The people who have shit marriages always ask me " When are u getting married"? These same people complain about their spouse and how unhappy they are.
People with bad marriages
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I have two nephews in their early thirties who are already twice divorced. Both of them-and their wives-treated the whole thing as an excuse for a big party. Now two of the ex-wives are single mothers,that's pretty fucking irresponsible. Getting married because everyone else is doing it is idiotic.
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I've been married for 13 years and its been a roller coaster. Been a little disappointing last few years but for the most part its been good. I think that it is up and down, we both do shit that we shouldn't and seem to blame the other. You have to ask yourself if the woman is the one that you want to spend your life with, not just fuck with. Alot changes after you get married, I know that alot of jokes are made about that but its true, for both parties. And keep in mind that in 5,10 years down the road neither of you are going to be the same people you are today, so alot of time and effort needs to go into it if you want it to work. But if you must do it just don't have kids for a few years and see how it pans out, if it isn't in the cards then walk with no regrets and no ties to the other for payments.LittleAsianGuy said:
Ya i get bored very easily and not sure i can be attracted too the same person 5-10 yrs down the road. Im turning 34 in July and the heat doesnt really bother me.
calgary23 said:
imo
There is absolutely no reason for a man to get married.
The reason most men run from marriage is because we know women are
mean masters (pretty well every marriage I've seen the woman likes to call the shots and tell her husband what to do), and the man is like a beaten dog.
If you are to ever marry, the woman you marry must be ABSOLUTELY one of a kind, a very rare gem, a woman who:
likes men
treats men with respect
doesn't nag
doesn't spend money like it grows on trees
enjoys sex
doesn't act like a biotch
doesn't play games
isn't a drama queen
doesn't try and tell you what to do all the time
If, and this is a big if, you can find a woman who is not like I just described, then you have found a very special woman worth marrying.
Sadly, their that hard to find.
and sadly most men think with their little penis - very sad.
There is absolutely no reason for a man to get married.
The reason most men run from marriage is because we know women are
mean masters (pretty well every marriage I've seen the woman likes to call the shots and tell her husband what to do), and the man is like a beaten dog.
If you are to ever marry, the woman you marry must be ABSOLUTELY one of a kind, a very rare gem, a woman who:
likes men
treats men with respect
doesn't nag
doesn't spend money like it grows on trees
enjoys sex
doesn't act like a biotch
doesn't play games
isn't a drama queen
doesn't try and tell you what to do all the time
If, and this is a big if, you can find a woman who is not like I just described, then you have found a very special woman worth marrying.
Sadly, their that hard to find.
and sadly most men think with their little penis - very sad.
Bad or good marriage is relative, depends how you want to look at it. I think, the secret to have a happy marriage is more important than being married.
Being happy in a married life has to come from the inside; being happy as an induvidual first. After that, it will be easy to be with anybody when you are happy with yourself.
Being happy and content with your life is more important than being marriage or rich or beautiful etc, etc. But instead of finding your own happiness within ourselves...it is easier to find fault at others.
Looking back to my bad relationships ...they weren't so bad after all. It was just me who wasn't as happy person. Now, I like myself better and easy for me to let go the things that I cann't have. The funny thing is the more I like myself the less I want to get married. Perhaps because I become more clear with I want...
Being happy in a married life has to come from the inside; being happy as an induvidual first. After that, it will be easy to be with anybody when you are happy with yourself.
Being happy and content with your life is more important than being marriage or rich or beautiful etc, etc. But instead of finding your own happiness within ourselves...it is easier to find fault at others.
Looking back to my bad relationships ...they weren't so bad after all. It was just me who wasn't as happy person. Now, I like myself better and easy for me to let go the things that I cann't have. The funny thing is the more I like myself the less I want to get married. Perhaps because I become more clear with I want...
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you have a lot to offer doll. You won't be on the shelf for long.Avarice said:I think the worst thing is when you KNOW you're in a bad marriage but you refuse to leave it.
I'm glad I left my ex when I did. 8 years together and for the last 3 I knew it wasn't going to work..I was too loyal. I had to leave so I could give myself a proper chance at finding real love.
Too bad I'm back to the drawing board.
You haven't met me.Avarice said:I think the worst thing is when you KNOW you're in a bad marriage but you refuse to leave it.
