Free Lunch?
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That’s how some friendships are made. It depends on your personality. I can make friends easily.
[/QUOTE]Instead of "non-billable" time, I just go by a half rate. So if your rate is $200/hr for example, I'd say to make it clear that outside of the bedroom a $100/hr rate is indeed necessary so there's no blurring of lines. Good point made a few posts up. You are not just any girl. You are an SP. Your company is what costs money, period.[/QUOTE]
What kind of loser would pay a woman $100.00/hour on top of the cost of a lunch just for the "pleasure" of her company?... I don't have any problem finding friends (male and female) to accompany me for dining and I can guarantee you that the conversations with them would be far more enriching than with most of the SP's I've met. Think about it... is it really the company that costs the money or is it the fact that you can have anonymous, no-strings attached sex?... I think the answer is pretty clear.
Bottom line?... if the SP can't stomach the company of a guy who's buying her lunch, then don't do it... go buy your own lunch... if it takes an hour to eat and you could do it alone and pay for it or do it with someone else and have it paid for most would choose the latter.
What kind of loser would pay a woman $100.00/hour on top of the cost of a lunch just for the "pleasure" of her company?... I don't have any problem finding friends (male and female) to accompany me for dining and I can guarantee you that the conversations with them would be far more enriching than with most of the SP's I've met. Think about it... is it really the company that costs the money or is it the fact that you can have anonymous, no-strings attached sex?... I think the answer is pretty clear.
Bottom line?... if the SP can't stomach the company of a guy who's buying her lunch, then don't do it... go buy your own lunch... if it takes an hour to eat and you could do it alone and pay for it or do it with someone else and have it paid for most would choose the latter.
wow!
Myself I rather enjoy when a gentlemen accompanies me for dinner or lunch.who would not like a nice dinner at the keg also if the guy is a gentlemen and treating me like a lady and were both having a great time,who cares if you dont get compensated for the one hour.after supper if your both happy i,m sure the guy will want desert!I myself would rather have repeat bussiness then worry about an hour of my time..just wanted to add my 2 cents,hugs and lots of kisses XOXOXO Sharah XOXOXO
Myself I rather enjoy when a gentlemen accompanies me for dinner or lunch.who would not like a nice dinner at the keg also if the guy is a gentlemen and treating me like a lady and were both having a great time,who cares if you dont get compensated for the one hour.after supper if your both happy i,m sure the guy will want desert!I myself would rather have repeat bussiness then worry about an hour of my time..just wanted to add my 2 cents,hugs and lots of kisses XOXOXO Sharah XOXOXO
hmmm...personally i don't accept losers as clients or friends...when i have done social escorting it is due to the fact that the gentleman (usually from out of town) requires someone to attend a function with him...calling me is a great deal simpler than trying to find a conventional date...conversation with me is usually rather stimulating and often enlightening by the way...
Well
I have been seeing a client for years that figures a dinner or lunch out for free, ( mind you he pays), is all good.
I had to sever the ties. He still calls but mind you it's for intimate relations.
I told him I would rather him spend for an hour together romantically, that way I can put food in my house instead of one $30 entre.
I hope some of the smart girls can agree with me on this one.
I have 3-4 hour appointments, this including dinner. Which I mean I do charge for dinner, but at a reduced rate, ( I might add is for the hour of the dinner time). I drive all over the city to see these men, my time, my gas.
A guy has to have alot of nerve to think that any sp's time is free.
As Miss January said they hadn't been in contact for awhile.
But communication is important, make sure you are asking if it just a friendly luncheon or a biz transaction.
As for some of you men that think it is all good to take an SP away from her busiest time (noon) to have lunch. Nope! We are all capable of feeding ourselves, paying bills, taking care of children and of course, don't forget taking care of you guys too.
That is why our time can be precious. Holly
I have been seeing a client for years that figures a dinner or lunch out for free, ( mind you he pays), is all good.I had to sever the ties. He still calls but mind you it's for intimate relations.
I told him I would rather him spend for an hour together romantically, that way I can put food in my house instead of one $30 entre.
I hope some of the smart girls can agree with me on this one.
I have 3-4 hour appointments, this including dinner. Which I mean I do charge for dinner, but at a reduced rate, ( I might add is for the hour of the dinner time). I drive all over the city to see these men, my time, my gas.
