Its a bad experience, no doubt. That is what we don't expect in life. Some years ago I placed an add for my cat, trying to find a new loving home. I got a phone call, from very nice sounding gentleman, who asked me all the details about it, then smoothly drifted into describing how he would love to stretch it and skin it alive. I told him is this all you've got? Couldn't you more? He hang up on me. And eventually I found a great place for my cat.
By any stretch please do not accuse me of drawing parallels. Im writing this to point out that drawing parallels can be not a good idea. The 'women should not change, man should' statement is cruel and harmful. I disagree with such a generalized opinion, wholeheartedly. It transpires dissolution and prejiduce. A bias. There are mamy great man out there. And many bad. There are many great women, and there are also those that aren't as great. Such generalizing solutions in these matters are narrow-minded and because they are base on misunderstanding the realities and dynamics in the real cruel world, aimed at idealistic utopia as a goal, they create harm by misdirection weak minds.
There was a discussion about the women's right just to tell some random guy to fuck off. Tell him you didn't follow my rules so fuck off. The woman saying this has rules, is independent, strong, and would not any man or a woman to tell her to adjust and change to please anyone else. That would include a cru from some man complaining women should change.
In a solar way, the opposite works in a very similar way. Man do not deserve to be judged as root of all evil and told to change. Man are not all bad. Same with women. We are all a mix of characters, and there are good and bad in this play all over the spectrum. On top of that, a mature escort and a person would know that there are bad seeds out there. You put yourself knowingly out there, into the wild. You don't make the rules, really. The wild world does. The only safe place would be to stay away from risking lifestyles, and being an escort is high risk profession, or hobby, and ut would be naive to assume such threatening calls are not a part of it. And its not the man's burden to eliminate this. Creeps are all over the place. I assume you weren't born yesterday.
Final note, please, don't tip the guilt on one side. Don't generalize at grandiose scale. Its unfair to many great compassionate man. Many who are sensitive and care. Many who suffered abuse at the hands of women, but don't blame the opposite sex for their sufferings. Learn and become smarter. No need to demonize. Life is a thing that includes unpleasant things. Its your choice how much you want to eliminate the obvious amount of this, and how much you are willing to risk. To get what you need or want, at it. You can alway opt out. What I said gives nobody any excuses, but decency is not a thing you can buy paying by the pound. What can you do about it? Blame isnot a solution.