I'm glad I left my ex when I did. 8 years together and for the last 3 I knew it wasn't going to work..I was too loyal. I had to leave so I could give myself a proper chance at finding real love.
Too bad I'm back to the drawing board.
exactly ... i was never happy being single, but never happy inAvarice said:
a relationship ... then i discovered 'pooning' and i can just stay
unhappy but single.
too many people think that a relationship will solve all THEIR
problems and don't realize how much shit they bring to the
table themselves ...
most people need to spend a lot more time alone, with some
introspection, before thinking they have what it takes to
make any relationship work.
its no different from people who win the lottery and their
life still sucks ... anyone can meet the perfect partner
and have their life still suck if they don't do the work
required to make themselves work.
And Ava, I'm not pointing at you, but the overwhelming
number of people who just don't get it ...
There are some friends i know who use their relationship too pay 1/2 of their expenses like rent,mortgage,bills etc. These peop admitted too me they cant stand their spouse but need their incomes cause they cant afford too live on their own. My uncle told me he hates his wife but doesnt want too leave because he's afraid of what others would say or gossip if he had a divorce
I belive that there is someone out there for everyone. You may even already know this person and not realize it. But if you have someone bashing you for just lurking on a site that you have spent so much time on perhaps you should think about trading that person in.Avarice said:
Thanks for saying that darling.
If only I could actually believe that I could meet someone who I could be honest about my previous occupation and NOT have it thrown back in my face during every argument.
" I wish my girlfriend wasn't a whore " or " Go sell yourself, it's all you know how to do ". And this is simply for just posting/lurking here. I'm not even booking anymore.
All this while I'm in school for computer engineering.
Some people are never happy, I guess.
I hope from the post after this you are not IN a relationship right now, if that is how you are getting treated.Avarice said:I think the worst thing is when you KNOW you're in a bad marriage but you refuse to leave it.
I'm glad I left my ex when I did. 8 years together and for the last 3 I knew it wasn't going to work..I was too loyal. I had to leave so I could give myself a proper chance at finding real love.
Too bad I'm back to the drawing board.
And my personal point of view, after 35 years happily single, is that EVERYONE, male and female, who is in or is looking for a relationship are insane. I do not know one person, of either sex, who is looking for or in a relationship that has as much fun as I have being single. Even when I separate my participation with this from that, I STILL enjoy myself more than they do.
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Flee. Flee now. Go to something that pays insanely well for very little work. Construction management. Financial investment advice. Anything but computers. I left that field and am so happy I did, unless you are insanely specialized, such as PeopleSoft implementation or similar, you will be lucky to make 80K a year.Avarice said:All this while I'm in school for computer engineering.
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Also.....I'm willing to out on a limb to say that there is a huge amount of marriages that are together for the simple reason like KIDS or RELIGION.
I personally think that's wrong!
What kind of example are they setting??
Is it LOVE or fake Love ( comfort )??
I personally think that's wrong!
What kind of example are they setting??
Is it LOVE or fake Love ( comfort )??
U only live once and why waste a lifetime with somone u dont love. My mother has been miserable for the past 40 years.
Avarice said:I think the worst thing is when you KNOW you're in a bad marriage but you refuse to leave it.
I'm glad I left my ex when I did. 8 years together and for the last 3 I knew it wasn't going to work..I was too loyal. I had to leave so I could give myself a proper chance at finding real love.
Too bad I'm back to the drawing board.
It's like the lottery, brother, "You can't win if you don't play."LittleAsianGuy said:
Asking someone to marry you is the strongest expression of love. "I love you lotto ticket. I'll always love you. Even after we don't win the Big Jackpot, and I should probably just tear you to shreds and toss you in the trash."
I kinda have to respect a jerkwad for not throwing away his ticket. It's sentimental and shit.
Damn straight! Even if the site is something like www.barelylegalteenshavingsexwithchimpanzees.comathaire said:
It's none of their business how you get your kicks when they're not around. Especially if you're only lurking and not actually trying to participate by renting a costume and hoping to pass for a chimp. If they're that controlling, dump them!!!!!!
P.S. I know that some pinheads will click on the link and be disappointed that it doesn't exist (at least I hope it doesn't exist). Sorry. I just made it up. It's called poetic license.
