Tough situation to be in.
Your gf reminds me of my ex. She really had a limited interest in sex, and mostly due to her upbringing (British, with non-communicative parents) she grew up feeling it was wrong for a good girl to have any enthusiasm for sexual behaviors at all. It took me a long time to find what was acceptable to her, and to find ways to expand on it to get her to be interested in expanding her horizons. Unfortunately, though her physiology seemed insatiable in most sexual activities, her psychology would overrule within a few weeks/months, and she would block any further attempts to continue with whatever new kink had been recently enjoyable, because now she felt it was wrong to enjoy.
Deep down she was blocking herself, and there was nothing I could do about it. We eventually split over unrelated issues.
When I remarried, it was hot-n-heavy for the first year or so, but she eventually began to loose interest because it wasn't getting better and better and better, and better... To her if it wasn't better than the time before, it wasn't worth doing...
Your gf is going to present you with a lot of complex puzzles, and the right answer one day may not be the right answer on another...
The actual reason I decided to make this reply, however, is actually what I felt from your description of yourself, and your methods.
To me, based on what you wrote, it sounds like you're a bit unaware/clumsy/inexperienced in dealing with women and their complexities. The problems you describe are unfortunate, but it kind of sounds like you're trying to tune a new piano with the forceful application of a hammer and a saw. You are expecting a lot of changes in a short time, and may not be prepared for the challenge. My wife is an Asian immigrant, I know the mindset of respectful obedience and manipulative behavior attempts.
You need to be much more subtle, and be aware that you may never get it the way you want.
Not sure I'm helping anything, and I wish you all the best for your future relationship, and appreciate your openness...
Your gf reminds me of my ex. She really had a limited interest in sex, and mostly due to her upbringing (British, with non-communicative parents) she grew up feeling it was wrong for a good girl to have any enthusiasm for sexual behaviors at all. It took me a long time to find what was acceptable to her, and to find ways to expand on it to get her to be interested in expanding her horizons. Unfortunately, though her physiology seemed insatiable in most sexual activities, her psychology would overrule within a few weeks/months, and she would block any further attempts to continue with whatever new kink had been recently enjoyable, because now she felt it was wrong to enjoy.
Deep down she was blocking herself, and there was nothing I could do about it. We eventually split over unrelated issues.
When I remarried, it was hot-n-heavy for the first year or so, but she eventually began to loose interest because it wasn't getting better and better and better, and better... To her if it wasn't better than the time before, it wasn't worth doing...
Your gf is going to present you with a lot of complex puzzles, and the right answer one day may not be the right answer on another...
The actual reason I decided to make this reply, however, is actually what I felt from your description of yourself, and your methods.
To me, based on what you wrote, it sounds like you're a bit unaware/clumsy/inexperienced in dealing with women and their complexities. The problems you describe are unfortunate, but it kind of sounds like you're trying to tune a new piano with the forceful application of a hammer and a saw. You are expecting a lot of changes in a short time, and may not be prepared for the challenge. My wife is an Asian immigrant, I know the mindset of respectful obedience and manipulative behavior attempts.
You need to be much more subtle, and be aware that you may never get it the way you want.
Not sure I'm helping anything, and I wish you all the best for your future relationship, and appreciate your openness...
