Seeing an SP of same ethnicity?

[aznjizzer]

Hi all,

A while ago I tried booking a Korean SP but once I informed her I was Korean she said she does not take in Koreans. I just wondered what are your guys' thoughts on matters like that? I presume it's because she doesn't want me to notice her in public. Have any of you experienced something like that?

 

[Quarter Mile'r]

Hi all,

A while ago I tried booking a Korean SP but once I informed her I was Korean she said she does not take in Koreans. I just wondered what are your guys' thoughts on matters like that? I presume it's because she doesn't want me to notice her in public. Have any of you experienced something like that?

You basically asked and answered the question in one sentence. Not because you might notice her
in public as that goes for any sp of any ethnicity.

Korean ladies can be quite nervous when it comes to seeing Koreans as they have a somewhat
small community here and can be very nervous of seeing someone who could recognized them.
Possibly even a family member. lol.. not so funny for either party if it turned out that way.

I hope this helps answer your question and if anyone else can ad to this please
feel free as there maybe other reasons.
This has been asked here before.





..........................QM'r

 

[happymoments]

You basically asked and answered the question in one sentence. Not because you might notice her
in public as that goes for any sp of any ethnicity.

Korean ladies can be quite nervous when it comes to seeing Koreans as they have a somewhat
small community here and can be very nervous of seeing someone who could recognized them.
Possibly even a family member. lol.. not so funny for either party if it turned out that way.

I hope this helps answer your question and if anyone else can ad to this please
feel free as there maybe other reasons.
This has been asked here before.





..........................QM'r

i think you hit the nail spot on. The smaller the community, the easier the rumour runs around.

Although, I do find it funny if both parties turn out to be family or know each other. In another thread, a poster share'd a story time with his experience for accidentally seeing an ex coworker (despite having signs that indicated it would be her). It's also why ladies would likely go into Hiding or quitting early, since not everyone's ok with err... financial friend with benefits lol.

 

[Avioneto123]

A korean SP that I used to see stopped working in the area because once she made a booking with a friend of a friend without knowing ,and she felt so embarrased when she openned the door,that she end up moving to another province to work.So, yes some Korean SPs are very concern about meeting someone they know in their community.

 

[take8easy]

It is quite common actually. Many EI ladies don't see EI males because they are afraid he might turn out to be a friend of nephew of sister of one of their aunt's nieces.

 

[Number17]

I don't mean to hijack, as my point is not dependent on ethnicity. If I unwittingly booked a woman who I knew in real life, I would first ask her if she's comfortable continuing. If she is, I would say "let's just try to have fun." And more important, "If you don't say anything to anybody, I won't say anything."

My strong thought is, "If I expose her, I'm exposing MYSELF, too." And vice versa. In my mind, we BOTH have EQUAL incentive to keep our encounter a secret.

On a more benign level, growing up, a common insult was "I saw so and so shopping at K-Mart." But, you are admitting that YOU were at K-Marr, too."

I know that I'm in the minority, but I can't understand why there seems to be more stigma on the WOMAN involved. I think it says something positive about HER, if she can work in this industry, usually. I think that it says a lot negative about ME as a man, partaking in this. (Don't have "game," nerd, geek)

I just don't understand the double standard here.

Anyway, I think that "both the woman and man should just keep it a secret, and not Out each other."

Thanks for letting me vent.

IAP/HAP,
TJM

Although both sides have equal incentive to keep the secret, the consequences are nowhere near equal. The social stigma towards a sex worker is much greater than that towards a pooner. First of all, all their friends and families will call her a whore and a bunch of other things. What are we going to be called that is equally degrading? Being called nerd, geek or no game is nowhere as bad. It's particularly bad if the SP is an Asian or an EI. If their family finds out, I'm pretty sure they would cut all ties with her. Even their families would get insulted/humiliated by their friends and relatives too. In some extreme cases in certain culture, their lives could even be in danger. On the other hand, as a pooner, you can always say "oh, it's just my first time, blah blah blah...". Even if you tell the truth and say you've seen 50+ or 100+ beautiful SPs, I bet some of your good friends might actually think you're cool because suddenly they can live their dreams through your life. Of course, if you're married and your spouse finds out, it's a whole different story. But still, I think in most cases, an outed SP would have it far worse than you or me.

 

[MixedDude]

This happened to me once with a lady in this industry. It was actually how we reconnected after losing touch. We're pretty tight now.