A guy has to have alot of nerve to think that any sp's time is free.
As Miss January said they hadn't been in contact for awhile.
But communication is important, make sure you are asking if it just a friendly luncheon or a biz transaction.
As for some of you men that think it is all good to take an SP away from her busiest time (noon) to have lunch. Nope! We are all capable of feeding ourselves, paying bills, taking care of children and of course, don't forget taking care of you guys too.
That is why our time can be precious. Holly
I think that most guys just don't know what to think, as we are not mind readers. I think it is simple enough that if you feel that way, let him know and he can make a decision if he wants to still join you for lunch or not.
My regular SP has lunch with me occasionally and has gone out to events with me a few times. I asked her how much she wanted for the time and she said that it was not necessary. That was her choice and I asked her a number of times. I have always said to her that I never want to take advantage of our friendship/business arrangement and if she feels that I am, I expect her to tell me. We're all adults here and if we can't talk about it, then we can't solve the problem.
I think that if you are up front and honest, you will get an honest response. If you're upset about it, then you should have said something from the beginning as I think most of their intentions are good. Just remember how long the guy had to work to be able to pay you $200-$300 per hour. Most people do not make that amount tax free. I can appreciate that you find your time valuable, but please COMMUNICATE it as men are sometimes a bit dense. Set out the parameters and you will not run into this problem. You should have set this out the FIRST time he asked you for lunch.
My regular SP has lunch with me occasionally and has gone out to events with me a few times. I asked her how much she wanted for the time and she said that it was not necessary. That was her choice and I asked her a number of times. I have always said to her that I never want to take advantage of our friendship/business arrangement and if she feels that I am, I expect her to tell me. We're all adults here and if we can't talk about it, then we can't solve the problem.
I think that if you are up front and honest, you will get an honest response. If you're upset about it, then you should have said something from the beginning as I think most of their intentions are good. Just remember how long the guy had to work to be able to pay you $200-$300 per hour. Most people do not make that amount tax free. I can appreciate that you find your time valuable, but please COMMUNICATE it as men are sometimes a bit dense. Set out the parameters and you will not run into this problem. You should have set this out the FIRST time he asked you for lunch.
What to do?
I just got off the phone with one of our local SP and she has invited me out for coffee. I am assuming that she is buying the coffee, but how much is my time worth?
I just got off the phone with one of our local SP and she has invited me out for coffee. I am assuming that she is buying the coffee, but how much is my time worth?
Hmmm... most of the discussion on this board has to do with paying someone for the pleasure of thier company... if all we were looking for was a warm, wet hole to stick something in, well, suffice to say, that could be had for much less than $200+ per hour.
Its **all** about the pleasure of her compamy, or the company of her pleasure, in my eyes. Most pooners don't spend the full time with an sp going hot and heavy, pounding at the hole. So the "loser" is paying $200+ per hour simply for the pleasure of her company...
If the SP is an intelligent, insightful conversationalist, there's no doubt that spending quality time with her is well worth a partial rate. Especially if it ends up being "foreplay" or allows someone to impress others with the quality of their companionship (arm candy).
But if slammin it to the bitch is all yer about, then hey, you probably are right. You wouldn't get any value out of quality time spent with a quality lady. Hang out at the Mount Royal, or cruise Main... now there's value pooning for ya.
Rubin
(at my age, its not about quantity, but quality...)
Best thing in my opinion is....
...talk to each other?? Lay your cards on the table what is free so to speak and what is not. Hey we are all human.
...talk to each other?? Lay your cards on the table what is free so to speak and what is not. Hey we are all human.
That is more of a business approach in my view. Many people take me out for lunch because they value me as a client. We sometime talk business and other times its a 'just to get to know you better' lunch. From thier POV, its just good advertizing.Myself I rather enjoy when a gentlemen accompanies me for dinner or lunch.who would not like a nice dinner at the keg also if the guy is a gentlemen and treating me like a lady and were both having a great time,who cares if you dont get compensated for the one hour.after supper if your both happy i,m sure the guy will want desert!I myself would rather have repeat bussiness then worry about an hour of my time..just wanted to add my 2 cents,hugs and lots of kisses XOXOXO Sharah XOXOXO
Many sp's spend $$$ advertizing, if a client, and it should only be a regular one, says "Hey I'd like to tip you and buy you a lunch" If she is not booked at that time, why not?? Its just good PR, and free advertizing and maintaining a good relationship.
