Not wanting to get caught in the "friend" zone

[deslicher]

Ok, so I know this woman, she laughs at my comments, has invited me out....movies, a stroll, a bite to eat. Sometimes I can make it, sometimes not.

I've seen her checking me out, most recently she invited me to a movie...I couldn't make it, after she FINALLY gave me her #......but said it would be great to hang as friends, she enjoys my company and loves my sense of humour, but I'm always in "flirt" mode, but nothing over the top. At one point I actually told her she needed a spanking, in a kidding way.....after this she told me the above with her phone #.......WTF??!?

Do I call her and suggest a meeting, if so when.....I know I'm gonna keep flirting with her until I "really" get a clue.

What would you guys do?

Thanks

 

[letitrock]

Let her know you're interested man. Be forward with her but not overwhelming.
She might like it, she might not. But at least if she's not interested in you that way, you'll know right away instead of having to play the waiting game and looking for signals

 

[Evolve]

You call her, chat about nothing for a while, and then ask her out. Happens millions of times every day.

 

[festealth]

Tell her to come over to check out your collection of whips, chains, handcuffs, paddles, etc... lol.

 

[KYG]

I've seen this scenario before either with myself or a friend encountering the same thing. Pretty much by the first few hours of meeting, people will know whether they'll be just friends or something more. Once she's says, I like hanging out as friends, then thats fine, it's just friends. Don't expect anything more. Its just a total waste of time if you try and make it more than that. It's just what it is

 

[Smoothmover]

Give me her number so she can go out with a real man..

If you chose to step up then I suggest

Take her out for Drinks, Drinks, not a movie, not dinner - Drinks

And remember one thing

Always Be Closing

ps.....and don't be a guy friend

 

[Whackjob]

Let her know that you seek dating advice from guys that are addicted to fucking hookers. That should solve the problem with her wanting to be your friend.

 

[Ulysses]

Let her know that you seek dating advice from guys that are addicted to fucking hookers. That should solve the problem with her wanting to be your friend.

Priceless!

 

[Validator]

She already told u what u need to know - she wants to be friends. And to support this, u guys have done nothing more than friendly stuff. I have my girl friend's numbers - we grab lunch or hang out etc but we are nothing more than friends (btw I have a girlfriend). If she wanted more, she wouldn't have said "friend" and its a flag and u know it, and you are hoping we tell u otherwise. I can guarantee once u "turn it up" she willnot return the favour and willprobably use the "but I said friends" excuse. If I were u, I'd start dating othee chicks and still hang out once in a while with ur friend. That might change her view later.

 

[deslicher]

She already told u what u need to know - she wants to be friends. And to support this, u guys have done nothing more than friendly stuff. I have my girl friend's numbers - we grab lunch or hang out etc but we are nothing more than friends (btw I have a girlfriend). If she wanted more, she wouldn't have said "friend" and its a flag and u know it, and you are hoping we tell u otherwise. I can guarantee once u "turn it up" she willnot return the favour and willprobably use the "but I said friends" excuse. If I were u, I'd start dating othee chicks and still hang out once in a while with ur friend. That might change her view later.

I think I have just been "VALIDATED"......LOL, I have my eye on at least one other as well, so I was thinking the same thing.

I really appreciate all your feedback, esp Naughty Assistants.....but hey I gotta be real, but no way I'm getting caught in the friend zone this time, unless she wants an FF, then I'll make an exception.

 

[Validator]

LOL! well good luck with everything! i've seen so many guys in the "friends zone" and many of them were very good looking guys and/or were doing ok for themselves. it's really common. keep us posted on the updates.

 

[spencer68]

let her know that you seek dating advice from guys that are addicted to fucking hookers. That should solve the problem with her wanting to be your friend.

roflmao!!:d

 

[deslicher]

Huh, as Naughty Assistant pointed out, her intentions aren't to be a platonic friend. If you date others, you will become a "player" in her mind.

The secret of not becoming a platonic friend is to ensure that she knows that while you enjoy her company and are willing to date three times before having sex, sex is what you expect out of the relationship.

If she doesn't want to have sex with you, she will tell you as soon as she knows that.

