getting slapped by a woman: is it ok to hit her back?

[Aerts]

I'm sure at least some of you have been in this predicament. What would you do if you were in a public place (say a bar) and some woman who you're talking to slaps you, are you allowed to slap her back? I was at a bar, and a drunk woman approached me. She says "hi my name is X" and I respond "hey I'm X", she then insults me for having an old man's name, to which I respond "well X is my grandmother's name and she has that same dress too." SLAP. WTF? I was in a club full of chauchy guidos and didn't want to get jumped by some drunk tard whiteknight, so I just walked away in shock laughing. If this was in private, I probably would have done something, but given the context I elected to just laugh at it.

What is the appropriate response in a situation such as this?

 

[JFF009]

If this was in private, I probably would have done something, but given the context I elected to just laugh at it.

This comment concerns me. I can't imagine any circumstance where a "slap" would be considered justification for a physical reply.
If she started laying the boots to you then by all means fight back but a slap...gimme a break. Just shut your hole and walk away.

 

[summerbreeze]

I think Albert Einstein is quoted as having said:

"violence is the incompetent's action of last resort" or words to that effect

hitting someone in those circumstances is inexcusable and walking is the choice of the stronger, more mature person

most women know a gentleman will not hit a woman and it is a real coward who will hit someone who knows they won't hit them back

someday she will slap someone who will turn around and deck her, perhaps then she will learn it is inexcusable behavior

 

[MODELMAN]

My father taught me to never, EVER, hit a woman. Not under any circumstances. A woman is to be treated with respect and dignity. I s'pose there are exceptions to that rule, but I have never had an occassion where I thought it necessary to hit, slap or otherwise harm a woman. That said, a woman should refrain from hitting a man, unless he is in the act of assaulting her, etc. (obvious exceptions). As a man, I would never hit a woman, and would expect the same in return, as I could not hit back.

Modelman

 

[juniper]

I'm pretty much of a practical person about this kind of scenario. I wouldn't hit back in a bar because I'd probably be jumped by other guys and I might get in trouble with the police. On the other hand, if it were a private locale, it would depend on the circumstances. I'd probably hold her hands tightly and somewhat roughly just to let her know I wasn't about to accept her hitting behaviour. If she continued, I'd take more drastic action but always the minimal. Of course, if she stirred my anger up I know I could get out of hand, too. Best to depart (if it's not your own home) and leave her to consider her actions. I'd want to consider whether she's someone I'd ever like to see again.

 

[HankQuinlan]

Only if you are at risk of serious injury and there is NO other alternative. How often is that likely to happen? It doesn't sound like it was La Femme Nikita out for your life. Men just do not hit women; that's the way it is.

 

[ilovejenny]

It's equality for women, so I'd normally deck her like any man.... except that she's weaker, so I'd give her a warning first like - hey bitch you better step away or I'm going to deck you! For a man, there would be no warning.

 

[summerbreeze]

by the way, the woman who slapped you is guilty of assault

pressing charges is the other possibility

 

[vancity_cowboy]

i'm not saying what i would do because it would depend a lot on the circumstances. but i will say that i would never strike a lady; however, i seriously differentiate between the term 'lady' and the term 'woman'...

 

[GinaElite]

I was in a club full of chauchy guidos

mmmmm chauchy guidos? care to tell me what club you were at ? :d

I think you were the bigger person for sure good for you she probably looked like a real idiot. She probably went home with one of those "chauchy guidos" and then they probably never called her the next day. Take comfort in that ... KARMA! xo

XO GINA XO

 

[Horse99]

It's just another one of the things women can do, that men can't......so much for equality. Besides, it's very unlikely that a women's slap is ever going to harm you, but a punch from a 200lb man, is going to do some serious face re-arrangement to her.

 

[HubbaHubba]

a man should never hit a woman unless she is stronger than him

i know of one married couple. the chick is so fucking tough she could throw her man across the room. If that man was to hit his wife----and good luck with THAT----nobody would see that as a problem.

similar to huny's situation (except no woman would marry him)...but there isn't a 110 pound woman on the planet who couldn't knock the sh*t out of him.

 

[HubbaHubba]

why are you sensoring the word shit. How old are you---seriously? Something tells me that 110lb woman could knock the shit out of both of you. I have decided.

I have decided...see other thread.

 

[threepeat]

No, never okay to hit a woman.

It wasn't okay that she slapped you either but two wrongs don't make a right. I would have got her kicked out if I were you.

I agree with Ingrid. Never okay for a man to hit a woman, but never okay for a woman to hit a man either. But two wrongs don't make a right.

 

[Mr.Boggo]

A slap, forget it, not worth the trouble. If she keeps coming, hold her back. If she gets serious and you think she may actually be able to hurt you, stop her. If that takes force, than knock her on her ass.

Let me be clear, I'd NEVER hit a woman under normal circumstances, but if I think I'm might get hurt, when it comes to my well being or some crazed person, male or female, I'd do whatever is in my means to preserve myself...and don't give me this a woman could never hurt a guy. You don't have to be 180 lbs to hurt someone if you hit the right places (eyes, groin, knees, temple).

 

[SuperGrover]

I would have spit on her and then walked away.

 

[mistressfreyja]

I've always felt angered by violence against women.

But, a real fact is that many women are abusive to men, and count on the 'code' for men to not hit them back.

I think violence is violence, regardless of the sex it results from. Or nationality, or religion, etc. It's not OK for anyone to engage in. Violence begats violence.

 

[Papa Chongo]

You make a good point MF, I would like to add the following, not sure if it was already said, but here's my two cents

NEVER NEVER NEVER, a woman hits a man, it stings, at most it bruises, a man hit a woman and things break, regardless of size men are much stronger than the average woman.

I worked as a doorman for years, I had drinks in the face, slaps, claws, and even the odd closed fist, I can say that I have never hit a woman....

well, except for that drunken night when a lady decided to have fun with me and engage me in a slapfight, I was pretty hammered and ended up punching her in the chin, she forgave me, we went home together and we dated for a few months

 

[Cock Throppled]

Why should women be allowed to assault men without being hit back as long as the response is equal to the original hit? Even courts back that up.
Women are capable of doing serious damage no matter their size.
If a woman chooses to get physical and hit someone she should run the risk of getting hit back.
Don't start something if you can't finish.

 

[Mr.Boggo]

Why should women be allowed to assault men without being hit back as long as the response is equal to the original hit? Even courts back that up.
Women are capable of doing serious damage no matter their size.
If a woman chooses to get physical and hit someone she should run the risk of getting hit back.
Don't start something if you can't finish.

I agree, I'm not saying you thrash the shit outta her, but do enough to neutralize the threat to your own safety. Granted, the average woman probably won't be able to injure a man, but not every man is 6-4, 230 lbs, and not every woman is 5-3 150 lbs. It depends on the situation and the likelihood of you getting injured.