 

[lukom]

I'm half Iranian and half Croatian. A lot of the girls advertising as Middle Eastern are usually Iranian. Some Iranian girls will even advertise as East Indian or Latina so as to not draw interest from other Iranians. I think BBW Mya/7344 is Iranian but advertises as white. Ive had a couple of SP's get shocked after asking me in person what my background is, cause it would turn out they're Iranian themselves. I'm personally not very connected to the local Iranian community, I don't even speak the language or follow much of the cultural stuff. I'm closer with my Croatian family too.

 

[g eazy]

Although both sides have equal incentive to keep the secret, the consequences are nowhere near equal. The social stigma towards a sex worker is much greater than that towards a pooner. First of all, all their friends and families will call her a whore and a bunch of other things. What are we going to be called that is equally degrading? Being called nerd, geek or no game is nowhere as bad. It's particularly bad if the SP is an Asian or an EI. If their family finds out, I'm pretty sure they would cut all ties with her. Even their families would get insulted/humiliated by their friends and relatives too. In some extreme cases in certain culture, their lives could even be in danger. On the other hand, as a pooner, you can always say "oh, it's just my first time, blah blah blah...". Even if you tell the truth and say you've seen 50+ or 100+ beautiful SPs, I bet some of your good friends might actually think you're cool because suddenly they can live their dreams through your life. Of course, if you're married and your spouse finds out, it's a whole different story. But still, I think in most cases, an outed SP would have it far worse than you or me.

This is a good response to the question. You have to wake the fuck up if you can't see why the social stigma is different for females than it is for males.

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Korean ladies can be quite nervous when it comes to seeing Koreans as they have a somewhat
small community here and can be very nervous of seeing someone who could recognized them.
Possibly even a family member. lol.. not so funny for either party if it turned out that way.

Of course - that is precisely IT.

The fact that so many around society think it inappropriate is INSANE.

There are many ethnic groups that could be interchanged in this same equation, and it's a respectful no-brainer that the interests of such providers should be fully understood.


And once one attains that clear understanding, those grumbling about equal rights for all would conclude that some groups should be fully respected for like concerns while others are not, which only makes the grumblers hypocritical.

SO we defer to the age old human standards in practice in most places: "pick and choose whoever you want at your own discretion" and "It's your body".

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Although both sides have equal incentive to keep the secret, the consequences are nowhere near equal. The social stigma towards a sex worker is much greater than that towards a pooner. First of all, all their friends and families will call her a whore and a bunch of other things. What are we going to be called that is equally degrading? Being called nerd, geek or no game is nowhere as bad. It's particularly bad if the SP is an Asian or an EI. If their family finds out, I'm pretty sure they would cut all ties with her. Even their families would get insulted/humiliated by their friends and relatives too. In some extreme cases in certain culture, their lives could even be in danger. On the other hand, as a pooner, you can always say "oh, it's just my first time, blah blah blah...". Even if you tell the truth and say you've seen 50+ or 100+ beautiful SPs, I bet some of your good friends might actually think you're cool because suddenly they can live their dreams through your life. Of course, if you're married and your spouse finds out, it's a whole different story. But still, I think in most cases, an outed SP would have it far worse than you or me.

Spot on....

 

[lukom]

Although both sides have equal incentive to keep the secret, the consequences are nowhere near equal. The social stigma towards a sex worker is much greater than that towards a pooner. First of all, all their friends and families will call her a whore and a bunch of other things. What are we going to be called that is equally degrading? Being called nerd, geek or no game is nowhere as bad. It's particularly bad if the SP is an Asian or an EI. If their family finds out, I'm pretty sure they would cut all ties with her. Even their families would get insulted/humiliated by their friends and relatives too. In some extreme cases in certain culture, their lives could even be in danger. On the other hand, as a pooner, you can always say "oh, it's just my first time, blah blah blah...". Even if you tell the truth and say you've seen 50+ or 100+ beautiful SPs, I bet some of your good friends might actually think you're cool because suddenly they can live their dreams through your life. Of course, if you're married and your spouse finds out, it's a whole different story. But still, I think in most cases, an outed SP would have it far worse than you or me.

The Pooner is technically breaking the law by paying for sex, where the SP isn't for soliciting. The pointer risks losing his family, his job, sometimes even his business (there was an incident years ago where an SP outed a realtor on the dirty and revealed everything they did together)... etc

Someone I personally know isn't allowed to be around his nephews and nieces for being into pooning, cause his entire family think he's a sicko for paying what they believe to be exploited women for sex.