However if someone hasn't seen you for a while that different, its a date in my view. The basic question is Is he asking you out because he wants to treat YOU?? Or is he asking you out because he want to treat himself.
I Value my Clients!
But in our business with some of the men we deal with, no shows, phone calls wasting time, or thinking that we are here to date.
I have great relationships with many of my clients that do respect my time.
I'm sure not going to call up a client and invite him out for lunch or dinner. I'm not here for PR. Only the discreet hour or 2 or 3 get away.
Discretion assured is the saying is it not?
Sure you may go out with client's yourself, but are these clients BEAUTIFUL BUSTY WOMAN? Probably not.
Probably few guys in the same line of work, which I'm sure is on an expense account,or do I stand corrected? That can discuss business together. Wives at home trusting. No sneaking around with a woman in our caliber.
Think a bit about who you just quoted and what you are trying to say.
I completely agree with Miss January, and have emphathy with her mishap.
My 2 cents,, have a great night,,xoxo Holly
But I have to disagree. You may consider what you do for a living, having a lunch good PR.
But in our business with some of the men we deal with, no shows, phone calls wasting time, or thinking that we are here to date.
I have great relationships with many of my clients that do respect my time.
I'm sure not going to call up a client and invite him out for lunch or dinner. I'm not here for PR. Only the discreet hour or 2 or 3 get away.
Discretion assured is the saying is it not?
Sure you may go out with client's yourself, but are these clients BEAUTIFUL BUSTY WOMAN? Probably not.
Probably few guys in the same line of work, which I'm sure is on an expense account,or do I stand corrected? That can discuss business together. Wives at home trusting. No sneaking around with a woman in our caliber.
Think a bit about who you just quoted and what you are trying to say.
I completely agree with Miss January, and have emphathy with her mishap.
My 2 cents,, have a great night,,xoxo Holly
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I hae had two experiences that relate to this subject
The first was a visit from a touring lady. We made an appointment for her first day and i asked if she was not busy was she interested in lunch the nest day. i emphasized that if she something going on to do that but also I was not her companion fee. If that was not ok, acceptable but if she just wanted to get a break ok too. she and I and her friend went out had a great time and they went on to their own schedule.
the second time was when I called a touring lady a day before to see if she was avaible the next evening . she and I had several meetings. She was not busy at the time I requested and suggested that since she had no appts after perhaps we might go for a drink after our session . We did go for that drink and it happenned that she insisted on paying for the couple of drinks we had. for that I will never forget her gesture.
I suppose it is in the understanding before the get together not in the surprise on either party. i am prety sure that January is very reasonable based on what i have heard of her and is not trying to be anything other than not being taken advantage of
Just my thoughts
The first was a visit from a touring lady. We made an appointment for her first day and i asked if she was not busy was she interested in lunch the nest day. i emphasized that if she something going on to do that but also I was not her companion fee. If that was not ok, acceptable but if she just wanted to get a break ok too. she and I and her friend went out had a great time and they went on to their own schedule.
the second time was when I called a touring lady a day before to see if she was avaible the next evening . she and I had several meetings. She was not busy at the time I requested and suggested that since she had no appts after perhaps we might go for a drink after our session . We did go for that drink and it happenned that she insisted on paying for the couple of drinks we had. for that I will never forget her gesture.
I suppose it is in the understanding before the get together not in the surprise on either party. i am prety sure that January is very reasonable based on what i have heard of her and is not trying to be anything other than not being taken advantage of
Just my thoughts
Weird
It's weird you guys mention this but at least two visiting SPs wanted me to hangout with them after they stop taking calls. Both times, I politely decline with some lame ass excuses, which makes me feel kinda of guilty. I am pretty sure both were just lonely...
Both SPs were exceptionally hot, but I think it would be hard to explain to a friend or co-worker, who was that D-cup chick you were dining with last night.
It's weird you guys mention this but at least two visiting SPs wanted me to hangout with them after they stop taking calls. Both times, I politely decline with some lame ass excuses, which makes me feel kinda of guilty. I am pretty sure both were just lonely...
Both SPs were exceptionally hot, but I think it would be hard to explain to a friend or co-worker, who was that D-cup chick you were dining with last night.
