I'm new here but I think its unfortunate when a sp falls for anyone while she is employed as such. It can lead to heartache.
Question for the working girls with boyfriends...
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Here's my 2 cents:
I would be very proud of the woman that made the conscious decision to work as an SP. I would also say that the job totally sucks, but no matter what, keep your head up high, your work is NOT who you are. Everybody has a story...
I've had a few past relationships with SP's that were great. They got messed up because I was too immature, at the time, to realize that i had a great woman to be with. Sex is not love. Having to be used sexually by someone else is not infidelity. Nice to know that now
Anyways, now that I have gone through many years living in a "square" world, i actually envy the guys that managed to maintain their relationships with these gals. How's that for crazy!!!
Here's my 2 cents:
I would be very proud of the woman that made the conscious decision to work as an SP. I would also say that the job totally sucks, but no matter what, keep your head up high, your work is NOT who you are. Everybody has a story...
I've had a few past relationships with SP's that were great. They got messed up because I was too immature, at the time, to realize that i had a great woman to be with. Sex is not love. Having to be used sexually by someone else is not infidelity. Nice to know that now
Anyways, now that I have gone through many years living in a "square" world, i actually envy the guys that managed to maintain their relationships with these gals. How's that for crazy!!!
if I was dating a guy that saw an SP behind my back, I'd take a break on that relationship and head straight to India in search of Vatsyayana for a personal lesson in the KAMA SUTRA...
Cuz if he needs more than what I can offer, I must be doing something wrong!
Ladies, put some spice into that relationship with a little whipped cream and lingerie! Ha ha...
Cuz if he needs more than what I can offer, I must be doing something wrong!
Ladies, put some spice into that relationship with a little whipped cream and lingerie! Ha ha...
Now I have a question about this;
Is sex still enjoyable with a SO when her job is sex?
I know there is a lot of arguments about "making love" and "fucking" but lets be honest here, the physical act is the same thing.
I've also wondered what SPs *really* think about their clients, but that is something for a completely different thread. I'm sure it's probably been brought up before..
Is sex still enjoyable with a SO when her job is sex?
I know there is a lot of arguments about "making love" and "fucking" but lets be honest here, the physical act is the same thing.
I've also wondered what SPs *really* think about their clients, but that is something for a completely different thread. I'm sure it's probably been brought up before..
Yeah I think I can handle myself in the spice department thanks ladies....My shit is hot!!! Truthfully It isn't about me I guess, experience is the only thing that can guide a man when he loves a woman who works in this biz. And he hasn't had enough. I wish he did.
About a year ago I started seeing a guy. When we met, I told him what I do and he was fine with it since we just 'dated casually'. I think it gave him some kind of pleasure to know that he is with an SP on casual basis because it left that relationship opened.
Few months later, we started to get closer and I decided to leave the profession however, he still kept it open on his part.
Months passed and we continued dating...he mentioned that if I never left the profession, we could never get this close.
However, that was very one sided because he continued to lead his life as a bachelor.
To make a long story short...I decided that it wasn't working out for me and I wasn't ok with that arrangement.
So, in my experience it would be very hard to SP and have a SO without a 'catch'.
Few months later, we started to get closer and I decided to leave the profession however, he still kept it open on his part.
Months passed and we continued dating...he mentioned that if I never left the profession, we could never get this close.
However, that was very one sided because he continued to lead his life as a bachelor.
To make a long story short...I decided that it wasn't working out for me and I wasn't ok with that arrangement.
So, in my experience it would be very hard to SP and have a SO without a 'catch'.
i have dated a sp
and it all boils down to honesty, communication and trust. if the guy feels comfortable in his own skin and confident enough in what his g/f is telling him, then you really can make a go of it. lets be really honest here, most sp's get some pleasure out of their carreer or they wouldnt be doing it. so what, she still comes home to you, wants to be with you, makes love to you, not just a wam bam thank you mam. she takes the time to spend the night with you, probably kisses you alot more passionately than anyone else. take it for what its worth. it would appear to me that most, not all, but most people have a wall of defense up, they are scared of being honest and trusting their partner. for lots of people, it takes a considerable amount of time for that wall to come down, its a shame. you may have lost a valuable relationship by hiding how you really have felt, or just telling your partner whats up within yourself.
and it all boils down to honesty, communication and trust. if the guy feels comfortable in his own skin and confident enough in what his g/f is telling him, then you really can make a go of it. lets be really honest here, most sp's get some pleasure out of their carreer or they wouldnt be doing it. so what, she still comes home to you, wants to be with you, makes love to you, not just a wam bam thank you mam. she takes the time to spend the night with you, probably kisses you alot more passionately than anyone else. take it for what its worth. it would appear to me that most, not all, but most people have a wall of defense up, they are scared of being honest and trusting their partner. for lots of people, it takes a considerable amount of time for that wall to come down, its a shame. you may have lost a valuable relationship by hiding how you really have felt, or just telling your partner whats up within yourself.
An Sp with a boyfriend
I have been reading the replies lately, and I thought that I should put my two cents in. So here we go.
I am an extremely lucky girl, because I have a boyfriend whom I am pretty sure, and here is hoping, who will eventually become my husband. Personally I think he puts up with alot more complicated and annoying issues that me being an Sp, but he has known the whole time that I have been one. And when we got together we talked about. I am not saying that he likes what I do, but he knows that for now, I will not change. That it is him that I come home to, it is him I think about, and it is him and do everything with.
That being said, he does go and see other girls. He pays for sex. He tells me before he is going to go, and we talk about it after. I ask all the dirty gossip like questions. And I do get jealous, but I realize that it is not that I don't satisfy him, but its that I am not able to give him enough. And when I come home all I want is to be cuddled, and to have gf/bf stuff. But of course, (if I were him I would go through the same thing), he is horny. So every now and then, off he goes. He gets his jollies off, its new and exciting, but never as good as me. I get him off my back for a bit. I get jealous and then I must prove myself to him. We, talk we laugh, we cry, we get over and we have incredible sex.
So there. Love with an Sp can work. That is from an Sp's point of view. I adore him with all my heart, and I am so very lucky that he p uts up with everything else that I make him put up with.
Cheers,
Ivy
I have been reading the replies lately, and I thought that I should put my two cents in. So here we go.
I am an extremely lucky girl, because I have a boyfriend whom I am pretty sure, and here is hoping, who will eventually become my husband. Personally I think he puts up with alot more complicated and annoying issues that me being an Sp, but he has known the whole time that I have been one. And when we got together we talked about. I am not saying that he likes what I do, but he knows that for now, I will not change. That it is him that I come home to, it is him I think about, and it is him and do everything with.
That being said, he does go and see other girls. He pays for sex. He tells me before he is going to go, and we talk about it after. I ask all the dirty gossip like questions. And I do get jealous, but I realize that it is not that I don't satisfy him, but its that I am not able to give him enough. And when I come home all I want is to be cuddled, and to have gf/bf stuff. But of course, (if I were him I would go through the same thing), he is horny. So every now and then, off he goes. He gets his jollies off, its new and exciting, but never as good as me. I get him off my back for a bit. I get jealous and then I must prove myself to him. We, talk we laugh, we cry, we get over and we have incredible sex.
So there. Love with an Sp can work. That is from an Sp's point of view. I adore him with all my heart, and I am so very lucky that he p
uts up with everything else that I make him put up with.Cheers,
Ivy
That question should have been discussed PRIOR to any serious relationship between an SP and her potential bf. It really saves any misunderstandings and ugly, ugly breakups.ihatemyskirt said:
