Dealing with the nerves

[cooljayhu]

I'll start this off by explaining my situation.

I'm a young guy (almost 22) so I kinda feel like a bit of an outsider at least in this type of community, where (at least to my knowledge) most guys are a bit older and most providers are not as comfortable with guys closer to their age. I am not rook but still pretty green in terms of this "hobby" (only a few sessions thus far). Recently after a few month hiatus from pooning I am thinking about booking with an SP that I have had my eye since I started over a year ago (who the SP is is not the point). The problem I am having is that I can't overcome my nerves to contact her (I felt like this before my previous sessions but not as bad). The most troubling part is that I don't ever get nervous (at least not like this).

It's not that I am nervous of getting caught or that it is wrong or anything like that (in fact if I had my way it would be legalized). It is more due to the fact that I am pretty self-concious about my physical appearance. While I am not the hunchback of notre dame, I'm not exactly what any girl would look for in terms of attractiveness. I'm overweight, but not obese and as stated before I am quite a bit younger than the average client. The people that know me consider me to be funny, kind, mature, and smart (albeit shy) but I always feel that people judge me by my looks (at least until they get to know me better)

In all likelyhood this will be my last session, but I really don't want to be stressed out about it. So my question is has anyone ever felt this way or I am just freaking out about nothing? How did you deal with it?

 

[Harmony-bc]

I think any escort will just love you to itsy, bitsy pieces

We love kind, humorous, gentle clients regardless of the age.

How you look should never come into the equation.

If you send her an email like you just wrote, she'd be an idiot to have a problem seeing you. I think escorts who care about a clients looks beyond hygiene are in the wrong line of work.

 

[CLIT COMMANDER]

Confidence brother be yourself!

hey cooljahu

the nervous feeling is good. i get it too but its the anticipation and its kinda fun. like teh feeling you get when your climbing the hill on the roller coaster.

woman love confidence! be confident about WHO YOU ARE not what you look like. remember these woman are professionals! do you really think they haven't seen everything in terms of looks, size, shape, age etc?

they love it when men are sweet and kind! treat them like a lady and life will be sweet! if you find one you like to see and you both enjoy your time together then see her more often! just ask her if she wants to see you again!woman and men become more relaxed and comfortable when they are more familiar with each other so relax and enjoy yourself!

dr. clit commander

 

[Bare_Facts]

I'm usually a bit nervous when meeting a lady for the first time, but not nearly as nervous as you appear to be. As for advice, I think as long as you treat the ladies well they won't have a problem with your age.

Generally I think the ladies prefer men older than themselves because they feel they will be treated better than by the younger guys. As you read the board you will see that a lot of the guys place the lady's attitude as important as looks or even more so. I am guessing that it is the same for the ladies with respect to the guy's attitude.

Just my 0.02.

 

[summerbreeze]

a tip for you about rejection and sp's

its pretty much a sure thing, so go for it

 

[FortunateOne]

a tip for you about rejection and sp's

its pretty much a sure thing, so go for it

This is true: Unlike square girls, you ask them out, and they say yes. Not too complicated.

 

[blazejowski]

Sort of a strange solution for you...

When you book an SP, don't go for the "goddess" type - aka someone who you would never dream would ever have sex with you in a million years - that's not saying you should pick up some old hag off the street, but a girl who's considered more "average" might make you feel a little less nervous, and when you start gaining confidence around women, swing for the fence...

I know this is going to offend some of the girls, but I'm just trying to suggest something for the poor guy...

 

[zzari]

yeah i get this nervousness too.

but im also concerned about SP when they are the same race as me....it is SO awkward that I dare not hit SP that is same race as me.

also are SP's okay and confident with the service they are giving? because i mean i kinda have a fear that a SP might break up emotionally and i might have to deal with that in the middle of a session....i know its extreme, but sometimes i get it when SP is in their 20.

 

[FortunateOne]

also are SP's okay and confident with the service they are giving? because i mean i kinda have a fear that a SP might break up emotionally and i might have to deal with that in the middle of a session....i know its extreme, but sometimes i get it when SP is in their 20.

I have never seen a comment like this before. Are you accustomed to seeing sps who have been tricked into this biz and are locked in the room? That is about the only sort of scene that I can imagine this happening.

If this scenario is something that concerns you, just see sps who are 25+, advertise independently not thru an agency or part of a group, and call them up to talk before booking. You should be able to calm these worries thru conversation.

 

[cooljayhu]

Thanks

Thanks everyone, I guess I just needed a little bit of reassurance if you will. I can't exactly talk something like this over with friends and family.

 

[emilioa4]

hey man. just chill out about all this. i been doing this hobby since i was 18! so i am going on to 13 years in this hobby. it is the same for me now as it is day one, so just get on over to the SP that you want and do it. thats what they are there for, for you to have a fun time with. i am averaging 2 visits per week ( never less, sometimes more) so thats approx 1300 visits i have made (wow thats a lot, almost like gene simmons!! also well over 300large, ouch!) so man, just dive into it, forget about how you look, just make sure you are nice, clean and polite ok? enjoy your time with her, especially if you say this may be your only and last trip.