing but the negativity really comes through. It may be that the male comments on this thread are more or less typical of men who frequent SPs, not necessarioly all men of a particular age. It's also noticeable that no women (perhaps one or two, can't recall) are commenting on this thread. I wonder why.
Attractive women aren't necessarily lonely, tho they might be alone, and the last place you'd find them is POF, because attractive women don't have any trouble getting laid. (or dates, or guys following them, or trying to turn a one night stand into an LTR...)
Attitude like the one you describe usually shines thru. If those guys aren't getting dates/laid/hot spouses, that is the number one reason why not. Men who really love women, just about everything about them, are usually much more attractive, even if that is the kind of man who plays around. Women would just rather spend time with guys who actually like them.
This is only true of women in the 35+ range. Younger than that and they know they can be unreasonable and get away with it.
sex is the easy part,
its the next day and the day after,
its the rest of your life together that is hard.
flipping throught the channels and heard a comment by some author
its tough twenty years thirty years of marriage to the same person.
its not really a bad thing to have an affair as long as you keep coming home.
i wonder about how he feels when one person in the relationship decides for both of them that there not having sex any more.
but yeah sex is the easy part in the relationship.
and i dunno where you guys are hanging out.
but for me,
if i was single tomorrow,
i could be shacked up with some one by the weekend. and i would have my pick,
lots and lots of lonely women out there. even some sp's
but honestly not that interested, wanted a family been there done that.
and its nice love my family.
but that doesnt mean i want some one elses or want to start a new one.
the next time around strictly for fun.
any hassles and i will be gone so fast
but seriously there are lots and lots of lonely women out there.
maybe its because im a family man steady and reliable is hell. likes to have fun but knows where to call it quits, instead of getting all stupid and just being an ass.
i dunno but i have never had a problem with women.
only problem i have ever had with women is i get involved with to many of them
its the next day and the day after,
its the rest of your life together that is hard.
flipping throught the channels and heard a comment by some author
its tough twenty years thirty years of marriage to the same person.
its not really a bad thing to have an affair as long as you keep coming home.
i wonder about how he feels when one person in the relationship decides for both of them that there not having sex any more.
but yeah sex is the easy part in the relationship.
and i dunno where you guys are hanging out.
but for me,
if i was single tomorrow,
i could be shacked up with some one by the weekend. and i would have my pick,
lots and lots of lonely women out there. even some sp's
but honestly not that interested, wanted a family been there done that.
and its nice love my family.
but that doesnt mean i want some one elses or want to start a new one.
the next time around strictly for fun.
any hassles and i will be gone so fast
but seriously there are lots and lots of lonely women out there.
maybe its because im a family man steady and reliable is hell. likes to have fun but knows where to call it quits, instead of getting all stupid and just being an ass.
i dunno but i have never had a problem with women.
only problem i have ever had with women is i get involved with to many of them
don't know why really, i have been surrounded by girls all my life, for as long as i can remember, i have had more girl friends then guy friends.
not every girl, some girls just don't like me or get me,
and im not a stud of anything special, nothing really at all.
and for the most part they chase me, i don't chase girls
in fact when i have actually tried to hit on a girl i have failed miserable
dont have a clue why but eventually alot of girls come around and check me out, some like what they see.
its funny i work for a large company, and a new girl comes in or i go to a different department or whatever,
we have this large coffee room ok
and im new or a new girl gets transferred in, im not the first guy they notice, not even close ok there is nothing at all special about me to make a girl look, or get her attention
but i sit in my little corner out of the way, and i will notice her, on the other side of the room, and day by day she will sit closer to me, one table at a time, before long were an item taking our coffee outside to be alone.
i dunno know why there alot of women out there looking for something,
one big advantage for me, i see and interact with hundreds of people on a daily basis
and even on my day off im out and about.
sitting alone in your apartment your chances of meeting a girl are nil.
not every girl, some girls just don't like me or get me,
and im not a stud of anything special, nothing really at all.
and for the most part they chase me, i don't chase girls
in fact when i have actually tried to hit on a girl i have failed miserable
dont have a clue why but eventually alot of girls come around and check me out, some like what they see.
its funny i work for a large company, and a new girl comes in or i go to a different department or whatever,
we have this large coffee room ok
and im new or a new girl gets transferred in, im not the first guy they notice, not even close ok there is nothing at all special about me to make a girl look, or get her attention
but i sit in my little corner out of the way, and i will notice her, on the other side of the room, and day by day she will sit closer to me, one table at a time, before long were an item taking our coffee outside to be alone.
i dunno know why there alot of women out there looking for something,
one big advantage for me, i see and interact with hundreds of people on a daily basis
and even on my day off im out and about.
sitting alone in your apartment your chances of meeting a girl are nil.
Sitting alone in my apartment I can go online and look for escorts. Why would I waste time and effort trying to talk with one of these creatures?
Maybe because you're Silky Johnson, an admitted drug pusher, pimp and loser.
You sound like a sappy guy that in the end just settles for another lonely person...kinda sad really...
Hmmmmm...you and your Buddy LAG
Huh.... I thought his last date with a non-sp was with LAG ?????????
I guess what is sappy to you is true deep passionate love to others. Speaking of kinda sad, you are so sad it is tragic, really..... to think that you are born into a world where such incredible love can be found that people are willing to die for it, and you are this jaded, shallow and cynical, is really really sad. What a waste of a life.
W
westcoast555
Uh... not true. Not at all. POF is LOADED with attractive women who can't find a guy. They can't find a guy because they are cold, narcissistic, shallow 'career women' who are chasing an image and no guy is good enough. The guys that are attractive to them are 'edgy' assholes that aren't mate material. Relationships are about compromise.