Maybe she's the "Player"......

 

[summerbreeze]

evening on the beach, bring the picnic gear, wine, fruit, cheese, nibblies, more wine, blanket

offer a neck, then shoulder massage as she relaxes into the moment, more wine

you should be in green light territory to take it to any level you want

make sure its a semi secluded spot

good food, romantic evening, ocean, wine.................. massage,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

after you are touching you will pretty much have gained a right of passage to more intimate levels

good luck

 

[Validator]

Although girls say they don't like players - who are they attracted to? The nice guy or the bad boy? U think the bad boy is gonna date one girl at a time? Do u think the bad boy is gonna say "I want to have sex with u?" He does not tell her anything - he simply does what he wants.

As much girls don't like that - majority of them are attracted to this type of behaviour

U don't have to be a jerk - simply date more girls. He's not tied down to her anyway, so why not?

This is where manby say "well he's not being himself!" To that I say, its no different from learning to be polite or ettiquete for fine dining or to fit in another culture - it is dating and what works.

Huh, as Naughty Assistant pointed out, her intentions aren't to be a platonic friend. If you date others, you will become a "player" in her mind.

The secret of not becoming a platonic friend is to ensure that she knows that while you enjoy her company and are willing to date three times before having sex, sex is what you expect out of the relationship.

If she doesn't want to have sex with you, she will tell you as soon as she knows that.

 

[westcoast555]

ha ha... good one!

Let her know that you seek dating advice from guys that are addicted to fucking hookers. That should solve the problem with her wanting to be your friend.

I was going to say something about seeking dating advice on a prostitute review board but you beat me to it and said it best!

 

[Rotcod]

Well, as luck would have it, I am in a similar situation myself. A few weeks ago I met this girl through an outdoor club, and saw her again a few days ago when we went mountain biking along with a mutual friend. The first thing she asked when she saw me again was if I was going to Fernie with her, (a small group of us that met a few weeks ago decided to head there for a weekend in August). When I told her I was, she jumped up and down and said, "I am holding you to that promise, so you better not back out!"

The whole ride to the trail, she would occasionally poke or slap me, until I started getting into the act and started poking back. Then during the ride we engaged in friendly rivalry, seeing who can clear the most difficult obstacles without having to get off the bike, and giving each other small neg hits whenever we did screw up.

In the past, I have learned to trust my intuition, but for the moment I am not completely sure that she likes me, or more importantly I am not sure if I like her (for the moment I do, but that may change). So for the moment, I am going assume that she does like me and plan to give her a call this weekend.

 

[mercyshooter]

What are you exactly looking for? Friends with benefits? Or real future husband/wife relationship?

Like Naughty Assistant said, "Call her to find out"!!

 

[deslicher]

What are you exactly looking for? Friends with benefits? Or real future husband/wife relationship?

Like Naughty Assistant said, "Call her to find out"!!

Good question, prob not marriage, I'm already attracted to her, physical and personality chemistry.

I called her yesterday, no call back yet....

Time to go to check out L..... who kept on alluding to my wife. I finally told her "oh btw I don't have a wife, I have freedom"....lol.

I guess inquisitive minds want to know.

 

[Validator]

She likes you, guy! Nice work - go in for the date!

Well, as luck would have it, I am in a similar situation myself. A few weeks ago I met this girl through an outdoor club, and saw her again a few days ago when we went mountain biking along with a mutual friend. The first thing she asked when she saw me again was if I was going to Fernie with her, (a small group of us that met a few weeks ago decided to head there for a weekend in August). When I told her I was, she jumped up and down and said, "I am holding you to that promise, so you better not back out!"

The whole ride to the trail, she would occasionally poke or slap me, until I started getting into the act and started poking back. Then during the ride we engaged in friendly rivalry, seeing who can clear the most difficult obstacles without having to get off the bike, and giving each other small neg hits whenever we did screw up.

In the past, I have learned to trust my intuition, but for the moment I am not completely sure that she likes me, or more importantly I am not sure if I like her (for the moment I do, but that may change). So for the moment, I am going assume that she does like me and plan to give her a call this weekend.