This thread has taken on quite a life
Wow, I feel several thank-yous are in order—to some beautiful people who’ve shed light on a topic that seems to trouble not just me alone.
GENTL-MAN, good to know I’ve a kindred spirit out there, with a terrific sense of humor, whose thoughts on the joys and tribulations of this amazing hobby always resonate with me.
KELLI, thanks for a glimpse from the “opposite” side of the sleepover equation. It tells me I need to allay my SP's fears that I expect “sex, more sex, more sex...” Next time maybe you, too, might want to clarify the guy’s expectations beforehand. In the light of your post, here’s what I might say to her: “I want you to know, I expect sex just once or twice maximum. If you’re not too tired, perhaps we can try before falling asleep, and hopefully after we wake up. Is that okay?”
ISABELLE, kudos for speaking your mind bluntly. I like your sobering thought:
When you are paying her for "social time" what you are paying for is for her to feign interest in you
As your experience shows, an overnighter is a potential nightmare...not only due to sexual miscommunication but also “sleeping incompatibility.” But it's encouraging that posted overnights rates are often negotiable for clients with whom a sufficient level of comfort has been established (though I imagine haggling about this could also easily become awkward).
Frankly, though, I was surprised that you—a no-nonsense provider with tons of experience—should allow any male of the species to make you sleep in a contorted position that put out your back, rather than taking charge in a relaxed way while asserting your right to be comfortable. (BTW, a very affordable massage place I enjoy visiting, where a non-sexual body massage costs just $37, is Big Feet at 7950 Granville/604 266 6080.)
OCEANIC, you're impressively perceptive about internal politics at an AMP—I’ve begun to notice rivalries among providers myself. As you suggest, I’ve decided simply to offer her five browns and let her take it or leave it.
AULD BALL, you seem to be the definitive voice of authority. I agree that money by itself rarely guarantees the best possible time with an SP unless we can also establish a bit of conversational and emotional rapport. I thank you for helping me realize that making the donation partly dependent on how often we end up having sex is a terrible idea.
I like your concept of “au natural” service, which I take it means just going with the spontaneous flow of things, without imposing any kind of preset plan. It’s also interesting to me that you get offers for extended services from your SPs without asking; you must be quite the suave Mr. Irresistible (I mean that sincerely). And it’s sad for me to hear that, even with SPs, familiarity breeds contempt—one of the main reasons why I’ve personally resolved to shun the world of monogamous commitment... You say even SPs often begin to treat their regulars with disrespect: I wonder how common this experience is among pooners?
Thanks a lot for all the informed contributions to make this a helpful, meaningful thread.
